VicBB09 Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 Before Christmas holiday, I stopped friendship with a male friend (just friend) cuz he's been showing his improper manner and disgusting intentions about my mom many times since he saw the picture of me and my mom. He even told that he wants to sleep with my mom. After I cut him off, I spoke to my parents about this guy's nasty intention, as I know this guy will try to approach to my mom. Unfortunately, they (especially my mom) didn't trust me instead they thought I purposely upset them. My mom also called cops and claimed that I harass her. She also told cops she doesn't know this guy. However, later on, I caught my mom hangout with this guy!!! I really DON'T understand why she didn't tell cops the truth!
schlumpy Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 Sounds like your friend was trying to get your reaction to him having a sexual relationship with your mother and you blew it up by blabbing to your mom (and others?) so she had to go into damage control mode. It looks like there was already a relationship. If your mom is single then it may be uncomfortable and inappropriate but not really your business.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 Are your mom and dad divorced? I don't know what's going on with your mom and this guy but it doesn't sound very savory. You can't call the cops on someone just for telling you something so I know there's more to the story than that if the cops actually came out and you had to talk to them. all I can tell you is that you be honest with the cops and they can see through it if your mom is the liar.
Author VicBB09 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 8 hours ago, schlumpy said: Sounds like your friend was trying to get your reaction to him having a sexual relationship with your mother and you blew it up by blabbing to your mom (and others?) so she had to go into damage control mode. It looks like there was already a relationship. If your mom is single then it may be uncomfortable and inappropriate but not really your business. My mom is still with my dad.
Author VicBB09 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 6 hours ago, preraph said: Are your mom and dad divorced? I don't know what's going on with your mom and this guy but it doesn't sound very savory. You can't call the cops on someone just for telling you something so I know there's more to the story than that if the cops actually came out and you had to talk to them. all I can tell you is that you be honest with the cops and they can see through it if your mom is the liar. They are still in marriage. They both are Christians. My mom always tells me that couple should be love, trust and honest to each other, cheating is the most disgusting thing. I'm afraid she's already lost my trust (and even respect) to her.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 I understand. All that must be very confusing. I just hope that guy leaves you alone.
Daisydooks Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 18 hours ago, VicBB09 said: Before Christmas holiday, I stopped friendship with a male friend (just friend) cuz he's been showing his improper manner and disgusting intentions about my mom many times since he saw the picture of me and my mom. He even told that he wants to sleep with my mom. After I cut him off, I spoke to my parents about this guy's nasty intention, as I know this guy will try to approach to my mom. Unfortunately, they (especially my mom) didn't trust me instead they thought I purposely upset them. My mom also called cops and claimed that I harass her. She also told cops she doesn't know this guy. However, later on, I caught my mom hangout with this guy!!! I really DON'T understand why she didn't tell cops the truth! It sounds like your mom is having an affair with him and you're exposing it is both harmful to her image and her marriage In front of your dad, if she acted any differently, she would look suspicious. It sounds like you're outing an affair mommy dearest wants to be kept secret. Christians cheat. All the time.
Author VicBB09 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 13 minutes ago, preraph said: I understand. All that must be very confusing. I just hope that guy leaves you alone. Thanks Preraph. Me and this guy are no longer friends. Hopefully one day my mom can be honest to me and my dad as after I spoke to them, my dad has stopped talking to me.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 I'm sorry. Your parents are not supposed to put you in the middle of their adult problems much less blame you for them. You are more mature than they are.
Author VicBB09 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 14 minutes ago, Daisydooks said: It sounds like your mom is having an affair with him and you're exposing it is both harmful to her image and her marriage In front of your dad, if she acted any differently, she would look suspicious. It sounds like you're outing an affair mommy dearest wants to be kept secret. Christians cheat. All the time. To be honest, it's really hard for me to believe my mom is this type of person. In my mind, she is a loved and honest mom and wife, a hard-working teacher, a very nice and kind lady. My dad totally trust her. Now my dad (and my family) think I'm a troublemaker (maybe they r right). After my mom spoke to cops, my parents gave me a trespass order. I can't go to their house for 2 years. 1
Author VicBB09 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 17 minutes ago, preraph said: I'm sorry. Your parents are not supposed to put you in the middle of their adult problems much less blame you for them. You are more mature than they are. I know my dad, based on his character, once he discovers the truth, he definitely will divorce her. If so, my mom will lose everything and she must take the consequences for her behaviour.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 Well, she may not lose everything, because cheating is not considered in divorce settlements, but their treatment of you will probably be considered.
Author VicBB09 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 12 minutes ago, preraph said: Well, she may not lose everything, because cheating is not considered in divorce settlements, but their treatment of you will probably be considered. True. To file a divorce or not, that depends on my dad. He is the one (may or may not) going to handle it. As to my part, since the moment my mom lied to cops, from the bottom of my heart, she is no longer my mom. I even have a feeling that she probably doesn't care about she will lose me.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 What did she tell them you did? I just can't imagine. Can I ask how old you are?
Author VicBB09 Posted January 27, 2020 Author Posted January 27, 2020 2 minutes ago, preraph said: What did she tell them you did? I just can't imagine. Can I ask how old you are? She told cops (pretty much) everything what I told them. Then she told cops that I harass her (she also cried in front of me and my dad) and she claimed that she doesn't know the guy. After that, she gave me a trespass order. I'm 26 btw. I don't stay with them since I started my uni life.
preraph Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Seems like if she doesn't know the guy, the police should have given HIM the trespass order. Well, I'm glad you're out of that house. 1
schlumpy Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 3 hours ago, VicBB09 said: My mom is still with my dad. Very sorry to hear that. That does make it difficult.
K.K. Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 I’ve read this thread and some of the replies but I still just ... don’t get it. Like ... at ALL. 20 hours ago, VicBB09 said: Before Christmas holiday, I stopped friendship with a male friend (just friend) Why are you specifying a that he’s just a friend? Are you female? 20 hours ago, VicBB09 said: cuz he's been showing his improper manner and disgusting intentions about my mom many times since he saw the picture of me and my mom. He even told that he wants to sleep with my mom. I mean dudes make gross comments like that. ‘Stacy’s mom’ anybody? 20 hours ago, VicBB09 said: After I cut him off, I spoke to my parents about this guy's nasty intention, as I know this guy will try to approach to my mom. For real? He would actually approach her? Why would you say you “know” that he will approach her? Why do you think it’s more than a comment about your mom being hot? (I don’t know I’m just askin) 20 hours ago, VicBB09 said: Unfortunately, they (especially my mom) didn't trust me instead they thought I purposely upset them. Whhhhattttttt ? Why would you tell your mom? Why would the first words out of her mouth be anger at YOU? I don’t get it!! 20 hours ago, VicBB09 said: My mom also called cops and claimed that I harass her. Ok... your MOM called the COPS to say that you harassed her. Harassment meaning what.Telling her some random thought she was hot? Or what else? I can’t see it. “Hello 911! My (daughter?son?) just told me that their friend thought I was hot and wanted to sleep with me!! “ like whhaaatt? 20 hours ago, VicBB09 said: She also told cops she doesn't know this guy. However, later on, I caught my mom hangout with this guy!!! Ohhh K. So why would she have to tell the COPS anything. What part of hanging out with a FK boy is illegal? If that’s what it is. I don’t know. Is it illegal? Where did you catch her hanging out with him? The mall? In your house? Where? 20 hours ago, VicBB09 said: I really DON'T understand why she didn't tell cops the truth! What truth? Why are the cops involved?! I don’t understand what’s going on here. What do you mean you “harassed her?” I mean, do people really call the cops for s*** like this? My ass ain’t calling any cops for ANYTHING much less some private, domestic s*** like this. I keep reading ... but I just don’t get it. 1
Daisydooks Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 2 hours ago, VicBB09 said: After my mom spoke to cops, my parents gave me a trespass order. I can't go to their house for 2 years. Did you think she would do this? I'm so sad for you in all this. Regardless of her reason, it sounds really messed up and heartbreaking for you
Author VicBB09 Posted January 27, 2020 Author Posted January 27, 2020 41 minutes ago, Daisydooks said: Did you think she would do this? I'm so sad for you in all this. Regardless of her reason, it sounds really messed up and heartbreaking for you When I spoke to them, later on, we all lost our cool, a normal talking turned to be an argument. Then she cried and called cops, although cops didn't come to their house (overall they can't do too much about family relationship issue). She sometimes can be quite emotional and demanding. But one thing for sure, that is: I don't trust her anymore. 1
Author VicBB09 Posted January 27, 2020 Author Posted January 27, 2020 8 hours ago, JTSW said: Your mom is messed up. Yes......
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