Bumble location change

[Magicmontazzle]

32/F Meets 32/M

Hit it off straight away - great first date

Communication and connection has been perfect

Dating around 4/5 weeks 

Coming to visit me in my home town whilst he is away for work

Told me he deleted his Bumble after I agree to a 2nd date

I did not go back on as took this as a marker of seriousness - cut off other connections

Forgot about Bumble

Went onto the Bumble to permanently delete my account tonight and HE HAS BEEN ON HIS BUMBLE SINCE HE TOLD ME HE DELETED IT. Back in his original town MILES away

What the f*** do I do? Do I confront him or will I look crazy? Could it be a misunderstanding

[Andy_K]

1 hour ago, Magicmontazzle said:

What the f*** do I do? Do I confront him or will I look crazy? 

'Will I look crazy' is the completely the wrong question to ask. Will he react like a mature guy who is genuinely into you? That's what you need to be asking yourself. Consider a possible course of action. Suppose you told him you saw he was on Bumble, and thought he said he'd deleted his account.

What would a reasonable guy who was into you do? Perhaps say there's been a mistake, or that he only deleted the app not the account, or opened it up when he got some sort of alert on his laptop, who knows. Could be genuine. Then he'd offer to delete the account to put you at ease. The point isn't his exact answer, but that he's calm, concerned about your feelings, and tries to make amends. Look for the signs of his character rather than focus on the trees and miss the forest.

What would an unreasonable guy who can't be trusted do? Maybe he'd accuse you of being a stalker, or turn it around and accuse you of cheating on him, or maybe he'd make up some really crappy excuse about talking to 'friends' there. The common theme here is that he'd be evasive, defensive, or angry, regardless of how good or bad his reasons.

Edited January 27, 2020 by Andy_K

[Miss Spider]

First dumb question: Are you sure bumble doesn’t just update the location even if you aren’t signed in?

Second dumb question:  Are you guys exclusive? 

[Noproblem]

Block this liar!

 

[beentheredonethat77]

8 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

First dumb question: Are you sure bumble doesn’t just update the location even if you aren’t signed in?

Second dumb question:  Are you guys exclusive? 

Totally not dumb question, as i was just thinking, im pretty sure it updates without you logging in.  I had someone tell me they knew i was away 'because of my bumble location' -- and i hadn't changed it.   That said, i might have pressed on an update or a message -- but i definitely didn't change locations manually. 

 

Of course it means he didn't delete it though, so he did lie. 

Edited January 28, 2020 by beentheredonethat77

[Magicmontazzle]

Asked him about it - says he did not delete it. Just the app. Apologised +++ said he had not been on it since he told me he had not been on it (end of December)

 

then asked me to be his girlfriend

[Andy_K]

Congrats! That sounds like the ideal outcome

[SumGuy]

On 1/28/2020 at 2:09 AM, beentheredonethat77 said:

 

Of course it means he didn't delete it though, so he did lie. 

Maybe, some sites keep you on despite you deleting and telling them to unsubscribe you, especially the free ones.  One way to keep the numbers up.  Where do you think the fake/dead profiles come from? they are not all hand crafted.  Of course it is illegal where I live, reported it to my attorney general but can't afford the time or money to chase it down myself.

Was almost going to say maybe he just deleted the app.    Should have read a little more.

Edited January 29, 2020 by SumGuy

[BrennaR]

Last time I updated my phone, it's now been asking to keep location services on on apps "all the time" "only when using the app", so it makes me believe that all my apps use to use the locations services all the time even when I am not using the app. This could explain why his location changes, that he has the location services on. Or he could be a lying cheating bastard.

[olivetree]

Ooo girl. Bad news. If his location updated, that meant he hadn't deleted the app. So he didn't delete his account or the app.

If you're okay being lied to then congrats on the bf/gf status. 

Edited January 31, 2020 by olivetree

[rightondude]

He did not delete the app if it updated his location. Bumble doesn't take over your entire phone. If the app isn't there, they can't tell where you are.

 

But maybe this is all just a question of timing. Maybe he, like I do sometimes, said he did something he was only planning to do and then did it.

 

 

Edited February 1, 2020 by rightondude

[VioletVelvet]

He didn't delete the app but that definitely does not mean he was using it. The location updates wherever you are, and even if you make yourself invisible the people you've already connected with can see you.

And by the way, plenty of people (not saying it's him) think they've deleted the app when they have not, because they removed it from their phone. You have to go in and actually delete within the app for it to be deleted and not everyone realizes this. 

[dramallama]

15 minutes ago, VioletVelvet said:

 

And by the way, plenty of people (not saying it's him) think they've deleted the app when they have not, because they removed it from their phone. You have to go in and actually delete within the app for it to be deleted and not everyone realizes this. 

Yes, but if they've deleted the app off their phone, it can't access their phone's location, can it 😉 That explains a live profile, not a distance update.

[VioletVelvet]

Just now, dramallama said:

Yes, but if they've deleted the app off their phone, it can't access their phone's location, can it 😉 That explains a live profile, not a distance update.

Ha! Good point.