Interstellar Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 On 1/26/2020 at 11:29 AM, SJ1975 said: Not true. She has ignored my message about meeting up. Goodbye. Block and delete. 2 1
Silver_star Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 Have fun with the head games...I mean "the chase". 1 1
Fletch Lives Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 If you are having problems making a second date (you are), she's either not interested or crazy. Either of those things means it's time to move on to the next woman to date. I would also suggest not waiting a year to meet. Ginormous waste of time. Meet within a couple of weeks.
ccas93 Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 (edited) Let's say she actually is interested (which it doesn't sound like she is) and she does like you and wants to date you. I think the chances of you being happy with her are pretty slim. She sounds unavailable, confusing, game playing and like a poor communicator, which frustrates you or confuses you to the extent of analyzing her behavior on this website. Before dating her has even started, there are already trust and communication issues. Do you really want to annoy yourself like this for however long? I've tried dating women like this and let me tell you, it's a nightmare. People who are actually interested and don't suck at communicating do exist. Edited February 5, 2020 by ccas93 4
Author SJ1975 Posted February 5, 2020 Author Posted February 5, 2020 21 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: If you are having problems making a second date (you are), she's either not interested or crazy. Either of those things means it's time to move on to the next woman to date. I would also suggest not waiting a year to meet. Ginormous waste of time. Meet within a couple of weeks. We didn't wait a year, that would be insane . We were both on and off dating apps that's all and nothing was really arranged.. I'm going to ask her to meet this weekend or early next week or forget it. If she wasn't interested she would have said.
Silver_star Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 "If she wasnt interested she would have said"...really though? The girl that has been on and off dating apps for a year is so sure of what she wants? I doubt that. Same with you, have you asked yourself why are you so drawn to her?
Author SJ1975 Posted February 6, 2020 Author Posted February 6, 2020 I've sacked her off. Can't be doing with her games and head frying! Next!
manfrombelow2 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 On 1/24/2020 at 6:25 AM, SJ1975 said: Hi People Hope we are all keeping well and entertained. Me and the recent divorced woman and long over and I've moved on and hit gold with my new date! This young woman is beautiful inside and out and to win her I need to be on form, proper form. We've been chatting on dating sites for the last 12 months now and met for the first time this week....and boy...we both said things went better than expected. She was the one which instigated a little kiss and she was the one which asked me if we could see eachother again. She was the one which messaged first after the date. So,.the signs are good. We are meeting again at the weekend so I will keep you posted on events. This girl has the potential to rock my world...and some! She is definitely someone who I could be with. I look forward to sharing my experiences with you all.... Hi, not trying to discourage your new found joy but from your tone and (supposedly) inexperienced love life (due to the long marriage), I am very afraid this is going to end very badly for you. From the way you already put her on a pedestial ("And to win her I need to be on proper form" and "This girl has the potential to rock my world"), I am positive you will gradually lose your sense of self by over-investing into this woman to the point she will have no choices but running away. Oh, and this one: "we both said things went better than expected" is meaningless. It was only YOUR projection and HER lip-service, nothing else.
manfrombelow2 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 1 hour ago, SJ1975 said: I've sacked her off. Can't be doing with her games and head frying! Next! I didn't see this post. You are saying that you have "sacked her off" as if you did everything right and she did everything wrong to the point you decided that she didn't deserve your love and attention anymore. But from my experience, you are getting butt-hurt over a woman whom you didn't know how to seduce properly.
Author SJ1975 Posted February 6, 2020 Author Posted February 6, 2020 6 hours ago, thaygiaogiang said: I didn't see this post. You are saying that you have "sacked her off" as if you did everything right and she did everything wrong to the point you decided that she didn't deserve your love and attention anymore. But from my experience, you are getting butt-hurt over a woman whom you didn't know how to seduce properly. You know absolutely nothing about me and I find your comments hilarious. My inexperienced love life and long term marriage?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 On 1/23/2020 at 3:25 PM, SJ1975 said: We've been chatting on dating sites for the last 12 months now and met for the first time this week....and boy...we both said things went better than expected. One wonders what the OP envisioned that people say, if they're still talking at all, following a first encounter?
mortensorchid Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 On 1/23/2020 at 9:32 PM, Ami1uwant said: Why did you wait 12 months to meet... Yes why 12 months? I think that person would have lost interest long ago after a certain point.
manfrombelow2 Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 8 hours ago, SJ1975 said: You know absolutely nothing about me and I find your comments hilarious. My inexperienced love life and long term marriage? Judging by the emoji, YES!!!
Author SJ1975 Posted February 7, 2020 Author Posted February 7, 2020 2 hours ago, thaygiaogiang said: Judging by the emoji, YES!!! Incorrect
Author SJ1975 Posted February 20, 2020 Author Posted February 20, 2020 Well folks, this girl made contact with me last week and I agreed to meet her. We met on 14th Feb and had a nice evening together. We chilled, chatted and it was great...we had a great spark and there was plenty of passion. We then arranged to go to the city the following weekend to the theatre and for a meal. She suggested a hotel and booked it faster than you can say 'loveshack'. So, we were all set. We also spent Sunday evening together and things just carried on from the previous Friday. We had a nice meal and some drinks and again a fair bit of passion too, which she lead. Conversation flowed and there was not one awkward moment. We felt comfortable together. Tuesday night she came over to mine and we had a nice time again, pretty much perfect. She spoke about her ex and what he was like and what is was like being with him. They remain friends because of their daughter. We found out more about each other which was nice. For her to come to mine involved a 30 minute train journey and 10 minute taxi ride....so she made an effort. She also bought me a couple of gifts, which was nice of her. (A bottle opener of my fave beer and box of chocs). Next morning we were messaging and chatting about what we were upto (general chit chat stuff) and how much we were looking forward to the weekend. It was all good. BUT later in the evening I received a gigantic message from her saying that she's an emotional wreck and can't go this weekend, this came from nowhere. She said she just can't do it. She's not ready for a relationship and it scares her. She says she's petrified. I have no idea what shes scared of and she won't tell me. I wanted to speak with her properly but it wasn't a good time as she was working late. She's now gone back to being the woman previously and just cutting me off. (I actually mentioned this to her and she was disgusted with actions and hates what she did. She said when she gets close these walls/barriers just come down) Obviously I'm pretty bloody angry with her. I paid for the theatre and the tickets are non refundable but also because I was content and thought things were going in the direction. Also angry as she's super messed me about this time too and I asked her not too. I also like the girl, god knows why. She was saying to me previously that I make her happy and that she hasn't felt a connection like this for a long time. She kept saying how nice it felt to have met someone like me. We were planning to do things in March and she invited me to her friends wedding towards the end of the month...weird huh. This would explain her behaviour at the start. She thought she was ready for a relationship but isn't. I dont understand her. It's a shame because we get on, have quite a lot in common and we had some passion together too (not full sex). She's also a very sweet girl too. I don't hate her, just very disappointed. So it looks like I met another 40 year old woman damaged by their previous relationship.....lessons to be learned here!
Author SJ1975 Posted February 20, 2020 Author Posted February 20, 2020 Think I've dodged a bullet though
Erik30 Posted February 20, 2020 Posted February 20, 2020 Yeah you basically wasted a year talking to this woman. She probably felt lonely around Valentine's day when you got to see her again, it seems like she still has feelings for her ex... You were pretty much a rebound, except you didn't at least get some sex out of it. I would just move on and forget about her 1
Author SJ1975 Posted February 20, 2020 Author Posted February 20, 2020 11 minutes ago, Erik30 said: Yeah you basically wasted a year talking to this woman. She probably felt lonely around Valentine's day when you got to see her again, it seems like she still has feelings for her ex... You were pretty much a rebound, except you didn't at least get some sex out of it. I would just move on and forget about her Yes but I wasn't a rebound as she and the ex split two years ago now. She says she doesnt have feelings for her ex but I'm not sure about that. Anyway, I thought I'd share the story so others don't waste their time too on women like this.
Miss Spider Posted February 20, 2020 Posted February 20, 2020 (edited) Maybe she is still hung up on her ex maybe not, but she was never really that interested, that’s why you had to chase so hard. She was just going with it because you did. Many people are scared to get in new rships but it doesn’t stop them from doing it if it’s someone they really like. Sorry. Nope. Learning to read signs of disinterest that aren’t obvious is key. There’s a better match for you out there. Edited February 20, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Author SJ1975 Posted February 21, 2020 Author Posted February 21, 2020 7 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Maybe she is still hung up on her ex maybe not, but she was never really that interested, that’s why you had to chase so hard. She was just going with it because you did. Many people are scared to get in new rships but it doesn’t stop them from doing it if it’s someone they really like. Sorry. Nope. Learning to read signs of disinterest that aren’t obvious is key. There’s a better match for you out there. I think she's just messed up and confused. She said that every day following our first date she thought about me and regretted her actions. She chased me to have a second date and begged me to give her another chance. Inviting me to her friends wedding at the end of March one day and the next day saying she's scared to start a relationship. Come on, that's just f***ed up! She's not a match right now, no.
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