How is he over me in 5 days already?

[Anon961]

Sorry for this long post.

My OH & I split up 5 days ago - don’t really know who split up with who. I walked out the door upset & said I can’t keep waiting, after he said he doesn’t know what he wants. We both struggle with mental health an have been having increased problems lately, aswell as me trying to deal with the fact he cheated early on in our relationship. 

Only a week before our split, I hadn’t seen him for 2 days & he was all over me when I next saw him, saying how much he’d missed me, etc. The day before splitting, he’d said that he doesn’t want another guy having me. When we broke up he said he loves me but is sick of the arguing.

Later that evening I took our relationship status off FB but left him as a friend as it’s pretty final. Several hours later he then unfriended me on there. He then left it a whole day & deleted the one photo of us he had on there & then blocked me. A friend has looked and he still has the photo of us showing as an old profile pic. Why didn’t he delete that too?

After this, I tried saving myself the hurt & deleted him from the rest of my social media. Today I found he has now blocked me on Insta too but also refollowed the girls he was messaging inappropriately whilst we were together & started liking their photos again.

He hasn’t blocked my number/WhatsApp which I don’t understand.. he has everything else so why leave that open?

I don’t understand - why can he go back to these girls so quickly? Who he has no actual connection with.. Yet the girl he supposedly loves & wanted to settle down in life with, he doesn’t come back to

I know no one can answer fully as they aren’t him but please, especially guys, can you shed some light on this an try to answer my questions? I feel so hurt & angry. It’s been 5 days & it’s like I’m gone already, as though I never meant anything to him.

I’m here hurting terribly, wishing it was all ok & we were still together but he seems to be getting on with his life just fine. How can he be over me so quickly already?

 

Edit: I’m 23, he’s 28. 

Edited January 27, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Malin889]

How long were you together? How did he cheat early on in your relationship? And why did you forgive him and let things continue? Also what the heck is Fabswingers? 

Edited January 27, 2020 by Malin889

[Anon961]

Just under 1yr but things moved pretty quick. For example we were practically living together and if I was to go home for 1-2 days he would be upset and want me to stay instead. He cheated a week into our relationship with his ex partner. And the week before we got together had also slept with her then. In my head, no matter what this guy has done I love him and wanted things to work.

 

Edited January 27, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[K.K.]

Women hurt more at the beginning. Men hurt more later. Their bravado falls away and then it really sinks in... that you’re gone. 

Edited January 27, 2020 by K.K.

[ExpatInItaly]

The whole dynamic between you two sounds dysfunctional and immature, with a snowball's chance in h*ll of surviving. 

It's time to let him go. He's not going to be the big love of your life. 

[basil67]

He got over you quickly because of the relief of not fighting so much anymore.   Chances are that he will be perfectly fine without you, so you would be wise to work out why you're hanging onto the idea of someone who wasn't meeting your needs to start with.

Edited January 27, 2020 by basil67

[basil67]

4 hours ago, K.K. said:

Women hurt more at the beginning. Men hurt more later. Their bravado falls away and then it really sinks in... that you’re gone. 

Not all women.  When I left my ex-h, almost immediately it felt like the sun had finally come out and that I had a good life in front of me.     Ex-H OTOH, went into begging mode immediately.