beentheredonethat77 Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 everyone's different but ive definitely had successful relationships where we see eachother every day, and this same relationship started off long-distance where we would go for weeks/months without seeing eachother (with sexy Skype time)--- So IMHO it depends on the individuals, the chemistry and what works at that point in both your lives.
Author ljwentworth32 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 1 hour ago, elaine567 said: Some girls will never or only rarely plan dates. are you serious? this is why I hate dating. Not that I won't plan but I want some sort of effort. Never planning any dates as a girl = I find another girl. 1
Interstellar Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 8 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Plus guys want sex everyday. I don’t see how they’d be happy in a relationship only seeing gf once a week. I disagree, not all guys. There’s a lot of tv shows I need to catch up on I still have to watch True Detective season 3, Westworld season 2, His Dark Materials..etc..etc....etc...I haven’t even seen Stranger Things yet. 1
Daisydooks Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 3 hours ago, ljwentworth32 said: kinda hoping after a short bit it'll be more even in the date planning I wouldnt do this if it were me, but if you're bothered by her lack of asking to her together/planning and feel its thoughtless on her part, you can say something but be NICE. She may just feel awkward saying "I want to see you Friday!" Hahaha Behave when saying it if she is genuinely someone you enjoy. Maybe say something along the lines of, "Why dont you plan a date out for us? A place you'd love to go and a place you'd take me to have a good time together. Surprise me! I'd love to see what you come up with." Butttt and it's a BIG OLD BUT, just as Enigma said, fortune "favours the bold." If you want to keep dating her, keep choosing to initiate and be vulnerable in planning ahead with her. If she likes you, she will dig that. If she isnt that into you, she wont. Lol! I'm on "team shut up and plan the next date." 1
Daisydooks Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 There may actually be a reason she doesnt feel entitled to your Saturdays yet... so she may not ask for them. That's all I'm saying. I am not someone who is all "you are a man and must do the planning forever!" Hahahaha I know in the early stages of dating my fiance I was timid in my approach. Reading this thread, I see why that may have been misconstrued. It wasnt thank God! Lol! By week 8, we had met a handful of times and I really didnt know my place in his life outside the small amount of time I'd spent with him.
Author ljwentworth32 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 4 hours ago, MsJayne said: Couple of times a week, any less and I lose both the interest and the connection. my friends (guys and girls) all say the same. I have a busy schedule but at least once a week for me. if i don't see you for 2-3 weeks, I sometimes forget I'm even seeing you. 2
Author ljwentworth32 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Posted January 24, 2020 10 minutes ago, Daisydooks said: I wouldnt do this if it were me, but if you're bothered by her lack of asking to her together/planning and feel its thoughtless on her part, you can say something but be NICE. She may just feel awkward saying "I want to see you Friday!" Hahaha Behave when saying it if she is genuinely someone you enjoy. Maybe say something along the lines of, "Why dont you plan a date out for us? A place you'd love to go and a place you'd take me to have a good time together. Surprise me! I'd love to see what you come up with." Butttt and it's a BIG OLD BUT, just as Enigma said, fortune "favours the bold." If you want to keep dating her, keep choosing to initiate and be vulnerable in planning ahead with her. If she likes you, she will dig that. If she isnt that into you, she wont. Lol! I'm on "team shut up and plan the next date." thats a good way to put it. I like the tact. Might havee to try that sometime. 1
balletomane Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 I saw my boyfriend once a week during the first couple of months, but that was because I was on nights at work and nights turn me into a zombie who can only think about food, sleep, and caffeine. When I rotated back to days we started spending more time together. I also did most of the date planning in the early stages, but that was because of my shift pattern. I wanted to choose low-key dates that weren't going to make me feel even more exhausted. It wasn't an ideal time to start dating someone new, looking back, but it worked out. I agree with the posters who suggest that you tactfully ask your date to plan something. If she's always enthusiastic about your suggestions and seems happy to see you, she's probably just feeling a bit shy and needs some encouragement. 1
Andy_K Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 I remember many years back when I used to play WoW, I was a committed raider, maybe 3 times a week for 3-4 hour stretch in the evening. Had a gf at the time I was seeing 3-4 times a week, so inevitably there was a clash at some point. I said I was busy and wouldn't be able to see her, explained why, and she said she'd just come over and watch. I said the game required 100% concentration and I wouldn't be able to pay her any attention till it finished. Again, she said it was fine. Turned out it wasn't. She kicked up a massive fuss halfway through the evening. I learned something that day... 1 1
smackie9 Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 7 hours ago, Andy_K said: I remember many years back when I used to play WoW, I was a committed raider, maybe 3 times a week for 3-4 hour stretch in the evening. Had a gf at the time I was seeing 3-4 times a week, so inevitably there was a clash at some point. I said I was busy and wouldn't be able to see her, explained why, and she said she'd just come over and watch. I said the game required 100% concentration and I wouldn't be able to pay her any attention till it finished. Again, she said it was fine. Turned out it wasn't. She kicked up a massive fuss halfway through the evening. I learned something that day... Find a girl that plays wow....problem solved. 1 1
Miss Spider Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 Dream guy plays mmorpgs with me. We’d see each other every day to duo.
alphamale Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 3 hours ago, enigma32 said: Haha true story. In my WOW addiction days, my then GF also played. I built her a gaming rig to sit right next to me. She kept my HP up while I destroyed everyone in battlegrounds. I think WOW kept her and I together longer than we would have been together otherwise. wtf is WOW??
RecentChange Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 (edited) 5 minutes ago, alphamale said: World of Warcraft Edited January 24, 2020 by RecentChange 1
alphamale Posted January 25, 2020 Posted January 25, 2020 2 hours ago, RecentChange said: World of Warcraft I see...my fascination with video games ended in my early twenties
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