GTR King Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 Ok So I have a first date on Saturday 3pm at a Weatherspoons Pub (National Chain in the U.K) for few drinks. She gave me a WTF moment Me: No Problem :) how will I easily spot you? xxxxx Her: I be at the kingfisher doors with gym stuff on xxxx Me: So you will be wearing GYM stuff?? xxxx Her: Yes i like gym stuff u ? Xxxx is it odd to rock up on a first date in GYM gear?? (We doing no GYM Activities) Never had this happen before
RecentChange Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 Ha! "Athletic casual" - a fast growing segment of the American apparel market - aka "yoga pants". Umm, yeah to me it seems that showing up for a first date in spandex'y stuff is a little.... No effort? I might sneak off to the grocery store wearing exercise clothes, but would never consider it for a first date. 2
Marc878 Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 Sounds like she’s either a big casual dresser type or doesn’t have a serious interest in this date. id wear casual but not gym stuff. dating is a try out so you’ll know more after. if there’s no mutual interest I’d dump quick and move on.
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 She may be a sporty girl who prefers sweats to other clothes. There are nice sweats & the stuff that makes you look like a hot mess. If she is otherwise neat & clean rather than looking like a slob, get to know her. You can address wardrobe issues later. Unless you are the type that never leaves the house without wearing a jacket & tie, it shouldn't be that much of an issue. If she is sloppy or smelling, chug your pint & move along
alphamale Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 a solid coloured button down shirt with long sleeves, ironed. go with a nice pair of well fitting dockers and for shoes wear a nice polished black pair of shoes. 1
alphamale Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 5 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: She may be a sporty girl who prefers sweats to other clothes. like sporty spice?
Ruby Slippers Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 I'd cancel. What kind of loser wears gym clothes on a first date? 4 1
Lotsgoingon Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Are you sure she's wasn't pulling your leg?
snowboy91 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 The dress code for a first date is a really hard one to pick - I think it's somewhat dependent on where you actually go for that date. But even so, you still want to present yourself well. Even though it's only Wetherspoons and not a high class bar or restaurant, I think it would still warrant something a little better than gym gear. I'd show up wearing the kind of dress standard you would expect on a first date at Wetherspoons and see if she feels underdressed. Her reaction may tell you what you need to know... 1
some_username1 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 That would be an improvement on the shapeless tat that my dates wear! I really don’t get why, on a first date, if you’ve got a great figure you wouldn’t try and show it off a little bit. It’s a date not a bloody Netflix TV marathon session. So if she’s showing off her figure then I’ll give her credit for that at least. But as an aside no offence meant OP but if you’re taking her to a Wetherspoons you can’t really complain as that is the venue equivalent of wearing gym clothes to a first date. It’s minimal effort. She might have worked out the pub you mentioned was a Wetherspoons and decided to dress accordingly. I would tell her I’ve changed the venue to a more up market bar and see if she changes her mind on her attire. She would have some front to turn up at a classy bar in gym wear.
Happy Lemming Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 33 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: What kind of loser wears gym clothes on a first date? I'd have to agree with you, Ruby... I mean make some kind of effort. I'm not saying she needs to be in a ballroom gown, but what would be wrong with the standard "little black dress"... simple, easy and goes anywhere. 3
preraph Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 (edited) I think I would have considered cancelling the date. Good grief. Gym stuff to a first date. If your first date isn't a gym, this is just lazy and that's what you have to look forward to. For a pub, even newish jeans and a feminine blouse would be just great and just as comfy as slobby gym clothes. Ugh. Edited February 6, 2020 by preraph 2
Miss Spider Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 What do all the x’s at the end mean? This is a little weird to me. If she said she was coming from the gym or something it’d be a tiny less weird, but still... The bar is so low now...
Erik30 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Maybe she was joking? Seems like it could be sarcastic humor
Ellener Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 I live in Texas, when it gets to 90 degrees plus, we don't give a crap what we're wearing, it all gets super-casual even in fancier places a lot of times. Wetherspoons as a first date isn't exactly classy either; honestly- go with an open mind, don't pre-judge based on such trivial things. I like that she works out, that she's confident, that she's into casual and comfortable. I went to a classical music concert earlier in what could be called gym clothes, after a wander in the park with my dog, plus a fleece jacket over the top since it went super-cold again here. No one generally cares what we wear so long as it's clean. Unless it's a sales convention or wedding or funeral or something. 1
Mrin Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Mmmm I live in the mountains of Colorado. Athletic attire is sort of the norm around here. And depending what she is wearing she might look pretty hot. And you'll get a good sense of her figure. Lol. 1
Malin889 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 The real question is, how does she know 3 days in advance what she’ll be wearing?! I barely know the day of.
Author GTR King Posted February 6, 2020 Author Posted February 6, 2020 Wearing GYM Clothes to a first date shows that you either CBA to make an effort or feel comfortable turning up in something that’s not smart. i don’t know the town we are meeting in so let her choose where we meet. She works Part time in WHSmiths (U.K shop) & as a Personal Trainer at the GYM 1
stillafool Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 People just don't seem to care anymore what they look like anymore. I would never wear gym clothes on a first date. If you are trying to show off your figure there are better ways to do it. A simple dress or skirt and blouse is more feminine anyway. I've seen so many black and grey yoga pants lately and they don't look fresh.
Fletch Lives Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Hot women can dress the way they like, they can get away with murder! 1
clia Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 5 hours ago, GTR King said: Wearing GYM Clothes to a first date shows that you either CBA to make an effort or feel comfortable turning up in something that’s not smart. i don’t know the town we are meeting in so let her choose where we meet. She works Part time in WHSmiths (U.K shop) & as a Personal Trainer at the GYM Well, this is important information. Sounds like she's coming straight from work. I expect she isn't going to look like a slob; they make some really cute gym clothes nowadays. Go and see what happens. I'm not familiar with the place you are going, but sounds like it's pretty casual.
stillafool Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 I hope she at least takes a shower first at the gym before she meets you.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 I had a date once where I showed up casual and the lady met me in her work-out clothes. It was a first meet at a coffee shop. We wanted to meet sooner than later, so we agreed to meet after her workout. She was not at her best, but she didn't need to be. Not for a first meet. She looked amazing and we dated for some time afterwards where she was more 'appropriately' dressed. Like some have said, you could reschedule. That simple. It doesn't mean that she is not interested, but it may mean that she is not going to change her routine for this first meet. 1
SabreTeeth Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 It's very possible she's coming from work. I work with livestock (horses & cattle). I've gone on 1st dates straight from the barns (showered, of course). Old worn jeans & an old looks like it was on the back of some chair for ages (which it usually is) shirt, hair a mess, and 'cowboy' boots. Being near a reasonably sized town/city I look like a 'country bumpkin'. Think I care? Not one whit. That's my job & passion and if a guy gets offended about clothes of all things (old saying, clothes don't make the man) in a casual setting well it'll likely be his one & only date. 1
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