Lotsgoingon Posted January 29, 2020 Posted January 29, 2020 You cannot find a bigger red flag than this: He mentioned to me that most women he’s dated felt that he was “indifferent” so perhaps that was his way of setting my expectations low but I do agree with them! Notice, he drops alarming information. Most of the women thought he was indifferent. Two options here: all of these women were idiots and you're unique ... All of these women were idiots and he's so special they just didn't understand it ... Let's go with 99.99 percent of the time--this is called a pattern. Not random. But there's more ... He doesn't say, "I want to do better at making sure women I like know how much I like them." He didn't say, did he? He didn't say to you, "hey, I really like you and want you to know that!" ... So he announces that's he's cold and distance ... and doesn't explain it ... or say he wants to overcome it. Note, he is saying "I'm cold and distant." He just found the kinder way of saying this by putting this conclusion of "most women" thought this ... He isn't disagreeing. Game over. Run. Not only is he not interested ... He's announcing loudly that he's incapable of making a woman feeling appreciated ... and he's announcing he doesn't care to set such a goal. Run, sister, run! 1
nospam99 Posted January 29, 2020 Posted January 29, 2020 @taintedluv. Probably for the same reason that women lead men 'on when they have no intentions of following through'. Been there, done that (have been the victim of leading on), need a spreadsheet to keep track.
Author TaintedLuv Posted January 29, 2020 Author Posted January 29, 2020 10 minutes ago, nospam99 said: @taintedluv. Probably for the same reason that women lead men 'on when they have no intentions of following through'. Been there, done that (have been the victim of leading on), need a spreadsheet to keep track. Yeah I have no idea how people do these things since that’s not how I operate.
Lotsgoingon Posted January 29, 2020 Posted January 29, 2020 6 hours ago, TaintedLuv said: Yeah I have no idea how people do these things since that’s not how I operate. You want to learn to notice how people do these things because that's required to protect yourself. So, here's a tip: watch out when people pick their words carefully. Usually they're trying to convey one thing (I'm into you) while not quite saying that (in order to be able to say they didn't lie later). A "hack" for you to quickly notice. For relationships to work, both partners needed to be overwhelmingly interested, deeply open ... Therefore, you want overwhelming clarity. If you have to ask if someone is interested, that itself a sign that they are not sufficiently interested to carry off a relationship.
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