NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 I don't mean fat. My father is a very broad shouldered/solid torso guy. He's a natural mesomorph & very strong (e.g. lifting 100lb barbells, no steroids when younger/gym goer). Where he's from in the UK even before genetic research (confirmed in a way by legit genetic research not 23&me, a local has 7 times the saxon/viking dna as he did celtic) it was seen by historians/researchers as a rather teutonic region & to be a bit silly if you thought of a Viking he'd fit the stature/mold. I inherited his stature. Solid/heavy bone & solid/broad torso. Strong. I'm not fat. I am actually quite physically fit. I don't have something like a man's jaw or anything like that (my features get a lot of compliments actually) it's just I'm no slim, no real bone (or muscle) mass, girlie girl.
preraph Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 I'm kind of big framed myself even when skinny. Some men don't pay as much attention to that as others. It's not ideal, but if you try to make yourself look feminine with your clothing to offset it that will help, and sounds like you have a nice face. Just don't start wearing manly clothes and stay thin as long as possible.
Author NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 (edited) 10 minutes ago, alphamale said: what's your height and weight? 5'4", 160lbs. Nothing obese (per myself, friends or the dr). If I weighed what is "normal" per BMI (120ish lbs) I'd look more like I'm starved. Edited January 23, 2020 by NordKvinne
sothereiwas Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 That's pretty hefty, which is not my thing but as long as you're healthy I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there for you. If I was looking, I probably wouldn't approach you but if we were in a situation where we got to know each other and we clicked who knows what might happen. Maybe you can make those situations happen and see. Shared hobbies or interests are not a bad way to go. 1
Author NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 (edited) 2 minutes ago, sothereiwas said: That's pretty hefty, which is not my thing but as long as you're healthy I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there for you. If I was looking, I probably wouldn't approach you but if we were in a situation where we got to know each other and we clicked who knows what might happen. Maybe you can make those situations happen and see. Shared hobbies or interests are not a bad way to go. Hefty? Predominantly muscle & bone. It's why I can do 200lb shoulder presses, 375lb leg presses, and run track. I don't look fat in the slightest most people don't even come close - cutting it by 30 lbs or more - to imagining my actual weight. Edited January 23, 2020 by NordKvinne 1
gaius Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 Khloe Kardashian inherited OJ Simpsons body type, looks like she could play linebacker in the NFL, and she's been married and gets dates. I'm guessing the main thing that holds her back is that she's just an idiot. If you're smart with who you pick it shouldn't matter. Like with all women. 2 1
sothereiwas Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 5 minutes ago, NordKvinne said: Hefty? Predominantly muscle & bone. Yeah, I think that's the right word. I'm essentially built the same way, just quite a bit taller, and when I was younger I was what I would call hefty or husky. My sister came from the same gene pool and she's married with a couple teenage daughters so it can work out. As I said, I'd recommend you consider strategies that work around any initial approach / attraction deficiencies and carry on. Half the population is male after all. Good luck.
Legatus Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 That's the problem. You asked a question on a forum where we can only "judge it" by textual context. You are totally right that it all depends on what you look like, because then it doesn't mean whether it's 160lb or 120lb, especially if, as you confirmed, nobody can even guess it. In this case you won't get any satisfying response here because it's all about the looks and personal preferences rather than just numbers or descriptions of "broad".
alphamale Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 31 minutes ago, NordKvinne said: 5'4", 160lbs. Nothing obese (per myself, friends or the dr). If I weighed what is "normal" per BMI (120ish lbs) I'd look more like I'm starved. yeah you're fine 1
thefooloftheyear Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 9 minutes ago, NordKvinne said: Hefty? Predominantly muscle & bone. It's why I can do 200lb shoulder presses, 375lb leg presses, and run track. I don't look fat in the slightest most people don't even come close - cutting it by 30 lbs or more - to imagining my actual weight. That's terrific, and I am sure you would make a great training partner, but you are asking what guys like... Most guys like petite women..that aren't wide or beefy...and have a body type that is feminine.. But that doesn't doom you to celibacy...no more than it would do the same for a short guy...You need to find a guy that is not that hung up on that prototypical IG model body type If you have other attractive traits then you wont have that much trouble, just understand that a percentage of guys wont like it... TFY 3
CAPITAL CROOK Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 For men who just want to date, it might be a turn off, but for a dude who wants kids, especially another meso like your dad, it will be a really attractive trait to possess, I would consider yourself in a good position for a dude who wants kids.
mark clemson Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 Hmm. When I google mesomorph, the women I see in comparisons to other types are actually the most shapely. You sure you don't mean endomorph? At any rate, I think it doesn't matter very much esp. with a pretty face. Be friendly, open, flirtations, free with your charms. Men in general tend to be easy. 1
Author NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 13 minutes ago, mark clemson said: Hmm. When I google mesomorph, the women I see in comparisons to other types are actually the most shapely. You sure you don't mean endomorph? At any rate, I think it doesn't matter very much esp. with a pretty face. Be friendly, open, flirtations, free with your charms. Men in general tend to be easy. Endomorph = fat. I don't think someone who is legitimately fat can run & some in 2nd in university level track & field, do you? 2 1
Author NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 (edited) Since some of you can't differentiate fat from solid let me elaborate. Till Linderrman of Rammstein, is he fat? Steve Austin, pro wrestler, is he fat? Dave Bautista, pro wrestler, is he fat? That's the sort of stature my father has. Big, solid broad guy. Someone that were it his mentality to be a fighter you'd be plain stupid to try & take in a one on one physical confrontation. He used to as a teen shatter big old granite boulders with an iron pipe laying fence & as said lifted 100lb barbells one handed with no steroids (which a lot of 'tough guys' take today to think they've got muscle). I inherited his stature. Am I fat? Hardly. As said from the start I am physically fit. I used to hike 5+ hours as a teen in the Rocky Mountains. If I didn't work out at the gym 3 hours every couple days (the average gym user works out maybe 1 hour once or twice a week) I'd be able to cut down to 140lbs. But there's no way I could be "skinny" like some girls with arms & legs so thin & brittle looking they could be snapped like chicken bones in comparison without looking as if I am anorexic. I understand guys like petite girls. It's the protector ideology. But it's foolish (and ignorant) to associate big = fat. I'm sure none of you guys saying big girl = fat girl would dare say that to a legitimate big guy without being half way across the parking lot already. In every other way I am quite feminine - mannerism, personality, looks (I've been compared to one of my grandmother's friends - Elizabeth Taylor - on looks so I don't lack there). Edited January 23, 2020 by NordKvinne
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 How old are you? What has your dating experience been like?
2BGoodAgain Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 ehhh.... it matters less... it really depends on the person... honestly, if a guy you're dating or want to date is stuck on that.. it's best to bypass him anyway... more trouble and issues later on. find a guy who "sees" YOU.... anything less is... well, not worth your heart. 1
sothereiwas Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 12 minutes ago, NordKvinne said: Since some of you can't differentiate fat from solid let me elaborate. I don't see anyone in this thread saying you're fat. Care to share the post where someone did that? Maybe being really defensive and ready to fight over a non-issue is a little off-putting? Physically you sound fine, just a bit atypical and not everyone's stereotypical dream bod, but who is? Roll with it. 3
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 1 minute ago, sothereiwas said: I don't see anyone in this thread saying you're fat. Care to share the post where someone did that? Maybe being really defensive and ready to fight over a non-issue is a little off-putting? Physically you sound fine, just a bit atypical and not everyone's stereotypical dream bod, but who is? Roll with it. Yeah, I'm kinda sensing a combative personality may be more the issue here......that's why I asked her age and dating experience. 5
Author NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, sothereiwas said: I don't see anyone in this thread saying you're fat. Care to share the post where someone did that? Maybe being really defensive and ready to fight over a non-issue is a little off-putting? Physically you sound fine, just a bit atypical and not everyone's stereotypical dream bod, but who is? Roll with it. Mark Clemson said it directly by referring to endomorph which is, all in all, more typical of a fat person. There's implied indication big = fat in some comments but he's the most obvious one. Edited January 23, 2020 by NordKvinne
Author NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 14 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: How old are you? What has your dating experience been like? Later 20s. In all honesty, nothing much different from a more typically slender friend. Like said the stature's the issue not the personality or looks. I am & look fit. It can be intimidating to some guys whose MO is rather petite girls but all in all there's really no terrible deviation.
thefooloftheyear Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 (edited) 9 minutes ago, NordKvinne said: Mark Clemson said it directly by referring to endomorph which is, all in all, a fat person. There's implied indication big = fat in some comments but he's the most obvious one. To be fair, though, understand that even a woman your height with a muscular physique wouldn't weigh 160......More like 130/135....Without a photo, its would be hard to say... Do you have "curves"? Seems like most guys will tolerate/attract to heavier women if they still have somewhat of an hourglass shape..even if exaggerated...The ones that seem to struggle the most are the apple shaped or block shaped women... Women like guys that are taller and bigger than they are and men like the opposite...It is what it is.... TFY Edited January 23, 2020 by thefooloftheyear
Ruby Slippers Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 I'm tall with an athletic frame and it's not a problem. You've probably gotten some stupid comments like I have, but just ignore those guys. Some tall, athletic men love tall, athletic women. I've dated men exactly my height who have no issue with it and even seem to prefer it. I used to worry that men only want small, petite women, but it was a silly worry. There are plenty of men who like and even prefer different types. Own who you are. Confidence is extremely attractive in men and women - to potential dating partners, friends, professional connections, to everybody. 2
introverted1 Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 You do know that the theory of somatotypes has been debunked? And that it doesn't require being big or solid (or whatever you want to call it) to be strong? There's someone for everyone. While some guys prefer slim women, I am sure there are others who will like your appearance just fine.
Author NordKvinne Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 16 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said: To be fair, though, understand that even a woman your height with a muscular physique wouldn't weigh 160......More like 130/135....Without a photo, its would be hard to say... Do you have "curves"? Seems like most guys will tolerate/attract to heavier women if they still have somewhat of an hourglass shape..even if exaggerated...The ones that seem to struggle the most are the apple shaped or block shaped women... Women like guys that are taller and bigger than they are and men like the opposite...It is what it is.... TFY I'm not typical of the average body stature. There's a difference between simple muscle & bone / muscular. It's why the BMI is a horrific scale for anyone of Northern Germanic or old Central European background because the damn thing is based off of Mediterraneans & E. Asiatics about as solid as twigs in comparison. As said I could make 140lb without looking as if a starved twit. https://www.newsbreak.ng/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/feat-768x471.jpg. Inverted triangles don't really have curves.
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