LynnLisa Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 So after a great 3 years (until a recent difficult problem I posted elsewhere here) I am begining to think we are better off our separate ways. I just don't know how to do this. I mean in the past I have ended relationships because I just knew it was time too. This one feels like I'd be leaving without closure so I don't know how to go about it really. I love him but my lack of trust and disrespect for he has done is wearing our relationship thin. So I rather end things now before we just end up hating one another. He has kids that live with us full-time so I do not want to prolong this for too long. My question is how do you end a relationship with someone you love? I don't even know if I could speak the words in front of him. Break off cold turkey? Do it slowly? I just don't know. He's the first man I ever lived with so what happens to the furniture we bought together? The lease for the apartment? Ah, so much stuff! If someone has ever been in this situation I would appreciate any help. It hurts me alot to think of leaving, but when it comes down to it, I know its the right thing to do. I need to do this for myself. Save my sanity and regain my freedom.
JosiePosie Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Hi there, I posted my situation under "Dont Agree with Separation" thread. That will be some background on my current situation. Leaving a relationship and home is VERY difficult believe me. I love my ex as well but he was treating me in a disrespectful and inconsiderate way. It hurts so much to be pushed away from someone who says they love you. But I had to hang on to my dignity and leave our apartment. I cry everyday but deep down I know it was the best thing to do. I do get angry because I have to find a new apartment, etc. But I rather do that than be mistreated again. Furniture is furniture, they can be replaced. But your self-esteem cannot. I think you should sit your guy down and tell him you are leaving. Just be honest, if he can't handle it or tries to turn it around on you, than it is even more reason to leave. Take a deep breath and jump. It's going to hurt no matter how it is done. Good luck and take care.
teressa0397 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 So after a great 3 years (until a recent difficult problem I posted elsewhere here) I am begining to think we are better off our separate ways. I just don't know how to do this. I mean in the past I have ended relationships because I just knew it was time too. This one feels like I'd be leaving without closure so I don't know how to go about it really. I love him but my lack of trust and disrespect for he has done is wearing our relationship thin. So I rather end things now before we just end up hating one another. He has kids that live with us full-time so I do not want to prolong this for too long. My question is how do you end a relationship with someone you love? I don't even know if I could speak the words in front of him. Break off cold turkey? Do it slowly? I just don't know. He's the first man I ever lived with so what happens to the furniture we bought together? The lease for the apartment? Ah, so much stuff! If someone has ever been in this situation I would appreciate any help. It hurts me alot to think of leaving, but when it comes down to it, I know its the right thing to do. I need to do this for myself. Save my sanity and regain my freedom.[/quote you say you love him. dont walk away. but if you feel like you should just do it let him have it all. because you are the one that wants out. but make sure you are doing the right thing. listen to your heart.
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