Kristine Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 I'm still dating PHD guy. He asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday. Haven't told mom that just told her why I like him and that I will continue dating him. He brought me lunch and flowers. 2 dozen roses. Red and yellow. He's just a wonderful guy. Makes me happy to be around him. Tells me I'm gorgeous, beautiful but not in the make me sick way. Because we talk about all kinds of subjects. He wants to take me on short business trip.
basil67 Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 Is it that mom doesn't approve of the guy you're seeing.....or is it that she doesn't approve of you dating when you've been so unstable? 1
Author Kristine Posted February 4, 2020 Author Posted February 4, 2020 I feel happy and in love. Mom finds issues with every guy. This one is too old and muslim. I'm Catholic he's not going to convert me I'm Catholic. My morman 3rd husband didn't convert me, and he was a salesman. He said he wouldn't convert me, but has also said he won't remarry. Mom is sometimes right but i feel like this guy is a great guy. He treats me well, motivates me to be healthier. I'm happy for now.
Miss Spider Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 We consider our parents opinions but ultimately have to choose our own path. You’re an adult. You like what you like 2
kendahke Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 Is your mom supporting you in any way? As in: do you live with her rent free? I"m unclear on why you just can't tell her what's up and just let her be mad/stay mad. 40 minutes ago, Kristine said: He said he wouldn't convert me, but has also said he won't remarry. Are you good with this relationship never progressing to marriage? 1
Author Kristine Posted February 4, 2020 Author Posted February 4, 2020 (edited) Well when I was like what never marry he said he could change his mind. He has also said he really loves me, wants us always to be happy together, hasn't been the case that were always happy, asked me to never leave him, I said I couldn't promise that. He was like proposing asking me to be his girlfriend. I thought but didn't say we aren't getting married here, you asked me to date only you. That I agreed to. I've struggled in that area because of outside pressure, but he asked and I promised i would only date him that i can promise. Not that I'd never leave him. Edited February 4, 2020 by Kristine
BaileyB Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 (edited) 10 minutes ago, kendahke said: Are you good with this relationship never progressing to marriage? If it does, it would be husband number four, if I’m reading this correctly... I’m another who thinks your focus should be on mental health, not dating, right now. I would like to say that your mother has your best interest at heart, but based on previous posts it sounds like you have a complicated and rather unhealthy codependent relationship. Regardless, you are an adult and you do not need your mother’s permission to date a man. Edited February 4, 2020 by BaileyB 1
kendahke Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 16 minutes ago, BaileyB said: If it does, it would be husband number four, Whoa!!!!!!
BaileyB Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 1 hour ago, Kristine said: My morman 3rd husband didn't convert me, and he was a salesman.
Ami1uwant Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 2 hours ago, Kristine said: I feel happy and in love. Mom finds issues with every guy. This one is too old and muslim. I'm Catholic he's not going to convert me I'm Catholic. My morman 3rd husband didn't convert me, and he was a salesman. He said he wouldn't convert me, but has also said he won't remarry. Mom is sometimes right but i feel like this guy is a great guy. He treats me well, motivates me to be healthier. I'm happy for now. You married 3ti Es snd fivorced three times? i think your picker is broken
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 You are happy for NOW. You married a Mormon 3rd. How long did that last, may I ask? Why did that end? This guy is Muslim, how much older? Of course he is not going to 'remarry' you. Some religious faiths are much more strict about whom they marry, but far less picky about who they temporarily date. Unless this guy is absolutely secular and is not 'religious', I feel that you need to keep your emotions/feelings in check for some time. Enjoy the dating and happy this guy is so flattering and makes you feel good, but this is relationship does not seem as straight forward as you may want. Good luck. 1
Author Kristine Posted February 4, 2020 Author Posted February 4, 2020 I had valid reasons for every divorce. I've been to therapy and worked on developing skills. This topic is not about my past. The 3rd was a con for your information. He destroyed my credit. I'm looking more at character less at superficial things.
Gaeta Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 2 weeks ago he broke up with you. Kristine: From your past 3 divorces you should have learn that it takes time to really get to know someone and dating them 2 years before marriage is the minimum required.
stillafool Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 What does your mom think of your last 3 husbands? She probably wants you to just stop dating at this point. 1
Els Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 You are, what, 40? Why does your mum's approval matter??? 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 11 hours ago, Kristine said: I had valid reasons for every divorce. I've been to therapy and worked on developing skills. This topic is not about my past. The 3rd was a con for your information. He destroyed my credit. I'm looking more at character less at superficial things. One's decision making process is typically revealed by one's past. I beg to differ this is not about your past. Whether you have learned from them or not, your past does affect how you make decisions in the present. Just be careful you are not falling into the same pattern. It is clear that the other posters know more about you than I. Good luck.
Interstellar Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 11 hours ago, Gaeta said: 2 weeks ago he broke up with you. Kristine: From your past 3 divorces you should have learn that it takes time to really get to know someone and dating them 2 years before marriage is the minimum required. Couldn’t agree more. Date them for two years then get married. Not in two months like these Hollywood celebrities, lol.
Author Kristine Posted February 6, 2020 Author Posted February 6, 2020 I talked to mom about his qualities and that he won't convert me, her biggest concern. She's ok with us dating now. She'll give him a chance.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 On 2/3/2020 at 5:37 PM, BaileyB said: If it does, it would be husband number four, if I’m reading this correctly... I don't think anything in the thread has validated your (mere guesswork) (all we know, per the OP, is > 3 )
scooby-philly Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 On 2/3/2020 at 8:08 PM, Cookiesandough said: We consider our parents opinions but ultimately have to choose our own path. You’re an adult. You like what you like especially for a fourth husband....rofl....dying....lmfao
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