basscatcher Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 WoW, I guess I took it the wrong way. I don't know what to say but sorry. I had figured you were poking fun at me..or us..lol.."me and his situation". ANyhow..sorry...I take it back..I've just been getting alot of criticalness latley...specially from him. I feel like a beaten house wife lol....I whinse at the slightest movement lol. ok ok..bad joke~ It's ok SilentPrayer {{{Hugs}}} forgiven!! It's difficult to control our emotions when we feel like we are walking on eggshells. Repeated teasing when I don't want it makes me sensitive and emotional to what others have to say and I become very reactive. I still need to learn to control myself. Do you think thats the Scorpio in me. Men are so frustrating but I love em'.. Just a suggestion: Try not to react when he starts poking fun. Like another poster said if he can get a rise out of you he will. If he can't; he will eventually stop because it wont be fun anymore. He is power playing you.. Talking to him about it when he isnt in a poking-fun mood might help also as long as you don't show too much emotion when talking or he will use that as a weapon. Is he a alpha male???? They seem to like control and sarcasm..
Firehawk Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I feel like some kind of TOOL...I dont know what to make of all of this. He drives me wild..I want him so much..I want to sleep with him...lay with him..touch his body....kiss him...he is so snuggly. Then he starts @ me again....he is so critical. Can I not be anymore perfect? I am a woman, all fingers toes, boobs, cemetrical face...what could he ask more for? That's why he's doing what he's doing- he's making you think about him! He's not trying to be mean or nasty, he's just busting on you and teasing you and maybe picking on you because he knows that you're into him and that by picking on you he can dial up your attraction for him... He clearly wants you, and if you're being honest in what you wrote above then you want him too... Forget about his teasing and picking and go for what you want...
Aimée Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 There are a couple of women who piss me off as well, not only guys. I don't think teasing someone so much is such a good idea. A little bit is ok, but if you make her go crazy about herself, then you're not really showing a lot of social competence, because if you strain someone's patience too often and too much, at one point they will decide that it's too much and kick you out of their live. Then it will be, "Adios amigo".
Firehawk Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 There are a couple of women who piss me off as well, not only guys. I don't think teasing someone so much is such a good idea. A little bit is ok, but if you make her go crazy about herself, then you're not really showing a lot of social competence, because if you strain someone's patience too often and too much, at one point they will decide that it's too much and kick you out of their live. Then it will be, "Adios amigo". Well of course- teasing has to be done lightly and playfully... Playful comments about some fashion fo-pah (especially with a fashionista type girl- or one who fancies herself a fashionista) or something else relatively innocuous can be pure gold when dating... But if you're constantly teasing a girl about her weight or some physical flaw that she's self-conscious about constantly and borderline viciously then you're not teasing- you're being nasty and it's a major turn-off... Oh and for the record, it's "adios muchacho"
Aimée Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Well of course- teasing has to be done lightly and playfully... Playful comments about some fashion fo-pah (especially with a fashionista type girl- or one who fancies herself a fashionista) or something else relatively innocuous can be pure gold when dating... But if you're constantly teasing a girl about her weight or some physical flaw that she's self-conscious about constantly and borderline viciously then you're not teasing- you're being nasty and it's a major turn-off... Well, obviously he is getting a rise out of this and that would be enough for me, but I'm not very patient anyway with this kind of things. Oh and for the record, it's "adios muchacho" Yeah, sorry, I made a mistake, it's "Adios, tonto".
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Well, obviously he is getting a rise out of this and that would be enough for me, but I'm not very patient anyway with this kind of things. Yeah, sorry, I made a mistake, it's "Adios, tonto". Tonta, surely?
Aimée Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Tonta, surely? Honey, when did you undergo surgery?
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Honey, when did you undergo surgery? Is it just me, or are the questions getting more personal?
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Don't call me Surely... I fear some very bad jokes are marching with ill-deserved confidence in the direction of this thread...
Aimée Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Is it just me, or are the questions getting more personal? I thought you liked being open?
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I thought you liked being open? Open yes... opened no. Hold the surgery thanks
lindya Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 I fear some very bad jokes are marching with ill-deserved confidence in the direction of this thread... That's conjured up a nicely surreal image for a Friday.
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 That's conjured up a nicely surreal image for a Friday. I do my best
MassiveAtom Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Hey MassiveA. - long time! It HAS been a long time! I hope all is well with you. when I pulled back you were in a bit of a pickle, hope things have sweetened up for you {{{{HCG}}}} [quoote] That's a good statement - one of the biggest freedoms we all have is to choose our reactions to situations and people, so try not to let his comments get to you. Don't let him control that i.e. you, especially since he's doing it to give you a negative reaction. O.P. If he's doing what others have said he's doing - just enough to keep you interested, then guess what, He likes you. the easiest way to test that is if you keep yourself from getting "caught up in that." when he starts in , change the subject. and quick. That's messed up and unacceptable for him to get his fun out of making you feel miserable - and whichwayisup's suggestion to get back at him by making small penis jokes - I don't think that's going to solve it, but I guess it's worth a try since your reaction so far hasn't made him care enough to stop, so maybe you have to act indifferent to his comments and do the same by saying hurtful things to him? that's messed up though.... she nailed it. Put on your thick skin and he'll back off, if he calls you to meet, tell him you have plans, and really plan to do something. After all, he's just a guy, there are a few billion of us out here after all, there's bound to be one that can keep you interested AND be nice about it. Why DO women dig jerks?
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