Gold Pile Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I could write a book on picking-up. I do fine in bed, I do so well that women buy me gifts. (usually a love, how to book:D ) I have trouble with that 1st kiss, do you? Deep kissing is usually out. The 1st one is easier if she's already lying down...but thats not often the case. I suppose my best ones were more romantic (yes GP has a heart) and less lustful. Another poster once pointed out that it might be better to stop after 1 or 2, leave the rest for another day. I've tended to move fast (shock + aw )after the opening move. How do you like the 1st kiss? Lusty, romantic, short, long? Me 1st: I confess awkwardness. I never french kiss the 1st time. I play a little ...hands touching hair and face, then I position her (lift chin), move in close, then pull her in for the kiss. Never thought about leaning in...I just always pull her the last few inches. How do you like it?
lindya Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Best first kiss - in my teens. Round at a male friend's parents' house. Up in his room just mucking about and having a laugh. He wasn't a boyfriend - just a friend, but there was definite chemistry that day. For some reason (vanity no doubt) I started to comb my hair while he was out of the room. He walked back into the room, stood and looked at me for a few moments (one of those looks) then sat down next to me, took the comb out of my hand and kissed me. No tongues. It wasn't a typical teenage "snog" at all. It was very romantic and made me feel like quite a woman I actually get a nice little flutter thinking about it now - but sadly I don't think you can really manufacture moments like that; they just happen.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I have lots of great first kisses. One of the most memorable ones though was during my freshmen year in college near the beginning of the first sememster. I was at a party, and met this guy and we chit chatted. He seemed so-so interested (I was still the last stages of my ugly duckling days). We talked and we walked to the upstairs section (it was a dorm setting) and were walking down the hall and he turned to me without a word and simply backed me up against the wall and kissed me with a passion I had never experienced - a deep full body contact kiss that lasted, and lasted... no sex, that night or ever (lots more kisses, though!) - but that kiss. Damn, it was just like out of the movies - incredible. I'll always remember it.
Jayhawks Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I would not use a tongue on a first kiss unless the women initiated it. A good first kiss is to be gentle but firm, to much passion could scare them off. I give a few short kisses rather than a long one. Just keep it comfortable but let her know you like her.
Firehawk Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Me 1st: I confess awkwardness. I never french kiss the 1st time. I play a little ...hands touching hair and face, then I position her (lift chin), move in close, then pull her in for the kiss. Never thought about leaning in...I just always pull her the last few inches. You describe almost perfectly how a first kiss should go... And I can tell a girl is just not into me if they give me some excuse about not liking their face touched- I pretty much walk away right at this point if I hear something lame like that... Just ONCE I'd like to hear a girl tell the truth in that situation instead of making up a lame excuse! But if it goes like you describe I usually then turn her around and give her a playful swat on the the bum and tell her how bad she is for taking advantage of me like that- playfully mock look of disdain included just for fun...
Author Gold Pile Posted October 5, 2005 Author Posted October 5, 2005 Lindyatook the comb out of my hand and kissed me. Something about women combing/brushing hair drives me wild as well. LucreziaBorgia, he was lucky to find someone ok with that amount of passion on a first kiss. I think most of us guys are afraid of that approach with someone new. JayHawkI would not use a tongue on a first kiss unless the women initiated it. A good first kiss is to be gentle but firm, to much passion could scare them off. I give a few short kisses rather than a long one. Just keep it comfortable but let her know you like her. 100% agreed
Author Gold Pile Posted October 5, 2005 Author Posted October 5, 2005 You describe almost perfectly how a first kiss should go... And I can tell a girl is just not into me if they give me some excuse about not liking their face touched- I pretty much walk away right at this point if I hear something lame like that... Just ONCE I'd like to hear a girl tell the truth in that situation instead of making up a lame excuse! But if it goes like you describe I usually then turn her around and give her a playful swat on the the bum and tell her how bad she is for taking advantage of me like that- playfully mock look of disdain included just for fun... I don't mind a polite untruth now and then. Funny I've often thought about the bum swat...but didn't do it. I try to do the near perfect 1st kiss, but still I wish it was smoother.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 LucreziaBorgia, he was lucky to find someone ok with that amount of passion on a first kiss. I think most of us guys are afraid of that approach with someone new. In this day and age I totally understand. Seventeen years ago when that happened with me, men weren't as conditioned by the "fear of the accusation of date rape" as they are now and at least in my case were more likely to do dramatic things like this that now has the potential to land them jail time when a girl sees an erotic, powerful move like this as threatening and not erotic. It is good in that girls who don't like or want this have protections. Unfortunately, I'm left now primarily to fantasy when it comes to stuff like this - because I can't imagine a guy doing something like this now without fears of being arrested. There aren't many 'fetish' type women like me. So... go with the tender, romantic stuff. The teasing and gentle play. I would say a great majority of women go for that anyway. One of the sweet first kisses I've had started as a hug with kissing along the neck, with a very slow eventual landing of a light slightly-parted lip kiss on the mouth. By the time he got to my mouth, I was weak at the knees and nearly ready to beg for him to kiss me. Very sensous - his hands stroking my hair and lightly up and down my back... nothing wrong with passionate and gentle, that's for sure.
whichwayisup Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 For me it's the build up before hand...The closeness, the feel and scent of his body close to mine. The breath and lips against my neck, hearing him breathing...That makes the kiss more sensual when it happens. I do agree, no tongue, unless the passion is just happening, then ya gotta go with the flow. Tonguing nicely not shoving it around like a baseball bat!
Outcast Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 And I can tell a girl is just not into me if they give me some excuse about not liking their face touched I dunno. I can't imagine a dreamy-eyed woman telling me a tale of some guy pulling her face at him. I imagine it would feel like he's trying to yank your head off.
basscatcher Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG ETC ETC.... heheh:lmao: I love almost all my first kisses. hahaha:lmao: The right kiss will melt me to my knees and onto my back... (WOW:o that makes me sound easy!!) "Just don't eat my face off.. Or go tongue diving for my tonsils.. " The best kisses are when it's first hesitated then a tender swoop in, once applied then its a manuver of play. I like to feel the first gentle touch of the lips a little parted (hesitate), then recognized the pressure and adjust (hesitate), then the quiver (hesitate), then a slight shift (hesitate), then a little taste of the lower lip--very light slide of the tongue over to the corner of the mouth, then pull away a little. He will come back for more, pull back a little and let out a gentle exhale and a deep breath and move slowly to his lips again and hesitate-he will take you with agression, pull back a bit then dive into him. By then I get what I want and I'm in control. I have enticed him to give me what I want and he will willingly. Most men learn in the first few moments what you like if you do it first. Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo I don't mind passionate kisses the first time as long as he doesnt just dive in with aggression. Sometimes I think kissing is as good as and sometimes better then sex.
Nubemeister Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 my best first kiss was one after watching a movie. He was dropping me off and I was to get out from the car when he gave me this look....one that says no you are not getting out of this car, kiss me. lol... So I shut the door and I touched his lips and just stared at them...and I started off slowly, and then it slowly started building up to a passionate kiss...pulling gently on the lower lip is my favorite! He cradled my face in at the start of the kiss and I loved that! I loved how he also just added pressure and let me know he wanted more. I will always remember that:)
Jtizzle Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 best kiss ever was my first date with my bf ( we had met over the net) and had our first date on christmas day..we was in his car parked in front of a dark park talking and listening to music..for sum odd reason i always carry massage oil with me, blueberry flavored..i was like close ya eyes, and open ya mouth..i poured sum of the stuff in his mouth, and then we kissed:love:
Author Gold Pile Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 i always carry massage oil with me, blueberry flavored..i was like close ya eyes, and open ya mouth..i poured sum of the stuff in his mouth, That routine, on a first date, on Xmas day, from a net person...would scare that crap outta me!!!!
Razorback05 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Oh man, first kisses. My most memorable was when I was 18. It was the 4th of July, and I had taken my love interest out to the county park here to watch the fireworks show. I had backed my truck into a spot that had a great view and we were sitting on the tailgate. During the 1812 Overture, I squeezed her hand a little and looked at her and told her "I really like you" and I could feel the blood rushing to my face. She squeezed back and replied "I really like you too" and her voice was shaking and her face was red too. At that point I pulled her close and layed a nice kiss on her lips. She slipped the tongue in, so I went with it. Dynamite!! When we pulled away we both just gazed at each other like "whoa!!!". Excellent indeed.
Firehawk Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 In this day and age I totally understand. Seventeen years ago when that happened with me, men weren't as conditioned by the "fear of the accusation of date rape" as they are now and at least in my case were more likely to do dramatic things like this that now has the potential to land them jail time when a girl sees an erotic, powerful move like this as threatening and not erotic. It is good in that girls who don't like or want this have protections. Unfortunately, I'm left now primarily to fantasy when it comes to stuff like this - because I can't imagine a guy doing something like this now without fears of being arrested. Hawkeye Pierce from M.A.S.H. provided me with the best line ever to keep a situation like that from ever developing- great for first dates, especially in clubs and bars: "I don't care how drunk you make me, I'm not going home with you."
Author Gold Pile Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 Nice moment there. I've noticed that if you toss an m80 firecracker behind a woman, the noise-shock will make her jump forward about 3 feet. That is where Gold Pile stands with open arms and all puckered up. Sorry for disrupting the romantic nature of this thread, I couldn't resist.
JS17 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Nice moment there. I've noticed that if you toss an m80 firecracker behind a woman, the noise-shock will make her jump forward about 3 feet. That is where Gold Pile stands with open arms and all puckered up. Sorry for disrupting the romantic nature of this thread, I couldn't resist. That sounds about right Romance is dead. It lives on in the mind of those who refuse to face reality.
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