blueberry13 Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 haven't been to this site in a while. life has been pretty ok. My daughter was playing with my husbands old phone in her bedroom collecting old photos. I took a look in it when she put it down, shouldn't have, only to read about my husbands boring conference in Vegas, whereby he said they were stuck at the same boring hotel the whole time. Comments such as "we have a table at the club and are finally around a bunch of hot girls, getting our game on." all talk about this club and that club for every night they were there. This was going back a few years however, I get such a vomit feeling seeing that. Such the focus on hot girls, they seem so immature. How much should someone chalk up the situation as 'well that's Vegas.'? I am not going to bring this up, but no surprise how contradictory this trip was when described upon return. SO cliche. I would so prefer the truth. Is there such thing as innocent fun for guys that feel the need to lie?
d0nnivain Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 (edited) Bring it up because it's going to bother you & eat at you. Do so calmly. If you don't it will come out in the heat of some argument & be really ugly. Instead start by disclosing what you read & how you came to read it. Then explain that while the reference to "hot girls" was a bit off putting & coarse you recognize that language wasn't meant for you. But then ask him why he felt the need to down play what was going on for your benefit. (Basically accuse him of lying & covering it up but don't use those words) Make sure you are not the type who would have freaked out had you known at the time that your hubby was having fun. Oh boy. I just read an old thread of yours from 2016. Your husband would get angry at the slightest thing & yell at you with F bombs. I suspect if it's the same guy he won't see this behavior -- either ogling hot girls, using coarse language or lying to you about what he was doing in Vegas -- as problematic. He'll probably turn it around on you so be careful but stand your ground about the lying. Edited January 27, 2020 by d0nnivain 1
mark clemson Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Completely hypothetically, if a husband was on a work trip, the wife could fly in with the intent of giving him a nice romantic surprise during non-work hours. Not recommending that you should actually do that or anything similar, though. It's just a hypothetical possibility. No doubt some couples have done it.
preraph Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Sounds like your husband just does what he wants to do regardless if you like it or not. Do you ever see that changing? Is it worth it?
schlumpy Posted January 28, 2020 Posted January 28, 2020 Do you have any other circumstantial evidence to the put the table like late nights out with the guys? You find out he's not where he says he's going to be?
elaine567 Posted January 28, 2020 Posted January 28, 2020 Are you really surprised he would do that? As someone said on your last thread in 2016. You have in fact spent 20 years with "an abusive jerk" Now I guess it is about 23 years... 1
Starswillshine Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 This all seems extremely too familiar. Same Vegas story. Same Vegas text. And years later, I found out it wasnt just "locker room speak." Be wary. 1
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