Sanderling Posted January 29, 2020 Posted January 29, 2020 Once upon a time, at the golden age of internet dating, it was possible to find a rather pleasant conversation. Both parties used that time to see if compatible and everything was kept nice and civil. Expectations were stated upfront (ok, most of the time), interests discussed and a lot of times a friendship developed. Now online dating is a quick hookup. No one cares about interests, personality or expectations. It seems like guys over 45 are in a mad dash to squeeze in as much loving as they can before any drooping happens. Every site/app feels like a hooker catalog. Measurements are asked, level of flexibility is demanded, bedroom skills ranked between women who had the misfortune to respond. What the .. yeah.. The majority of the male population (on the apps/sites) seems to be rather ignorant of the fact that if they are on said apps/sites, they are not exactly the King of the bedroom and we, the ladies are not missing much. I am told otherwise by Joe the Nine Inch Legend, of course. The amount of crafty conversation some guys apply to reach a specific opening for their mad skills is impressive. If they used that time to actually get to know a person, I am pretty sure they will be a lot more successful. In this age of "I am offended", my views of the male population is not accepted graciously. Death threats and promises of blunt objects inserted in various places do not make me rethink my "not interested". Just makes me think how incredibly juvenile older man are. A lot try to prove me wrong. They all fail miserably. A single track mind always returns to the initial loving in bulk subject predictably. I have tried paid and free sites. Granted, I didn't linger for long. 95% of the men I encountered had the one track mind. 5% had more issues than a newspaper. So.. is it just me? Bad luck? Expecting something that no longer exists? 1
Miss Spider Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 (edited) Wow that’s awful. Sorry you’ve experienced that. I’ve online dated for awhile and I’ve never really got any rude (like extremely sexual) comments from anyone I can remember. I know women often talk about receiving them sometimes, so I am in the minority by not having received them, but they also aren’t experiencing this with everyone they encounter either. I really have no clue. Perhaps just bad luck for now. Or the type of men you are talking to? Edited January 30, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Author Sanderling Posted January 30, 2020 Author Posted January 30, 2020 24 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Wow that’s awful. Sorry you’ve experienced that. I’ve online dated for awhile and I’ve never really got any rude (like extremely sexual) comments from anyone I can remember. I know women often talk about receiving them sometimes, so I am in the minority by not having received them, but they also aren’t experiencing this with everyone they encounter either. I really have no clue. Perhaps just bad luck for now. Or the type of men you are talking to? It's most definitely the type of men, the 45+ that use online dating apps and sites. That's kind of the point... Also I didn't say comments, I said a single track mind. 1
Miss Spider Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 (edited) But it’s clearly not all 45+ men because not everyone who dates in that age group is having that problem. What I was considering is if it was a particular subset or ‘type’ of men in the age group that you’re interested in/talking to. Something else about them. Or maybe something about your profile. And what gives you the impression that is the track their mind is on if not for comments they make...? edit: you specifically mentioned a comment about sticking a blunt object somewhere.... Edited January 30, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Author Sanderling Posted January 30, 2020 Author Posted January 30, 2020 This is not lit class but do read the sentence before the said blunt objects comment. It's clear you have different standards and the subject is unknown to you. What's normal for you is probably not so normal or acceptable for others. 1
Mrin Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 There is another thread about no normal guys being on OLD. I never go sexual in chit chat unless they do first. I try to keep the conversation above board and helpful to understand if we are a possible match. If so I always treat the lady out to a meal on the first date rather quickly. It sucks to hear that most men don't do this. Maybe that is why OLD has been such a good experience for me. Easy to stand out from the herd when the herd is acting like baffoons. 3
Miss Spider Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 (edited) Everyone I’ve met online, a few of which have been over 45, have been respectful. Not the sex crazed, shallow dogs only looking for hookups you seem to be encountering. So if you’re not having that experience, instead of pidgeonholing a whole demographic of men, it might be worth examining why. It most likely is just you. Edited January 30, 2020 by Cookiesandough
fromheart Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 Well, if your going to discriminate against men and put them into one category, decent men will walk away from you. Try dating in real life instead. 1
chillii Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 (edited) Well then , you can obviously say the same about all the women on sites not being queen of the bedroom either then , yourself included to in that case, right, and, actually , most likely can't even get a date in RL either. And ahh , you might be in for a long wait to btw , my dad was still chasing mum around late 70s and one his his younger mates, a mere late 60s haha , widowed, was still bringing a few women a week home from his bowls club haha , and having a ball, so strap in for the long hall. You have a lot to say about men and it all has that bitter run into the dirt about it and my guess is first of all, that is very typical of women around your age brackets and older and as bigger turn of to men as the men you talk about, are to you. And it's spotted at 100 paces too. So you might wanna work on that because it's very easy to see why your not getting anywhere. And stuff like this is only one of 50 reasons why the guys don't want anything serious. Because all that bs is so common in women and who the he;ll wants life with someone like that , not even mentioning all the other hassles that come with women your age that guys are well and truly well aware of. So it's about finding that good one, for either , needles in haystacks , if it's ever gonna be something more with someone. All the date site stuff itself you talk about , hell yeah , it sounds pretty disgusting that is for sure. But tbh , from what l hear about the other angles of it all you talk about , men get all the same bs from women on them too. But anyway , why not just stay off them then , meet people in RL . You say the only men are only on them because of blah blah according to you so in that case you must be different right. So just stay off them and go out with all these guys in RL your beating off with sticks. Really , why put yourself through that crap . Edited January 30, 2020 by chillii
vla1120 Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 What is in your profile that might be attracting this type of man? I’ve been out there and, like anything in life, there are the extremes. If I ever do run into someone like that on OLD, it merits a block. Boom. Problem solved.
Author Sanderling Posted January 30, 2020 Author Posted January 30, 2020 It's amusing how posting a controversial topic makes all the trolls of a forum come out. The best way to judge the quality of a forum! Only one (thank you, Mrin) has an IQ above room temperature. Basic, barely literate, pack of vultures. LoveShack? Yikes!
vla1120 Posted January 30, 2020 Posted January 30, 2020 2 hours ago, Sanderling said: It's amusing how posting a controversial topic makes all the trolls of a forum come out. The best way to judge the quality of a forum! Only one (thank you, Mrin) has an IQ above room temperature. Basic, barely literate, pack of vultures. LoveShack? Yikes! I only see one poster with consistently vitriolic posts. 1
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