Prim&proper Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 I am pondering this question. Which situation would you rather be in: A: guy walks the walk: see you every day, calls you every day, makes plans, includes you in his life, does things for you, makes future plans, etc., but won't admit that you are exclusive or bf/gf, though he is not seeing anyone else or does he want to see anyone else. B: guy talks the talk: says he's your bf, but don't see you every day or call every day, etc. So in situation A, what additional thing does the gal have other than the title. Even if two people are bf/gf, there's no security that either one wouldn't leave the other or cheat on the other. Thoughts?
Lishy Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 I am pondering this question. Which situation would you rather be in: A: guy walks the walk: see you every day, calls you every day, makes plans, includes you in his life, does things for you, makes future plans, etc., but won't admit that you are exclusive or bf/gf, though he is not seeing anyone else or does he want to see anyone else. B: guy talks the talk: says he's your bf, but don't see you every day or call every day, etc. So in situation A, what additional thing does the gal have other than the title. Even if two people are bf/gf, there's no security that either one wouldn't leave the other or cheat on the other. Thoughts? If one half of the couple will not commit to being bf/gf or being exclusive it means that they are keeping their options open and dont want that other person to stake too much of a clain on their life. It also leaves that person feeling guilt free if they do meet someone else they want exclusivity with. You missed a third option c. A guy who walks the walk and calls all the time AND calls you his girlfriend! Option C for me please! Ps ..... Go with your instincts Prim and dont make excuses for him
missmolly Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Usually if a guy is your boyfriend, you won't have to wonder. He doesn't have to call you EVERY day at first, but he does have to admit that he is your boyfriend. Otherwise, you aren't his girlfriend and it's time to move on.
Cecelius Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 If people are silly enough to think that someone's options are NOT open even if they are a b/f (or husband or whatever), then the relationship is doomed. Calling yourself someone's b/f does not mean the relationship will last longer or be better than one where there are no titles. The relationship only lasts as long as people want it to last. Titles don't change that. In fact, titles can make people lazier in the relationship.
Lishy Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 This has nothing to do with title. I have never said "are we boyfriend/girlfriend" to a guy and he has never said it back - BUT a guy who wont agree to exclusivity is NOT YOUR GUY - you are simply there to bridge the gap until the girl he really likes comes along! If that suits you both then that is great but if it doesnt then you need to move on along!!!!!!
Gottabestrong Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Situation B. I dont need to see my boyfriend every day. I'd rather have a busy boyfriend who I dont get to see more than once or twice a week, than a guy I see a lot who makes me guess where I stand with him.
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