Cersei Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 Gaeta I have no real words of encouragement here but I am wishing you the best in whatever you 2 decide to do. Sometimes life gets a bit overrwehelming so take everything in stride and take care of you! 2
Ruby Slippers Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 My mom said menopause was hell. I never heard her complain about anything so much. Make time for yourself - hot bubble baths, a professional massage, lunch with a friend, whatever really soothes your soul. 2
Ellener Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 4 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Usually they want it at least once a day if not multiple People have/want sex multiple times a day? No. I don't think that is a norm. 3
Els Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 (edited) We really need better options for menopause. It's kind of messed up that the only real option for treatment is HRT, which some women can't take due to risk factors - this demonstrates what a low priority women's health is for research and technology. I mean, we're planning to send tourists to space in the next couple of years, yet women are pretty much going through the same reproductive health problems that we've had since 2000 BC - except for the introduction of synthetic estrogen (which, again, some women can't take), periods, pregnancy, and menopause remain largely unchanged since the days of messenger pigeons and horse wagons. /rant Edited January 21, 2020 by Elswyth 5 3
Ambereyes Posted January 22, 2020 Posted January 22, 2020 (edited) Did you not need to do so much housework before? If so what changed? After 5 years you suddenly have so much chore to do is confusing me. Why doesnt the teen help Edited January 22, 2020 by Ambereyes
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 22, 2020 Posted January 22, 2020 A few practical things that will help right away. Someone suggested getting paper plates. It would help a lot to get them, paper bowls, and paper cups. Also, go out to eat more and/or begin to eat more simply. Taking a walk together daily would also help both your relationship and also relieve your body and mind of some of the stress.
Author Gaeta Posted January 22, 2020 Author Posted January 22, 2020 8 hours ago, Ambereyes said: Did you not need to do so much housework before? If so what changed? After 5 years you suddenly have so much chore to do is confusing me. Why doesnt the teen help Before it was only him and l, then 18 months ago l inherited of a 14 year old teen. She helps with quick task like emptying dishwasher, changing bed sheets but l want her prime time devoted to study and tutoring. When she moved in she had a general average of 30% she was failing her year. In 6 months we brought her marks to 60%. Just enough to pass. That's a lot if hours sitting at kitchen table and no time for anything else. Now her average is up 70-75 but fails history and maths so ...i want her nose in her books
Author Gaeta Posted January 22, 2020 Author Posted January 22, 2020 What doesn't help is I get home at 18h00 on a good day, mostly 18h15. I take the dog out and I start dinner at 18h30, we usually eat at 19h30, we done around 20h00, then my time is devoted to cleaning our dinner, making lunches for following day, get a bit of laundry done, take the dog out again, look at kiddo homework, 22h00 arrives in no time and I can't go to bed much later as I get up at 5h30 every morning. The paper plates is a good idea but................I remember a few years ago a friend telling me his wife used paper plates at home and I was mortified she was serving her children's meal in paper plates! what kind of mother does that eh! lol she was probably a menopausal mother hihi! In the past 2 days I have chilled a lot more about cleaning. I was about to start an official kitchen cleaning after dinner and stopped myself and said outloud: NO Gaeta, enough of that, go enjoy what's important in life! and I went sitting with bf and kiddo to watch a movie. Kiddo replied to me: Yay!! Gaeta you never stop!! chill a bit! (cute) 2
Allupinnit Posted January 22, 2020 Posted January 22, 2020 G - you make dinner AND lunches every single day?! AW HAIL TO THA NAW 1
Els Posted January 22, 2020 Posted January 22, 2020 1 hour ago, Allupinnit said: G - you make dinner AND lunches every single day?! AW HAIL TO THA NAW Haha, yeah. Getting food delivered saves us a TON of time... about an hour every time we do it, honestly, including time that would be spent buying groceries to cook, cooking, and cleaning up. We should probably cook more often, but it's really hard to drag yourself into doing an hour of extra work to save like $15. Eating out does take about as long as cooking since we have to go there, wait for food, then go back... but it's part of "date night" for us.
Author Gaeta Posted January 22, 2020 Author Posted January 22, 2020 I am a bit old fashion in that matter. I cook from scratch every day, I bake desserts, and I even bake my own bread if time allows. Once you've got your family used to your home-made apple pies and peanut butter cookies the store desserts don't cut it anymore. It's also a health matter, I'd be very worried feeding us pre-prep meals from the store, it contains a lot of salt and preservatives. 2
Allupinnit Posted January 22, 2020 Posted January 22, 2020 10 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I am a bit old fashion in that matter. I cook from scratch every day, I bake desserts, and I even bake my own bread if time allows. Once you've got your family used to your home-made apple pies and peanut butter cookies the store desserts don't cut it anymore. It's also a health matter, I'd be very worried feeding us pre-prep meals from the store, it contains a lot of salt and preservatives. While that's true - there are SO many healthy options out there now that are also convenient. I'd never feed my H Hamburger Helper or Kraft Mac n cheese if I can help it (without the rare exception of course). We started getting Freshly meals delivered and they're delicious - I bring one to work and they're all fresh ingredients. I also make stuff in my Instant Pot that serves leftovers for a few days. Or we pick up something from Sweetgreen, etc.
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