Its Not A Tumaaa Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 For those who don't remember my situation here is a link to the original thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t71416/ So, I gave it a chance and needless to say it's been the best decision I've ever made. (Thanks again for the advice) We've been hanging out every day and night, and it's been going great, better than I expected. Well last night it happened - She told me she loved me. She's surprised, because she's never fallen in love with anybody so fast. (We've only been dating for like three weeks.) I've never been in love before, but I told her I know my feelings are different with her than with anybody before. She says she's wanted to tell me for a while, and I think I did too. Is it wrong for us to feel this way so soon? I don't want to ruin the relationship or anything, because it's great. Thanks.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 As long as you have the relationship and don't analyze it to death with each other you should be ok. Just take it one day at the time, focus on the time you have while you have it and don't obsess over 'where the relationship is going to go', and truly enjoy and appreciate the time you spend together. The less you over-discuss and overanalyze "love", the more you tend to actually have and enjoy it. The infatuation period - that nice little glow is likely what it fueling that love right now, and eventually the love will be able to stand on its own without needing that infatuation jolt if it is given a chance to. Here's the key though - love will elude you the more you try to pin it down and define it within your relationship. It is something to be experienced and enjoyed while you have it, not captured and kept in stasis. Should you do that, it will surely die. However... do not go blindly into this. You know your trust issues, and you know the deal with her. Never lose sight of what could go wrong, and always be prepared on some level for that. You don't have to let it interfere with your relationship, but if something happens you don't want to be blindsided either.
Author Its Not A Tumaaa Posted October 7, 2005 Author Posted October 7, 2005 Hmm, very good advice. Thanks a lot.
lovephreakout Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 my BF told me he loved me at about 3-4 weeks.. i was really surprised at first and i didnt know what to tell him. i know i told someone else that i loved him, but for me to tell that other guy i loved him took weeks of personal debate after he first told me. as for my BF, he told me this before i was getting on a bus to go back home and the look on his face was amazing.... like he didnt know if he had actually said it out loud... at that moment i knew i loved him too and i couldnt wait to tell him when i saw him again. almost 3 years later we are still together and i actually love him more with each day that goes by. if the 2 of you agree that you are in love... do everyrthing you can to stay in love. it sounds like the beginning of something beautiful... just remember space and time to let the love grow. good luck to the both of you!!
Zaira Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Is it wrong for us to feel this way so soon? It's not wrong, just enjoy it. Still I would be careful not to get too caught up into thinking about marriage and all that kind of stuff - yet.
Author Its Not A Tumaaa Posted October 8, 2005 Author Posted October 8, 2005 Haha, I'm nowhere close to even think about marriage, we're only twenty. I'd like to wait until I'm at least out of school and well off before marrying. She says she'd like a future with me, and I feel the same way. Not necessarily marriage, just maybe at least a long, fun relationship.
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