Adam2020 Posted January 14, 2020 Posted January 14, 2020 Hi so recently broke up with my gf and we have been texting since. Both initiating but have noticed that her reply’s especially have become more ‘aha useless’ ‘what are you like’ just very short. now I know that it’s not going to be the same we’ve just broken up, she has kids and need to spend time in herself for them, she said I was the best person she’s been with and that it was her hardest break up as I did nothing to make her end it. It was just her need for space which I get. And that she wants to keep in contact as in her words ‘if we are meant to be, which I think we might be, then we need to keep eachother around’. my question is do I need to go less contact or no contact so that we can get back to talking like we used to, to an extent, or so that we can both actually move on.
Miss Spider Posted January 14, 2020 Posted January 14, 2020 Sorry to hear about that. In these situations, no contact is what is recommended
rjc149 Posted January 14, 2020 Posted January 14, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Adam2020 said: It was just her need for space which I get. You were likely a little too needy and smothering. Women don't need space from men who are giving them space. No contact. That's your only route. You need to undo the neediness you've demonstrated. Wait until she reaches out to you again. Edited January 14, 2020 by rjc149
Ruby Slippers Posted January 14, 2020 Posted January 14, 2020 You need to go completely no contact and give her the chance to miss you and want you back. Only reply to her if she initiates getting together to see about reconciling.
Foxhall Posted January 14, 2020 Posted January 14, 2020 they are tricky too these single Mothers- the kids are always the main priority and quite rightly I suppose yes respect her need for space and back off for a while, maybe send her a little valentines day surprise though.
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