Have you ever Dated a Russian girl.

[major_merrick]

5 hours ago, Gaeta said:

There is NOTHING submissive in Russian women. Yes they may be traditional but things in the relationship will go THEIR way and you'll be brought back on the path if you derail from the direction you're suppose to go. You need to understand the dynamic of society in Russia. The alcholism in men is sky-high, wives and children are abandonned most of the time. The mother raise their daughter to be strong and to not count on men, and to think very little of them. My ex-Russian--sister in law spent long evenings telling  me about Russian people and society and why Russian women are emotional, controling and volatile. 

I'm half Russian, and I identify with my Russian side much more than my German side.  And what's been said here is pretty much true.  We Russian girls tend to be difficult and stubborn.  I was raised to be very independent, as my father was an alcoholic and my mother was little better.  The Russian guys that I've met were not very impressive, so Russian girls are often happy to meet a man who will spoil them. 

Like most Russian girls I know, I tend to be emotional and volatile.  I am more likely to scream and throw things than I am to cry.  Your average Russian girl is probably more dominant and aggressive than you are used to.  But if your Russian girl really likes you, she will settle down.  Somewhat.  Your average Russian girl will believe that American women (and those of Western Europe as well) are dimwitted and weak, and will treat them as such.  This can cause conflict with your female relatives.  My mother-in-law dislikes me.  I'm the "bad blonde" or "that Russian" because I am not submissive and I will take her on.  My house, my kids, my way....challenge me at your peril.  If you have close female relatives who are part of your life, you might want to warn them. 

If you want a girl who is more traditional than most Western women and yet has the spirit to keep up with you, then you might do well with a Russian.  If you don't have enough energy for her, you will suffer.  Some Russian girls want to be pampered divas and wear expensive clothes.  Others are more practical.  I sometimes say that Russian girls come in two types - "slender model" and "sturdy peasant."  I tend more toward the "peasant" body type.  But even the sturdier Russian girls will take care of themselves, unlike American women who will eat McDonalds until they hit 300lbs. 

I'd encourage you to go meet the girl.  Worst that can happen is you find you don't like her or she doesn't like you.  But if you don't go, you'll never know.

[carhill]

Yep, my ancestors are from the Volga River region of Russia and the Russian doctor I dated was very strong willed and territorial. I was used to living on my own and doing normal chores but she'd swat me out of the kitchen and throw a few Russian cuss words my way for stealing her work. She had a teenage daughter at home and was recently a grandmother by her adult daughter when I met her.

Things have changed, FSU is more westernized now than 20-30 years ago but the basic cultural norms remain pretty similar. Remember, odd number of roses and don't forget the lady's mother. Bottle of local vodka for her father is fine. Expect he'll have you drinking half of it in one sitting. Russian men like their vodka and, while the women generally don't like alcoholics they do like men who can have some drinks and a good time.

[chillii]

6 hours ago, 5x5 said:

I'm not worried about Italians, having enjoyed a splendid 23+ year relationship with my very calm and sane Italian wife.

Really , that's great l'm happy for  ya. l do know they can also be beautiful people so l felt a bit guilty popping that in there. She sounds like one brothers wife , she's just gorgeous , the other two , ahhh.

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[albert35]

Thank you very much for valuable suggestions. 

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[albert35]

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[elaine567]

Russia is a very big and diverse country.
I very much doubt it is wise to generalise about "Russian women".

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[Gaeta]

1 minute ago, elaine567 said:

Russia is a very big and diverse country.
I very much doubt it is wise to generalise about "Russian women".

Every human being is unique but we are alike on several aspects when we share the same culture.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I am of similar culture. I can say that what I found difficult about Australian/American men and women is that they seem too cold to me. Too polite, too concerned in saying the right thing.

Russian women are very emotional and intense in general and this can be good and bad. They will be warm and loyal and love you passionately. Or they will be angry at you and hate you passionately. They are not afraid to speak up and are used to conflict. In fact conflict is considered normal and many Australian/Americans find the turmoil too much to handle. There is nothing submissive about them.

In my opinion, Asian women are a much better match for Australian/American culture. They are submissive and polite, the perfect wife. They will rarely cause arguments.

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[Miss Spider]

Hahaha all the Asian women ( my mother and her side of the family) I know have crazy tempers and are extra af. I’d say they all have their husbands beat into submission. xD Just thinking about ‘submissive’ and the Asian women that I know makes me laugh. I’m half Korean, though. Maybe that’s Japanese or something. 

[carhill]

28 minutes ago, Eternal Sunshine said:

Russian women are very emotional and intense in general and this can be good and bad. They will be warm and loyal and love you passionately.

Yes I noticed that generality too and don't recall any being anything close to 'submissive'. They were also more sexually aggressive than the American women I dated; however, there was a bit of a dichotomy as my time there wasn't long after the fall of Communism. They were pretty stoic and guarded in public Rarely smiled or laughed. No hand holding except maybe at night walking home; little to no public kissing.Totally different in private. I imagine that's changed in the interceding years. Back then they were apparently worried about who was watching, like government/party people. They'd constantly shush me if I was speaking English above a whisper in public. No hand talking either. Dark and invisible in public. I learned the simplicity of dressing in black

[chillii]

You can't generalize two completely different countries in men or women from the opposite sides of the world , they obviously didn't like you very much either ES. l see so many things in forums with Americans are nothing like Aust , and it's a good thing , countries and people should be different and it truly takes years and years in a close, real,  personal relationship and life before you can truly have any real idea or know a people. There's a huge difference between easy going happy relationships to submissiveness . And even then , maybe you only truly got to know that one, that one doesn't makath a whole people and a few weeks in the sack or scewing half the nation isn't truly knowing that one or anyone else. Some of the European women l've known and known well , lived with one 7yrs , were truly the worst women on the planet in most ways and worst gf's l ever had, wouldn't wish her on an enemy , same with another , won't mention nationality. But then there's the individual to take into account too , one person isn't the other. My wife was Aussie , 20yrs . She was happy go lucky and mostly a joy to be around with a killer humor and gorgeous personalty, and as smart as fk. She hated fighting or arguing but she had more depth and more true soul than just about anyone l've ever known. Things like that weren't why we didn't work out.

The surface , or a string of nothing flings and onto the next tells you nothing real , you just think it does. like anyone l talk to about Russians say they're the most miserable people on the planet , cold, never smile , hard , not happy, yet my woman and her family too actually are the opposite of that. And yeah she's passionate and beautifully warm , she has a temper too so what , l have a temper, l love her temper , love the way she;ll speak up or argue a point but it's only if she has to , there's a 100 things l could say , and mostly very very special , but eh , l only know two Russian women so l'm hardly an authority , couldn't pay me to be with a few others that l've just met though, terrible women, so who fkg knows , but l don't know them , but then l wouldn't want to either . l will say her sons Japanese wife is a nightmare , miserable , never happy,  talks at a whisper , doesn't have a sense of humor , get's angry for wks on end and she can be mean and cold as hell, and they're her good points , he has my sympathy let me tell ya , only 27 hate to think what he's dumped himself into , but eh , that's her , maybe she's only one.

But anyway .

 

 

 

 

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[elaine567]

We all know happy go lucky people, miserable people, smart people, stupid people, submissive people aggressive people.... etc. etc.
They live all around us whatever country we live in so why on earth would all  women in a specific country conform to some national stereotype?
Even sisters in the same family can be vastly different, same parents, same environment but they can be completely different in personality and temperament...

The problem with mail order brides and the like is that they are forced by poverty and other influences to be the "perfect" woman to suit the men willing to pay for them.
Who they really are is open to question, but no doubt will become apparent at some stage...

[thefooloftheyear]

No.,....in fact most take sooooo long to get ready....

TFY

[albert35]

After a lot of resaerch about russian girls i found that they are loyal and loving. so I have decided to fly Russia to met her.  Guys I'll update you about my trip. Thanks to all of you.

[chillii]

Hmm, they're beautifully deep and very complex women which l thrive on, well mine is anyway, but from what l read in forums American guys no way and you've only said 2 words all thread , not feeling a match myself butttt, upto you.

[5x5]

12 hours ago, albert35 said:

After a lot of resaerch about russian girls i found that they are loyal and loving. so I have decided to fly Russia to met her.  Guys I'll update you about my trip. Thanks to all of you.

Well I wish you luck for your trip, although I am concerned for you since you buy the idea that Russian women as a collective are loyal and loving.

I've personally known some Russian women, who have had no qualms about cheating at all. So if you think you are guaranteed more loyalty from Russian women, over any other nationality you are mistaken.

For your interest here is an extract from a piece published in The New York Times from 2007:

"In Russia, cheating is more of a relational problem than a moral violation. Nearly 40 percent of Russians said in a 1998 survey that cheating is “not at all” wrong or “only sometimes” wrong, compared with 6 percent of Americans. Psychologists in Moscow told me that if you live in a two-room apartment with your in-laws, as many Russians do, an affair is practically obligatory just to get relief from the constant bickering. 

There hasn’t been a national sex survey, but in a 1996 poll in St. Petersburg, about half of men and a quarter of women said they’d cheated during their current marriage."

There's plenty more to be found via the internet, on Russian women and infidelity if you care to look for it.

[major_merrick]

On 2/11/2020 at 12:14 PM, elaine567 said:

Russia is a very big and diverse country.
I very much doubt it is wise to generalise about "Russian women".

This is true.  There are a number of different people groups inside of Russia.  The Wikipedia article "Ethnic Groups In Russia" gives a list of 186+ different groups...if a girl has a specific heritage, you can find our more.

My heritage is more from the southern part.  "Caucasia" is the administrative term for the region, although what tribe or people my ancestors were all from isn't traceable at this point.  Hardy survivors.  Pale, blonde, fierce...untameable by the Ottomans, the Soviets, or the Nazis, if that gives you an idea.  

14 hours ago, albert35 said:

After a lot of resaerch about russian girls i found that they are loyal and loving. so I have decided to fly Russia to met her.  Guys I'll update you about my trip. Thanks to all of you.

Good choice.  I wish you well.  If you can handle some attitude, learn some of her language, and you are manly (in a good, stable way) so that she'll respect you, a Russian girl can indeed be loyal and loving. Looking forward to your update. 

[Hopeful30]

On 1/31/2020 at 11:16 AM, albert35 said:

I have met a Russian girl recently online. We are making conversation every day and we both interested to take a further step in our relation. Now we both have intend to meet and now we are planning for our first date. I want to meet her and spend some time with her and see how she is.  But am confused, because we are still kind of new to each other but it is a great connection we have going.

I'm thinking about flying over there to meet this girl. I've never been to the Russia and neither had a Russian girlfriend before. I’m not fully aware about Russian culture and Russian ladies. I am looking for some advices and want to know more about the Russian ladies.

Your advice would be greatly appreciated.

As a Russian myself, I can tell you that you need to follow your instincts on this one. Russian women are very intelligent, they know how to seduce and make you feel things you've never felt before. I have this power too, and in the past I've used it to take advantage of men. Consider asking her the following questions to get a better idea of her intentions:

1. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? (Is she using you to come to America? Does she have intentions to leave Russia?)

2. Do you have children? Previously married? (Is she running from something/someone?)

3. What is your financial situation like? (Could she be looking for financial prosperity through you? Or needing help from debt or loans?)

4. Ask about her previous relationship. The way she talks about it is a preview to how she sees relationships in general. Blame and judgement means she's not taking responsibility for the role she played in the dissolution of the relationship. If she speaks positively, considering the lessons and growth from it, then it's likely she's ready for a relationship at this time.

I am curious, where in Russia is she from? This can also tell a lot about her mentality and expectations. 

[rjc149]

On 2/12/2020 at 8:53 AM, albert35 said:

After a lot of resaerch about russian girls i found that they are loyal and loving. so I have decided to fly Russia to met her.  Guys I'll update you about my trip. Thanks to all of you.

Well, I guess it's good to hear that your scholarly research on Russian women allowed you to factually conclude that they are all loyal and loving, justifying a flight across the globe to meet one woman, and because your research proves that Russian women are all loyal and loving, she will it as sweet and romantic that you've made her your only viable dating option on earth. 

Wishing you the luck of the Irish buddy. Make sure you've got some sight-seeing planned at least. Enjoy the food too, Russian dumplings (pelmeni and varenniki) really hit the spot. 

[Miss Spider]

There’s a rotating ad about meeting your Russian soulmate on here. Just sayin’