Sarastar7 Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 We. We’re 2gther 8 years and I had no idea she was unhappy. She just dumped me & moved out and I’m heartbroken. Two days later she is texting me I’m the love of her life and she doesn’t want me out of her life.. what is your opinion??
Daisydooks Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 Was there a blow up/fight before she walked out? Maybe she stormed out angry and regrets it? You were together a long time so I imagine you are the love of her life. It sounds like you have to figure out what made her leave? Do you know? Has she given any info other than "I'm not happy." I'm really sorry.
K.K. Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 2 hours ago, Vibi45 said: We. We’re 2gther 8 years and I had no idea she was unhappy. She just dumped me & moved out and I’m heartbroken. Two days later she is texting me I’m the love of her life and she doesn’t want me out of her life.. what is your opinion?? I knew 2 girls that this happened to. Same amount of years together. One of them moved out and kept sending texts like that to the other. The moving out was to relieve her guilt and to be free to keep seeing the new girl she had been sleeping with. The “love of my life” texts were to keep her on the back burner until she got the cheating out of her system and went back home. Not saying this is the case with you and your girl. But keep those eyes wide open. 1
JTSW Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 Hi Vibi45, It's certainly a little odd. My first thought also was that she has met someone. And also that she wants to keep you around in case it doesn't work out.
schlumpy Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 2 hours ago, K.K. said: I knew 2 girls that this happened to. Same amount of years together. One of them moved out and kept sending texts like that to the other. The moving out was to relieve her guilt and to be free to keep seeing the new girl she had been sleeping with. The “love of my life” texts were to keep her on the back burner until she got the cheating out of her system and went back home. Not saying this is the case with you and your girl. I concur. This is the most likely scenario. I'm sorry to agree. I know it must hurt. The worst thing you can do now is allow her to drop you into the friend zone where she can feed hope and keep you as a backup plan. If she wants to try her wings let her do it on her own resources. That's going to be hard, I know. Within any relationship, one of the two always loves more than the other and that's you. Just remember that no contact is the only true friend you have right now.
Author Sarastar7 Posted January 23, 2020 Author Posted January 23, 2020 So you all agree I should not respond to her.. just ignore her ass.... I don’t think it has anything to do with another person. She has two kids. And one of them hated me for no reason. The kid has mental problems and was unhealthy. I told her she couldn’t come to our house thst she would have to spend her weekends with the kid at her parents house. I lm pretty sure it was that that made her bounce ...
scooby-philly Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 We need more information to provide better advice. It would be weird for a parent to not confront you earlier/sooner if the situation with their child was causing a problem. And even so, you have to get along with kids. If they hate you or you hate them, it can never work out great. Period. Unless they're over 18. Especially under 12 - if there's a problem you shouldn't stay.
Author Sarastar7 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 (edited) 21 hours ago, Sarastar7 said: Edited January 24, 2020 by Sarastar7
K.K. Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 11 hours ago, Sarastar7 said: So you all agree I should not respond to her.. just ignore her ass.... I don’t think it has anything to do with another person. She has two kids. And one of them hated me for no reason. The kid has mental problems and was unhealthy. I told her she couldn’t come to our house thst she would have to spend her weekends with the kid at her parents house. I lm pretty sure it was that that made her bounce .. . Hi Well, you didn’t mention that the first time so given this new information, I’d say yes that could indeed be the reason why she flew the coop. I don’t have any but I hear people are really touchy about their kids lol You heard anything from her?
Daisydooks Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 (edited) I still dont think you should respond, regardless, and feel more strongly about it now at the mention of kids/not getting along with said kids. After 8 years, she should have been able to say "I left because of x, y, and z." If you do respond, a simple, "if I'm the love of your life, why the f*** arent you here? Why did you leave because I'm genuinely confused." I assume she went to her parents to live there? Edited January 24, 2020 by Daisydooks 1
Author Sarastar7 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 Hi daisy.. my gf was highly immature. The kid had mental problems. She lived with the dad but would visit our home. She would do things like make up lies about abuse in the home to take us to court.. the list goes on and on. The kid was dangerous- I said I don’t feel safe- she didn’t care and was like it’s my kid- I said take her elsewhere on the weekends u have her cAuse I don’t feel safe and so this was the demise of it all. Our therapist agreed with me and think that pissed her off more- so then she dumped me- but then blowing me up how she misses me etc 1
Author Sarastar7 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 1 hour ago, Daisydooks said: I still dont think you should respond, regardless, and feel more strongly about it now at the mention of kids/not getting along with said kids. After 8 years, she should have been able to say "I left because of x, y, and z." If you do respond, a simple, "if I'm the love of your life, why the f*** arent you here? Why did you leave because I'm genuinely confused." I assume she went to her parents to live there? I responded to you in the feed.. sorry I’m new to this 1
Daisydooks Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 So its seems that NC would be best. She made her bed. She chose her kid, as she should, and left. It is never ok to feel unsafe in your home. I know you both probably wanted a healthier relationship, but it just hasnt worked out that way She probably does miss you. She is also a mother first though.
JTSW Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 2 hours ago, Sarastar7 said: my gf was highly immature. The kid had mental problems. She would do things like make up lies about abuse in the home to take us to court.The kid was dangerous- I said I don’t feel safe- she didn’t care and was like it’s my kid. Our therapist agreed with me and think that pissed her off more- so then she dumped me- but then blowing me up how she misses me etc I have to agree with the others not to respond to her. She made her choice so she'll have to live with it. You didn't feel safe with her child and she did nothing to help that. That's not love. Block her number. 1
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