Daisydooks Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 (edited) I'm eager to see how tonight goes. Relax. Have fun. Just don't put her on the spot with "where is this relationship going." No talks! Haha Right now, you need to be having fun, not talking marriage and settling down. Roll with today. Wishing you luck and I hope tonight goes well. Edited January 24, 2020 by Daisydooks Spelling
CAPITAL CROOK Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 Whoever this guy was that she spent 6 years with, she ended up transitioning from being approximately 36-42 with this person in age... So you have to consider, she has not spent that much time single. If she wants to spend 3 days a week together, great, you spend the other 4 with somebody else... At the age of 43, you are both beyond the point of bouncing back and fourth and rebounding, y'all should be using this time to build something concrete and meaningful. I will say, I encounter a large amount of women in their mid 40's online and chat with them extensively and most of them just want a nice night out.... Every night. The second the 'Honey-moon Phase' is over and you begin to fall into routines, these women become incredibly bored. If you think you two are exclusive at 3-4 days a week, that is just silly... I guarantee you she has other dudes on the go and the fact that you are just hanging around waiting for your time with her again.. She is essentially trying to build value with you by making herself unavailable, consciously or not. This should tell you, that this is a woman who expects more from you, but thinks her output is enough. Yes, you are a rebound and yes, you are more than likely one of many... I would reckon the ex is involved somewhere here as well. You are a 43 year old man in the PRIME of your life... You have never been better off financially, hopefully you are staying healthy, but regardless... I'm gonna just say it and some people here are not going to like it, but thats ok, because this is about you, not them... You can do better than a woman your own age. Get onto a dating app and set your age range to 27-33... Yes, you will more than likely be a rebound here as well, but you know what? You are also a more valuable man then other men their age at those ages. Date down brother... Find a younger woman and really show her a night out and really woo her, rather than just fulfilling the ambition of some older woman who expects you to do this... I think once you do this, you will see the level of appreciation between the two... You do not have to treat these women nice out here, you don't... They have to earn your respect just as much as you have to earn theirs. Good luck man, I only wish the best for you and I feel like you can do better than some middle aged woman weighing out her options... Light that fire of yours up and let it rage and consume you.. Burn it up man!! 2
Interstellar Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 (edited) Uggggghhhhh.....I’d drop her immediately. Forget her man. Block and Delete her from your life. You could be out there meeting available, hotter and more qualified women. Edited January 25, 2020 by Interstellar 1 1
Juha Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 She sounds damaged from that past relationship, jumped into seeing you and is now questioning herself. She does not trust herself. I would back off and let her come to you, if she does great, if not. don't waste you time on damaged women Go out and find someone who has a clear mind and is healthy to date for a relationship. This woman is not. Don't waste your time on unsure/damaged women. I wish you luck
fromheart Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 There's only one thing to do. Tell her; 'Let me know u feel the same about me, as I do about you. Until then, its goodbye.' There's nothing else that can be done in these situations. The best thing for you to do is disappear. Ignore any other advice and follow this, it will save you heartache and attract the right person to you.
chillii Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 l'm thinking few things at play. And l don't think anyone's mentioned her kids and little daughter but what she said and was feeling would turn any good mother around. l'm surprised the daughter and kids even know about you op , only 3mths , and an ex not long ago no way they should be seeing any new guy around yet nor could they cope with it either. l'm thinking it all got carried away and now she really just can't do things that way because of the kid Also thinking it's turning out to be just too son for her personally too. At any rate whatever the problem she's def not a baby haven;t you two talked about exactly what's going on.
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