ZA Dater Posted January 19, 2020 Posted January 19, 2020 Toward the end of last year I met a lady an event, very sophisticated, older than me , kids but the conversation was great. Got her number and have been communicating with her on and off trying to arrange another meet up, more her schedule than mine but unusually she seems fairly interested in me which is a pleasant change. So I go out to meet her yesterday at what we hear called a fresh food market in quaint small town (her sister has a house there and she is staying with her), what unfolded was one of the most unique "dates" I have had, cant really make a lot of sense of it all but anyway. She mentioned she may be a bit late because her 6yo daughter isn't feeling well, no problem for me, I meet her and she has brought her daughter with her, ok no problem, we sat down and the conversation just worked, a friend of hers joined us and the conversation became a three way one and in some respect this suited me because it took the pressure of me. They left and her sister arrived to fetch her daughter, after which the sister came back and joined us for a while before we had some one on one conversation. What was different here is she asked me questions, we could talk on many topics and she then invited me back for coffee where I met her mother who was also staying with them, chatted a bit, she showed me the art she makes and it was just nice and I got a kiss on the cheek when I left. Not sure something like this is what I really want but she is good shape, there is a bit of Blake Lively about her looks wise and overall it was probably the most comfortable date I have been on if you can call it that. Might see her again later next week.
smackie9 Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 She is very very close to her family and her friend. AND she is very family oriented. She takes their opinion very seriously. So she brought you around so they can have a peek at whom she had a date with. I guess if she says yes to another date, she got their stamp of approval.
clia Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 Are you sure it was a date? It seems really strange to be that she sound bring her daughter, friend, and sister on a date. 1
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 Every grown woman i have ever crossed paths with that lives with their mom is trying to find a sperm donor, be very careful. 1
Kballer Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 Maybe that's normal for her culture.. But it's not something I've ever heard of on a date.. A date is supposed to be just that-your chance to get to know each other on a personal level... Family, friends, children showing up on the date is either a sign she does not feel comfortable, or safe with you.. Or, her life is just so F'ed up that she can't schedule 2 hours away from her personal drama for a romantic date.. Me, personally... I'd not have any further contact with her. But that's just me. I have multiple new dates each week, and I've learned quickly to weed out chicks like the one you mention. When she showed up with her 6 month old, I would have politely excused myself, and ended the date at that point. From her perspective, she may have been testing you.. To see how much you would put up with from her... Just bad form on her part for doing it, and your part for putting up with it. You think she will learn to respect you when you allow her to pull stuff like this? Want MORE of the same stuff you got on the 1st date? Just stay in the ring...
Daisydooks Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 On 1/19/2020 at 8:26 AM, ZA Dater said: her 6yo daughter isn't feeling well, no problem for me, I meet her and she has brought her daughter with her. Does anyone else find it odd the sick child was dragged out on this date? Lol
Author ZA Dater Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 To be honest this is not going anywhere but friend zone. Which I guess is ok. Was nice to have someone show some sort of interest in me as a person.
Author ZA Dater Posted January 26, 2020 Author Posted January 26, 2020 9 hours ago, basil67 said: Are you going to stay in touch with her? Probably, she has two kids, one 6 and the other 20yo which I guess tells me a bit about her life, she is nice enough as a friend but for more than that, I don't think I am going to go there. Ultimately the whole thing is too complicated and I need more simplification in life than complication. 2
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