xforeverlove25 Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 So about a month ago my ex broke up with me. And TBH it was my fault and I regret it.. And the first time we broke up he said: so give me a break and we'll give this another try in the future when we both heal because you broke me. After that I got drunk and spazzed out and that's when he decided to breakup because I never gave him space as he asked. At first I kept begging for a second chance (for 1.5 weeks I was in contact). He seemed persistent in his decision and said that I was too controlling and never gave him the space he asked for and things like that. After that I decided to go no contact and have been in no contact for 2.5 weeks now (since Jan.14th). He does not view my stories on snapchat but does look at them from time to time. Including today where he randomly looked. He also stopped using my Netflix for 2 weeks after the breakup but started using it again. Anyways today he posted a story at the club, i opened it right away. Then he posted another one (didn't open) and another one after that. He knows I low key don't like it when he goes out clubbing and I think he maybe posting these stories to make me jealous. The thing is he's been to the club several times and NEVER posted any stories but suddenly doing it today. Whenever he takes snapchat stories he posts the same ones on instagram (I deactivated my account a few weeks ago) but this time I asked my friend to check and he didn't (my account is still deactivated). So, he specifically posted them on snapchat. He hardly posts stories in the first place (maybe once a week). Do you think he's doing it to make me jealous? He posted one and I caved in and opened it 1 minute later, then he posted 2 more. Should I not view the rest under any circumstance or should i view them a long time later (so he doesn't think im too hurt to look or something like that)?
dramallama Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 I think you ought to stop torturing yourself trying to analyse his social media behaviour and take some time to work on the issues that caused him to break up with you in the first place. Take care. 4
schlumpy Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 The answer to your problem is to find someone new. You two are bringing out the worst in each other and that should tell you something. You like be in control? There's a guy out there that would like you to take the wheel. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 If you are still connected on social media you are not NC. If you are well & truly done with him, disconnect on social media & stop caring if he is in a club. This break up make up cycle you are on is unhealthy. 3
Gaeta Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 No, He's not doing it to make you jealous. He broke up, he wanted to free himself from you, now he's acting like any single man...because he's a single man. You need to remove him from your social media and move on with your life. 3 1
ExpatInItaly Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 7 hours ago, xforeverlove25 said: Should I not view the rest under any circumstance or should i view them a long time later (so he doesn't think im too hurt to look or something like that)? The above question is virtually irrelevant. It isn't what caused your relationship to fall apart (I'm assuming) and it's not going to make a lick of difference in bringing things back together again in any meaningful way, either. In other words, you're focusing on all the wrong things that don't matter much. What matters more are the issues that broke you two up in the first place - what happened there?
mortensorchid Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 Take him off your Netflix account, don't follow him on SnapChat or other social media. He wants space? Give it to him. That includes watching their social media activity. 2
smackie9 Posted February 1, 2020 Posted February 1, 2020 When a guy asks you for space, you being controlling and clingy is why. He's pretty much had enough of it tbh. I don't know if this is your nature or it's from his behavior, but well it's toxic anyways and you should just let it go. Stalking him on social media is not helping you at all. You gone cray cray. You have better things to do and one of them is forgetting about this guy. Treat yourself to a nice night out with your gfs...go out dancing and have fun being single again. 2
Malin889 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 How long were you together? And why doesn’t he have his own Netflix account? What happened when you “got drunk and spazzing out?”
Malin889 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Also, he’s not doing anything to make you jealous. he’s just going about living his life. Move on with your life and stop obsessing over his social media. You’re spending too much time thinking about him, and that’s not going to bring him back. Go out with friends, get involved with some hobbies, maybe even try to go out and get a new guy. And change your Netflix password so he can’t use it anymore. Just Move on. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Among what others have said, why does he still have access to your Netflix account??? You two are broken up and it 'seems' he is moving on, but you allowing him to use your account and following him on SM shows you are not. Change your Netflix password. No reason he should have access to free services at your expense. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Yes, he's doing all this ... and he might well be sleeping with various women casually. That's his right to do now that you guys are not in relationship. Also you right to post whatever you want and see whoever you want to see ... But him posting club photos ... as an attempt to make you jealous? ... You're sabotaging yourself by looking at his social media. Cut him off. Stop following him. Act like he does not exist. So you can move on.
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