Author SurDeFil Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 1 hour ago, introverted1 said: So you're both 27, have been dating 3 months, and no sex? Nothing wrong with going slow, but if he's saying ILY but not advancing sex, something seems off. Gaeta nailed it regarding his ability to recover from his broken engagement. He wanted sex, I wanted to take it slow 1
The Outlaw Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 It's hard to tell but it seems as if he's taking things slow and he may just be a very guarded person until he's more comfortable. And introducing a partner to friends/family is always a big step. But any serious relationship takes time to build. 1
fishlips Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 Three months isn't that long. If you still haven't met his friends and family in another three months, then you might need to be concerned. If he is otherwise treating you well, give it time. As for sex, there is no magic number. Do it when it's right for both of you.
Foxhall Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 12 hours ago, Daisydooks said: Do you have a good friend you could invite him out with? Someone you trust would be nice, calm, collected and also introverted so you could see how he at least interacts with your friends? He may not have friends, but do you? My girl did this with me actually, lol, she was happy with how it went yes sometimes good friends can be hard to come by, I have a small few but more fareweather ones in the main, I agree with you it can be a negative, it is nice to have a circle of friends to introduce and helps build the relationship , but I wouldnt worry about it either, the friends he has are just letting him down or not lending any support.
mortensorchid Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 This is a sticky situation, to be sure. There are people out there who don't have friends / acquaintance, and there are those who do. I find there are few in betweens anymore. I think you have to ask yourself why it is that he doesn't have any friends if he doesn't have any or he's never introduced you to any of them. Does he talk about them at all? Do they live in other cities / states? How often does he communicate with them? etc. I was a very social person when I was younger, I knew everyone, was in the scene, etc. I'm older now (age 45), the scene has changed quite a bit, and I am happy just being by myself and having a good time. Why? There are a lot of reasons behind it - as you get older the want and need to socialize goes down (you've done just about everything at some point, you're tired of people, you want some peace and quiet, people aren't as nice as you thought they were, etc.). If you just want some peace and quiet and some down time, that's fine. Some people, however, don't want to be around others because they are insecure about themselves and being accepted into the group. And some people, however, are the worst types : they think they are better than everyone else (for whatever reason), aren't around others, and when they get involved with someone who does have a social life they do nothing but tear the other's apart because they are destroyers. If this is the case with your bf, reconsider things. I'm sorry if it is.
Author SurDeFil Posted January 25, 2020 Author Posted January 25, 2020 1 hour ago, mortensorchid said: This is a sticky situation, to be sure. There are people out there who don't have friends / acquaintance, and there are those who do. I find there are few in betweens anymore. I think you have to ask yourself why it is that he doesn't have any friends if he doesn't have any or he's never introduced you to any of them. Does he talk about them at all? Do they live in other cities / states? How often does he communicate with them? etc. I was a very social person when I was younger, I knew everyone, was in the scene, etc. I'm older now (age 45), the scene has changed quite a bit, and I am happy just being by myself and having a good time. Why? There are a lot of reasons behind it - as you get older the want and need to socialize goes down (you've done just about everything at some point, you're tired of people, you want some peace and quiet, people aren't as nice as you thought they were, etc.). If you just want some peace and quiet and some down time, that's fine. Some people, however, don't want to be around others because they are insecure about themselves and being accepted into the group. And some people, however, are the worst types : they think they are better than everyone else (for whatever reason), aren't around others, and when they get involved with someone who does have a social life they do nothing but tear the other's apart because they are destroyers. If this is the case with your bf, reconsider things. I'm sorry if it is. He mentiones one friend who lives in his hometown and cousins. He mentioned he meets some other friends sometimes but lately when we talk he never has any plans. He mentiones one colleague but he works with him at home and only from time to time. I have only two friends and sister in the city because I was moving a lot so my social life is not very intense as well.
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