Lotsgoingon Posted January 19, 2020 Posted January 19, 2020 You sound very balanced and reasonable in your thinking and in your decision. Good luck!!!! 1
Author OatsAndHall Posted January 19, 2020 Author Posted January 19, 2020 She's a good woman that made some mistakes; mistakes that are hers to deal with. A little voice in my head was telling me to run but the little voice comes from a part of me that's become black and white with dating. "Well, they f-ed up by doing ______ so they might be doing _____, _______, and _______. Time to move on." She didn't have to tell me about any of it but she did so because I am very firm on my "no ex" policy. She sort of considered this guy an "ex" and she felt that she needed to be open with me about it. She really didn't want to tell me because she a) it embarrasses her and b) she thought I might call it off over it. And, it will be abundantly clear down the road if this is her base level of judgement but I'm not going to borrow trouble and assume that it is.
Calmandfocused Posted January 19, 2020 Posted January 19, 2020 Oats is this the same woman who wants to jet off across county in the future? The one who has commitment issues and doesn’t think too far ahead? If so, then spontaneity and jumping feet first into situations, before thinking things through is just part of her personality. Therefore what your saying is not particularly surprising. I suspect there will be more bombshells like this one.
Author OatsAndHall Posted January 19, 2020 Author Posted January 19, 2020 29 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said: Oats is this the same woman who wants to jet off across county in the future? The one who has commitment issues and doesn’t think too far ahead? If so, then spontaneity and jumping feet first into situations, before thinking things through is just part of her personality. Therefore what your saying is not particularly surprising. I suspect there will be more bombshells like this one. Lol... Absolutely not; that woman you are referring to had stretched my patience pretty thin; more so than I let on when posting about her on LS. Given her personality and flakiness, I would have called it off in a heart-beat if I found out she pulled this. I ended it with her as she really pushed my last button; she went across the country to see an ill friend, texted me twice in seven days and then couldn't be bothered to text me to let me know she had gotten back in town. I texted to see if she had made it in alright given that one of the cities she was flying through was getting a wicked snow storm. She didn't respond to the text after around two hours so I called her; she was out drinking with her friends. That was it for me and I broke it off. The woman I am seeing now is honestly one of the most grounded I have ever dated. I wouldn't continue to see her if this situation with the contractor didn't seem so contrary to her normal behavior. I'm not naive; I've been dating long enough to pay attention to potential pitfalls. I have been giving more women the benefit of the doubt simply because I realized that I wasn't giving many women enough of a chance to really get to know them. They set me off so I called it off.
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