Miss Spider Posted March 18, 2020 Posted March 18, 2020 (edited) On 2/26/2020 at 3:43 PM, Envy123 said: Maybe that I actually attract superficially pretty women and not people who can be great company? This is a serious problem, that happened from preschool to the present day. I can't help gravitating towards conventionally attractive women and get to know them as people, because I think that due to our differences in looks, we can never be together (was proven wrong on numerous occasions). So I come across as confident and attraction happens. But I think that lower conventional looks = higher chances, and we are destined for one another and I hope she will see that. But I either avoid her or push romance too much onto her that she avoids me. I am now rethinking about going after people who I deem on my level, because I become either arrogant or shy without fail. Maybe I should continue to make friends with conventionally attractive women and at least one of them will be both pretty and have great interests and be someone who I will click with. Actually I see a lot of guys here say they’re going after ‘average’ women and the reasons they give are they don’t get hit on as much do they’re more likely to be receptive to advances or loyal lol this could not be more wrong lol.. Most average women get hit on as much if not more than any other because all these guys are using this same logic:/ I think it’s a bit insulting to the women these guys are approaching/dating if that’s their primary reasons. I am not attracted to pretty boys or hunk type that generally a lot of women like, but I don’t think to myself that’s because I have better chances with the average guys so that’s why. Nothing to do with it and I doubt it’s true. I just happen to be attracted to quirks /flaws in people and incidentally don’t always prefer what we are told is conventionally attractive. Edited March 18, 2020 by Cookiesandough 3
Envy123 Posted March 18, 2020 Posted March 18, 2020 (edited) 20 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Actually I see a lot of guys here say they’re going after ‘average’ women and the reasons they give are they don’t get hit on as much do they’re more likely to be receptive to advances or loyal lol this could not be more wrong lol.. Most average women get hit on as much if not more than any other because all these guys are using this same logic:/ I think it’s a bit insulting to the women these guys are approaching/dating if that’s their primary reasons. I am not attracted to pretty boys or hunk type that generally a lot of women like, but I don’t think to myself that’s because I have better chances with the average guys so that’s why. Nothing to do with it and I doubt it’s true. I just happen to be attracted to quirks /flaws in people and incidentally don’t always prefer what we are told is conventionally attractive. I guess it's the Shallow Hal effect. Putting the thinking of "don't blindly chase conventionally attractive women, find someone who's more down-to-earth" out there and all of the unconventionally attractive women fall over Hal. Yeah, like that totally happens in real life. Instead, it's like if there was a movie called "Deep Hal" where Hal chases Rosemary, she avoids him and Hal ends up with Jill in the end. The message being "looks do not correlate with chances, it's all about compatibility". I always attract women who wouldn't look out of place on a magazine cover, but fail to attract the quirky bookworm type, for instance. But I hardly read books, so there is an inherent lifestyle incompatibility right there, while the women I attract have a similar carefree lifestyle to me. Edited March 18, 2020 by Envy123 1
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