SJ1975 Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 Hi People Hope we are all keeping well and entertained. Me and the recent divorced woman and long over and I've moved on and hit gold with my new date! This young woman is beautiful inside and out and to win her I need to be on form, proper form. We've been chatting on dating sites for the last 12 months now and met for the first time this week....and boy...we both said things went better than expected. She was the one which instigated a little kiss and she was the one which asked me if we could see eachother again. She was the one which messaged first after the date. So,.the signs are good. We are meeting again at the weekend so I will keep you posted on events. This girl has the potential to rock my world...and some! She is definitely someone who I could be with. I look forward to sharing my experiences with you all....
K.K. Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 3 hours ago, SJ1975 said: I look forward to sharing my experiences with you all.... Don’t forget the details. 2
alphamale Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 I look forward to the next chapter with much glee...make sure you use a rubber
Author SJ1975 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 We were both on and off dating sites/apps over this period...I first spoke to her 12 months ago and then again last June so it's been pretty sporadic.
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 Quick update: She is a very unusual young woman. As you know we were supposed to meet up yesterday, which she arranged....anyway we didn't. I messaged her on Friday to make arrangements for our date, no response. She messaged back yesterday asking me how I am but ignored my message. I asked her if she wanted to meet up again....but again no reply. So, I sent her a message this morning saying good bye and good luck and she replied pretty quickly saying she didn't think I was interested. I will call her later and see if she answers. I won't be chasing her after today. I dont want to invest in a time waster 1 1
schlumpy Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 You have her real name? Pay the fee to one of the investigative websites. Plug her name in and see what come up.
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 30 minutes ago, schlumpy said: You have her real name? Pay the fee to one of the investigative websites. Plug her name in and see what come up. That sounds like too much effort and I really can't be that bothered. I'm actually in two minds to even phone her later. Edging towards knocking it on the head. Can't be doing with her head f.ck
elaine567 Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 31 minutes ago, schlumpy said: You have her real name? Pay the fee to one of the investigative websites. Plug her name in and see what come up. Why bother? She is obviously not interested. 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 2 hours ago, SJ1975 said: I messaged her on Friday to make arrangements for our date, no response. Time to pull your line out of the water, move the boat and fish in a different part of the lake.
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 3 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Why bother? She is obviously not interested. She hasn't actually said that she isn't. She was the one which organised yesterday, not me. She was like this twelve month's ago when we hadn't even met. God knows what's going through her head, she's probably conversing to a bunch of guys and gets her head turned. Her loss
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 I think the whole problem is that she is the one who has had to initiate everything, and that's why she's saying she didn't think you were interested. Because she had to initiate the kiss and messages and about going out again. And now you can't be bothered to call her. 2
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 1 hour ago, preraph said: I think the whole problem is that she is the one who has had to initiate everything, and that's why she's saying she didn't think you were interested. Because she had to initiate the kiss and messages and about going out again. And now you can't be bothered to call her. Not true. She has ignored my message about meeting up.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 You said yourself she initiated everything. You thought that was a good thing. Before I even read the rest I was thinking he's blowing it. You don't have to lead all the time, but women have better attraction for assertive men, although it's nice when one does not have to call all the shots all the time and is flexible. Call her and see if you can change her mind, and if she will go out with you, you'll be the one who initiates the kiss this time.
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 9 minutes ago, preraph said: You said yourself she initiated everything. You thought that was a good thing. Before I even read the rest I was thinking he's blowing it. You don't have to lead all the time, but women have better attraction for assertive men, although it's nice when one does not have to call all the shots all the time and is flexible. Call her and see if you can change her mind, and if she will go out with you, you'll be the one who initiates the kiss this time. I will call her, I just don't like to messed about by people and so far I feel she's messing me about. I am a believer in treating people how I like to be treated. I have no idea why she would think that I am not interested, that's really bizare..but if we speak I'll listen to her
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 You probably aren't a match, but at least if you call her you'll know you did everything to find out. Good luck. 1
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 5 minutes ago, preraph said: You probably aren't a match, but at least if you call her you'll know you did everything to find out. Good luck. Probably not being honest but let's see hey.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 You might find out a little more what happened at least.
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 7 minutes ago, preraph said: You might find out a little more what happened at least. That's the plan 1
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 No answer She might be working to be fair but I never expected to answer. What an usual girl. This dating thing really is a load of rubbish 1 1
Miss Spider Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 (edited) 9 minutes ago, SJ1975 said: No answer She might be working to be fair but I never expected to answer. What an usual girl. This dating thing really is a load of rubbish Sorry you’re feeling disappointed, but this had bad news written all over it. You shouldn’t be putting all your eggs in the basket of one person youve never met before. You were gassing this girl up majorly before you even met her, much less got to know her. Next time a girl blows off your date with no valid explanation, next them. You may feel disappointed, but not nearly as much Edited January 26, 2020 by Cookiesandough 2
Author SJ1975 Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 28 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Sorry you’re feeling disappointed, but this had bad news written all over it. You shouldn’t be putting all your eggs in the basket of one person youve never met before. You were gassing this girl up majorly before you even met her, much less got to know her. Next time a girl blows off your date with no valid explanation, next them. You may feel disappointed, but not nearly as much I met her 1 1
Author SJ1975 Posted February 5, 2020 Author Posted February 5, 2020 (edited) Well, this story of mine may just start up again. I sent her a message yesterday, just a simple 'how are you' and this started a light discussion with her. We were messaging for a few hours. She said she really wants to meet again and that we'll sort something very soon, although nothing yet planned. This is a little weird...but maybe she's busy with work. She works various shifts, and quite possibly nights. She said that she didn't think that I was interested in her. Well, I've now made my position pretty clear and put my cards on the table so there is no excuse. She's flakey, very flakey and something isn't quite right but she's not telling me no, she's just a little odd. When we met she was totally different and I had her complete attention. Maybe she's dating others, who knows. She's hard work and she's making me chase her and I told her this. I've met tons of women on dating sites and most of them never got as far as a second date. But this one ticks the boxes. I really want to meet this girl again but don't want to come across desperate. I didn't ask her out for a date last night and left it for her to come back to me. But I dont want to wait. Any ideas on how to play this? Would you give her a day or two then get in touch and ask or just leave it to her? It's her birthday next week too. Edited February 5, 2020 by SJ1975
Bobbyb82 Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 3 hours ago, SJ1975 said: Well, this story of mine may just start up again. I sent her a message yesterday, just a simple 'how are you' and this started a light discussion with her. We were messaging for a few hours. She said she really wants to meet again and that we'll sort something very soon, although nothing yet planned. This is a little weird...but maybe she's busy with work. She works various shifts, and quite possibly nights. She said that she didn't think that I was interested in her. Well, I've now made my position pretty clear and put my cards on the table so there is no excuse. She's flakey, very flakey and something isn't quite right but she's not telling me no, she's just a little odd. When we met she was totally different and I had her complete attention. Maybe she's dating others, who knows. She's hard work and she's making me chase her and I told her this. I've met tons of women on dating sites and most of them never got as far as a second date. But this one ticks the boxes. I really want to meet this girl again but don't want to come across desperate. I didn't ask her out for a date last night and left it for her to come back to me. But I dont want to wait. Any ideas on how to play this? Would you give her a day or two then get in touch and ask or just leave it to her? It's her birthday next week too. Don't leave it up to her... you have to make the date happen. I do think she may not follow through though, but you need to ask. If she doesn't set a date and show up, just wait until she contacts you again. No need to hash anything out. 1
Author SJ1975 Posted February 5, 2020 Author Posted February 5, 2020 36 minutes ago, Bobbyb82 said: Don't leave it up to her... you have to make the date happen. I do think she may not follow through though, but you need to ask. If she doesn't set a date and show up, just wait until she contacts you again. No need to hash anything out. That's what I'm thinking I need to initiate things. I love the chase it's all good fun, but it is annoying though!
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