Angel29 Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 There is a guy on my course who I have always fancied but not shown him I’m interested as I can be quite shy! It is only recently I realised he is interested in me by some of the things he says, he singles me out in the group and I catch him staring at me. I can come across as aloof so he probably thinks I’m not interested. I will see him tomorrow and I am going to dress a bit more feminine than my usual baggy attire. Would he get the hint through my change my appearance? I don’t know whether to add him to my WhatsApp contacts so he can see my profile picture as my picture can show I am quite fun. I hate being shy but need to show my interest.
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 Smile. Make eye contact. Touch his arm. Toss your hair. At some point, if you are brave enough, call him or text him & ask him a Q about class. What you ask isn't as important as the fact that you open a one on one dialogue. Another technique that can work is to make sure he knows where you will be . . . I'm going to the student union; or I'm going to the party at ABC fraternity . . . to see if he's interested enough to show up. 1 1
smackie9 Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 (edited) If you can be in his space. He will notice you more, and yes you are doing it right by dressing prettier. That's one of the things I always advise, is to step up the appearance...but not too much of course. Men love soft natural feminine look. Men also go for the eyes.... have some nice mascara on to highlight your eyes with a soft eye shadow to make them pop. Good luck! Edited January 12, 2020 by smackie9
ChatroomHero Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 He is not in your head. No rational person would think, gee, she dressed up today, she must be interested in me. That's like saying he always wears a hat and one day he doesn't so that must mean he is interested in me...or he writes with a pencil and today he used a pen, that must mean he wants me to notice. You already know the answer. You show interest by showing interest. I mean if someone asks you what you want for Christmas and you want a new winter jacket, you don't tell them you want gift card to Target hoping they realize that means you really want a jacket. 1. Don't ignore him. 2. If he makes eye contact, smile and wave. 3. If he talks to you, talk back. 4. It's as easy as walking by him and saying, "I like your shirt, it looks nice on you". It really is as simple as that. You open the contact and let it fall where it may. If you think doing things slightly differently will make him realize you are interested, they won't. Opening simple contact will. Think of it like going to the store and someone holds the door for you, you give a simple, "Oh, thank you!", you don't ignore them and look away hoping they understand it means you are appreciative. Simple contact just opens the door to communication and you can let him take the lead, but you have to at least be open to it or you are wasting your time.
smackie9 Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 (edited) Not true...guys who are interested do make note the change in the appearance of whom they desire. Seen it on the boards before. But that is just part of the ammo she has to use of course. Edited January 12, 2020 by smackie9
carhill Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 If he singles you out of the group and you feel he's interested already and you take a course with him, do your 'dress more feminine' thing and ask him if he has a moment after class to discuss 'XYZ'. That doesn't mean the discussion will be about XYZ. Get him alone and if there's mutual interest it'll flow. If not, let it go. I'd tell him the same thing but you're here asking so.... good luck!
Author Angel29 Posted January 13, 2020 Author Posted January 13, 2020 My dress change worked. I was watching him collect something from the teacher earlier and he went to look at me as he sat back down and he caught me looking. I also caught him looking at me in the library. I have noticed he is discreet and only speaks to me when others are not around as when the lesson finished he came up to me. He then sat with me for 5 minutes and spoke and then said he will let me get on with my work and I said it was ok I was in no rush. Inside I was thinking please don't go back to your seat! As he was walking away he put his finger on my back and said I have the answers. I feel a bit anxious as he joined POF in the New Year and I know he is entitled to look elsewhere as he is single but I’m selfish and don’t want him to meet someone else. A friend said not to worry and that most men don’t get replies on POF. 1
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 (edited) The fact that he only engages with you when class is over is promising, these F boys chasing tail in the middle of class/post secondary are setting themselves up for failure, a man must have purpose. Lets see if he can keep his focus on now that you have his attention. Edited January 13, 2020 by CAPSLOCK BANDIT Addition
preraph Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 Oh, this is easy. ALL you have to do is look up and smile at him or say "Hi." That's it. That opens the door for him to talk more. 2 1
basil67 Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 (edited) Another vote for ‘smile’. It really is this simple. If someone is interested, basic social skills are all that is required. Edited January 13, 2020 by basil67 1
Author Angel29 Posted January 17, 2020 Author Posted January 17, 2020 He posted a message in our text message course group asking for help. I private messaged him to help and he said I had been really helpful and put a smiley face and kiss at the end of the message. He never puts a kiss in the group messages. I just hate the waiting game. 1
smackie9 Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 On 1/17/2020 at 3:23 PM, Angel29 said: He posted a message in our text message course group asking for help. I private messaged him to help and he said I had been really helpful and put a smiley face and kiss at the end of the message. He never puts a kiss in the group messages. I just hate the waiting game. Did you not send a blushing smiley face back in response???
smackie9 Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 (edited) On 1/17/2020 at 3:23 PM, Angel29 said: He posted a message in our text message course group asking for help. I private messaged him to help and he said I had been really helpful and put a smiley face and kiss at the end of the message. He never puts a kiss in the group messages. I just hate the waiting game. Did you not send a blushing smiley face back in response??? Girl throw a guy a bone! Like most guys, if they don't get strong signals from a girl, they won't bother asking you out. Edited January 20, 2020 by smackie9
Author Angel29 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Posted January 20, 2020 I didn't even reply to him! I don't know what came over me. I saw him today and the tables were all repositioned so I could not see him. He is back on the dating sites now.
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