FMW Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 21 hours ago, desert1982 said: And I'm actually getting tired of it. I'm with you. I've decided not to worry too much about what men try to "teach" me. I will respond to what they do or say as my instincts tell me to, making sure I'm not too wrapped up in my own ego or insecurities. If I have to stop and figure out the rules, it's just not worth it to me. 1
kendahke Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 (edited) 12 hours ago, desert1982 said: Thanks everyone. He's in invisible on the game we play right now. In all my time I've known him, he has NEVER done this. Should I just remove him from my friends list or remove him from my friends list with an explanation? I would. He's doing this the cowardly way--by not facing you and telling you what's up. I'd block/delete everywhere and let him feel a way about it. What's the point in trying to salvage something when every indicator his behavior has given you is that he doesn't want to deal with you? Prostrating yourself in front of him with "why haven't you called me" is pointless when you're talking to someone who'd rather go invisible on a game rather than say "I don't think we're a good match, but I wish you well..." Edited January 13, 2020 by kendahke 1
PinkFlamingo Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 Why don't you just ask him? "Hey, since the beginning of this new year I had the feeling that you have withdrawn and are not as communicative as you used to be. Is everything alright?" If he doesn't apologize and doesn't pick up the communication with you, then I guess, you can write him off. It means he is probably not interested anymore, maybe he met someone else on NYE. Or maybe he is depressed. But whatever it is, he will be too lethargic for a relationship with you. 1
smackie9 Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 Introverts have a habit of focusing on one thing or one person. If his friend is visiting, he's probably playing with his friend, and only wants to play with his friend. Would that not make sense for him to not want to be disturbed? Introverts don't like confrontation, and are avoiders we all know that. So for him to say anything like, "I don't want to talk to you for the next few weeks because I'm hanging with my buddy", is daunting/freaks him out to do it. I know a few introverts, and at times they do come off as rude/selfish, they will not return messages, disappear for weeks. It's just the way they are. TBH if this is how he treats you due to his personality, then just ignore him. Go play a new game, meet someone else. 1
stillafool Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, elaine567 said: Rejection ≠ you hang around pining, you do not accept it, they are wrong for rejecting you, you spend hours, days, weeks, years obsessing over it... ^^^This, basically throwing your life away on something that you can't change. Edited January 13, 2020 by stillafool
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