Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 1 minute ago, basil67 said: With older women especially, I agree that women are pickier. Many middle aged women are fine with being single and he'd have to be something really special for her to have another relationship. I hear this all the time. Most adults my age are steep with ex issues (or older children) and not in the greatest shape.
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 I'm mid 50's. Seeing plenty of women who never think about their exes....they are just happy to live life doing what they want. And not having to worry about what someone thinks of their shape or sex drive or anything else. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 (edited) 3 minutes ago, basil67 said: I'm mid 50's. Seeing plenty of women who never think about their exes....they are just happy to live life doing what they want. And not having to worry about what someone thinks of their shape or sex drive or anything else. I would love to meet more of THOSE ladies. Ask them to move to Utah. All of the ladies I date are genuinely interested in how fit their partners are. Natural considering I gravitate towards other women who are active/fit. Edited February 2, 2020 by Gr8fuln2020 1
kevinjones Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 4 hours ago, basil67 said: With older women especially, I agree that women are pickier. Many middle aged women are fine with being single and he'd have to be something really special for her to have another relationship. Women in mid 50's are pursued by men for serious relationships and are turning men down? Interesting.
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 5 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: I would love to meet more of THOSE ladies. Ask them to move to Utah. All of the ladies I date are genuinely interested in how fit their partners are. Natural considering I gravitate towards other women who are active/fit. I'm not quite sure I understand. You wouldn't gravitate to them and nor would they gravitate to you. 1
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 1 hour ago, kevinjones said: Women in mid 50's are pursued by men for serious relationships and are turning men down? Interesting. Of course, the women aren't putting themselves in positions to be pursued. Or they switch teams 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 7 hours ago, basil67 said: I'm not quite sure I understand. You wouldn't gravitate to them and nor would they gravitate to you. Seeing plenty of women who never think about their exes....they are just happy to live life doing what they want. Seeking more ladies like that^^^ I cannot be with a woman who doesn't meet my sex drive and activity. 1
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 (edited) Your last sentence is exactly the type of expectation they are seeking to avoid Edited February 2, 2020 by basil67 1
SummerDreams Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 It's really bizarre that people still can't realize that men and women seek different traits and attributes from their partners and that's the reason people are confused with each other's choices. I won't generalize saying what men and what women want, but I think if we have this in mind we won't be so shocked with the other gender's choices. 2
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 11 minutes ago, SummerDreams said: It's really bizarre that people still can't realize that men and women seek different traits and attributes from their partners and that's the reason people are confused with each other's choices. I won't generalize saying what men and what women want, but I think if we have this in mind we won't be so shocked with the other gender's choices. I think it's bizarre that some people think that all men want the same thing and all women want the same thing. I discount any opinion which starts with "men want x" or "women want x" 4
SummerDreams Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 38 minutes ago, basil67 said: I think it's bizarre that some people think that all men want the same thing and all women want the same thing. I discount any opinion which starts with "men want x" or "women want x" I do too and I didn't say they all want the same things. I'll add to all this confusion that more often than not, people don't even know what they want so it becomes more complicated. 2
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Yep. So often, we know what we really want when we find it. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, basil67 said: Your last sentence is exactly the type of expectation they are seeking to avoid Not sure if this is intended for my sex drive comment, but I have yet to meet a late 40s or 50-something who didn't enjoy an abundance of sex. I am aware that the ladies are seeking more than that. So am I. But, I am looking for a partner that still enjoys sex. Edited February 2, 2020 by Gr8fuln2020 2
SumGuy Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 4 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: Not sure if this is intended for my sex drive comment, but I have yet to meet a late 40s or 50-something who didn't enjoy an abundance of sex. I am aware that the ladies are seeking more than that. So am I. But, I am looking for a partner that still enjoys sex. It's more the yellow flags such a mind set raises more than a lack of desire for sex. I think the "how in shape you are" question you get is showing that interest, at 40 or 50 plus women can wonder how well the man can satisfy them. Being out of shape usually correlates with things not working so well for men. I will agree that all the women I've dated for any length of time from OLD (ages 50-58) have very much enjoyed sex, menopause has not slowed them down. The ones that are not that interested may just not be in OLD, or pass on me. Also, I never lead with sexual innuendo and certainly never anything blunt. Always flirt in person if the chemistry is there though, but its never blunt, or explicit, in fact to me a lot of the fun in flirting is being oblique and subtle yet still conveying that carnal suggestion. 3
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 7 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: Not sure if this is intended for my sex drive comment, but I have yet to meet a late 40s or 50-something who didn't enjoy an abundance of sex. I am aware that the ladies are seeking more than that. So am I. But, I am looking for a partner that still enjoys sex. Yes, it was that comment I was referring to. But bear in mind, I'm talking about women who aren't looking for a man, not those who are out looking for partner. The two sets of women will have very different desires from what they want out of life. I still can't figure out why you'd want women who aren't looking for a man to move to where you are. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 2 hours ago, basil67 said: Yes, it was that comment I was referring to. But bear in mind, I'm talking about women who aren't looking for a man, not those who are out looking for partner. The two sets of women will have very different desires from what they want out of life. I still can't figure out why you'd want women who aren't looking for a man to move to where you are. I am not, of course. I am looking for women who don't have hang-ups regarding their exes, etc. and continue to enjoy sex.
SummerDreams Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 5 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: I am not, of course. I am looking for women who don't have hang-ups regarding their exes, etc. and continue to enjoy sex. So the only thing you can offer is sex? Most women want way more things than sex.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 3 hours ago, SummerDreams said: So the only thing you can offer is sex? Most women want way more things than sex. Hmmmm...not sure how you came to that conclusion.
elaine567 Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 On 2/2/2020 at 5:25 AM, Gr8fuln2020 said: I cannot be with a woman who doesn't meet my sex drive and activity. 19 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: I am looking for a partner that still enjoys sex. 9 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: . I am looking for women who don't have hang-ups regarding their exes, etc. and continue to enjoy sex. 12 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: Hmmmm...not sure how you came to that conclusion. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 (edited) No argument of the posts I made... An assumption was made that the ONLY thing I had to offer was sex. I also posted: "I am aware that the ladies are seeking more than that. So am I." A number of other tangible and intangible characteristics possible here. "Natural considering I gravitate towards other women who are active/fit." Life Style Interests. I do emphasize sex as a very important consideration/preference. Nothing wrong with that. I do apologize for not mentioning the slew of other characteristics that I seek in a woman. There is NO WAY, no matter how attractive in my eyes, a woman is, would I be happy remaining with someone who lacks empathy, compassion, and a level of intelligence that I find compelling. Edited February 4, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator fixed quote
chillii Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 (edited) On 2/2/2020 at 3:18 PM, kevinjones said: Women in mid 50's are pursued by men for serious relationships and are turning men down? Interesting. Not what l found at alllll, l don;t care what anything all over the net says. When l was single in later 40s early 50s women , l had all sorts of offers and l don't think l met one ever genuinely wanted to stay single. But they do often put on a nice very bravado front around their gf's or when asked , especially for all these stats around l'd say also. There was a lot of fear in that too , of being hurt or trying again and again it doesn't work why bother and things like that. l've met far far more men quite genuinely with absolutely no interest in any more relationships and all the bs than women. Matter of fact even just read ls and just about every womans complaint, the men are all flakey they won't commit they just wanna sleep with them and disappear. That was the complaint l heard dozens of times with women l'd met too , even from my own gf. Not that l'm saying there wouldn't also be plenty that don't want relationships there probably are but l sure as didn't meet too many. l've known a few that claimed to feel that way , but things usually came out in the end. Edited February 3, 2020 by chillii 1
stillafool Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 On 2/2/2020 at 12:25 AM, Gr8fuln2020 said: Seeing plenty of women who never think about their exes....they are just happy to live life doing what they want. Seeking more ladies like that^^^ I cannot be with a woman who doesn't meet my sex drive and activity. How many of these women do you need???
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 14 minutes ago, stillafool said: How many of these women do you need??? Dating pool is very shallow here. I ONLY need one! 2
chillii Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 (edited) Weirdest thing was , l actually ended up admiring women and their tenacity during that single time and couldn't believe the way they were still trying where as l on the other hand after my divorce , on one hand really didn't know if l could even be bothered trying again. l had women say to me ahhhhh, we've all been there ya just gotta keep moving and try and things like that . l was amazed with the run some had had , why ? Edited February 3, 2020 by chillii
chillii Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 (edited) 44 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: Dating pool is very shallow here. I ONLY need one! Yep exactly right , you only need that one special one and she'll be hiding somewhere no mater how bad it seems. Edited February 3, 2020 by chillii
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