vron Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Hi I just started at university for the second time, and i met this guy (who i actually knew very slightly from uni before) and we really hit it off - saw each other for 2 nights in a row (at uni organised events), he walked me home each time, was really sweet etc. then we went out for coffee (it was a bit awkward) but he had a party the next weekend, which i was invited to. he kinda ignored me at the party and i left with my friends until he sent me a message and a phone call in quick succession saying it would be lovely if i'd come back he was sorry he hadn't gotten to spend much time with me and i gave in and ended up staying the night - although we didnt have sex- (and most of sunday). when i left he said lets go for coffee again, sent a message checking i got home ok see you soon etc (messages with an x at the end). i sent him one back he didnt reply but it didnt really warrant it. i'm probably being totally paranoid, it has only been 2 days since then but he hasnt contacted me, i said hello on msn messenger (he added me on sunday) when i know he was there (his status went from away to online) and he never replied, then went offline....surely if he was into me he would reply? i just get that "ignoring me" feeling creeping up my back.. i added him on facebook and he added me back... now i think about that, i dont want to seem like im chasing him... i have had trouble with mean men underappreciating me in the past and would rather not get into it at all if hes going to be like that! I want to be the one who decides! I am resisting sending another message as I dont want to seem desperate (i'm really not - but i am lonely having just got to a new city not knowing anyone) - but its driving me crazy whether he likes me or not?! He did seem like he really liked me... (he told other people i know he thought i was stunning)... did he just want to get me into bed and is now not going to speak to me? advice please!
d.s. Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 You should try to invite him for coffee; I know you may find it weird asking but it is only coffee. If you know of a party... ask him to join you... I would say to ask him to go to a club, but since you don't know anyone else (other girls) ... you might feel awkward just going alone. He did go with you for coffee so I doubt it is about you not sleeping with him. HTH Good Luck!
targetbag Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Nah, I wouldn't ask him out. If he's interested, HE will ask YOU. That's the least confusing way to do it...I've gotten myself even more confused by trying to make the first move with guys when I wasn't sure they were interested. After a long, long, long time, I figured out that if a guy likes you, he'll show it. You just don't wanna waste your time. I know you're lonely, but be patient. Just work on making more girlfriends and/or platonic guy friends, and you'll meet somebody special soon enough, if it isn't this guy. Either way, good luck! Let us know what happens
vron Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 ok - a couple of hours after i posted he messaged me and asked me out for a drink - which was really great so fingers crossed! just shows how paranoid girls can be! i think asking him would have been the wrong way to go (i was pretty close to doing it) - guys like to do the asking i think it would put him off if i asked. anyway, thanks for your help!
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