sleeplessincnd Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 So I am currently dating someone who has a child. We are not fighting or anything but I just want to hear what some people think about breakups when kids are involved. This is not my child it is his but I am very attached to the little guy. What happens if things don't work out with me and my man - then I just have to cut the little one out too. That is just heartbreaking to think about. This is a much different situation than if married people breakup - parents still have a right to see the children they love - I have no rights if we split! Anyone have any thoughts on this whole thing?
Art_Critic Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 This is not my child it is his I think you said it best .... You are not married and are only the GF.. This is why single parents go thru the due diligence of dating before introducing their GF to their kids.. It is unstable for the children. On another note.. I was a stepdad for 5 years and when I divorced her the last year of the marriage I kept together becasue of my stepdaughter.. I only see her a couple of times a year if that now.. and we do the b-day and holiday card thing.. But the reality is that I'm not her dad and certainly not her stepfather anymore. Her mother has every right to move on and keeping me in the kids life would be too confusing for the child. If you are thinking about breaking up then do yourself a favor and remember than his son is not yours and don't stay in the childs life anylonger than you have to.
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