hafnia7 Posted January 29, 2020 Posted January 29, 2020 Hi you, Warning! - Storytime post and the words signals will be mentioned a lot. I hope some of you have tried something similar to what's written below, or maybe just can see it from a different perspective. I will try to make this short. About me: 26 years old, very confident and quite successful in dating and one night stands but not great at relationships. About her: 22 years old, fulltime model, loves poetry and has a really goofy personality. SO - this amazing girl moved in from across my room in my collective-housing in Costa-Rica. We quickly became friends, shared some of our deep personal stuff with each other, making her telling me that I was the one in Costa-Rica she really felt safe around. She had just come out of a very traumatic relationship, so she expressed that she was very happy that I made her feel that way. The following time she would start to show very clear flirting signals, but every time I tried to pick up on it, she would reject me. After some time of this, I sat her down and expressed that she was confusing me with her signals and that I was unsure how she was feeling towards me and that I really liked her. Not wanting to be an a**h***, I was more easy with my approach as I didn't want to be that guy she finally trusted who was just nice cause he wanted something more (I told her that too). She more or less said that she hadn't picked up that I felt that way, and that she was just in a time in her life where `something more´ confused her a bit. A nice way to say - let's just be friends. Now I am not new to the game, and know you are probably already putting `Friendzone´ into the comment box as you read this - BUT let's skip to the action now. As I quickly became fine with the thought that we were not a match, her flirting and affection became even more than it was before. Signals I was trying to knock out of my head, but which just not could be understood in any other way than I-AM-INTERESTED. She would find an excuse to sleep in my bed, and we would cuddle all night about 3-4 days a week. Not just a little holding hands - but in a way I've never done with someone I didn't just have had sex with. However! Every time we would have a perfect `this is where we should kiss´ moment, she would say straight out "Don't try to kiss me´. Again - Rejected.. She left back to Sweden and so did I a bit after. We have been chatting a bit for some weeks, and she came out for a model-meeting in my city this week (she lives a bit far away), and she wanted to meet up. We went for a coffee and everything was nice. 10 minutes into meeting up she starts asking me if I am seeing anyone, or I have been with someone after she left. In my head I'm thinking `Why would you f***ing care if you reject me anyway?!´ Throughout the day, she keeps asking me about my past dating life, and how I feel about this type of women, and whether dating a 22-year-old would be too young for me. She mentions how much she wishes that she had someone to share all those small things with - and that she really wants to move to my city, but if so, she would like to have a boyfriend here. All the things I see as pretty clear signals and play them out a bit cool as I have been mistaken this before. We say goodbye, and we talk about hanging out that following evening after her meeting. Evening comes and following text messages occur: Me: Hey babe, did you wanna come over tonight and watch that movie? Her: No, sorry I really wish but I am just to tired. Me: No worries, but I had really wished that you were coming over tonight. Her: Don't be ironic.. What are you up to? Me: I am not? Wanna see you again before you leave. Just got home. Her: No response. Me: It's annoying when someone asks a question and then don't follow up - Day after Her: Sorry I am so bad answering. Went to bed early. Love your instagram story! - I then answer with a gif which she still hasn't opened and back to her town she has gone.. END OF STORY. Thank for reading! Of what you have just read, what the f*** should I pick up from this?! If you were not interested and just wanted to be friends, why all these direct henced at me kind of questions? If you were interested, then why not see me on your last day before you fly back? Some feedback on this would be much appreciated. Thanks again.
Miss Spider Posted January 29, 2020 Posted January 29, 2020 She’s just a tease like a lot of 22 year olds are. She just likes the attention she gets from you being her orbiter. Basically, after she is out of the break up it is nice to her to have that validation. She said she didn’t want anything romantic, just friendly, so would be best to take it as it is. Unless you’re waiting for some moment of weakness where she gets lonely and desperate, enough. Otherwise, I’d move on.
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