bigb1084 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 We've been together 21 yrs. / married for 17, have a 7 yr. old son. Hey, things haven't been great, but I thought we were "content". I just found out my husband was checking out dating sites last night. He says he was "just curious", he's sorry, things haven't been good with us for years, it wasn't like he was looking at porn, I shouldn't take this too seriously. My view: it's worse than porn, it's the first step to infidelity - "looking". I had no idea he actually had thoughts of "looking". I told him he crossed the line, and we need to either fix this or split up. So, what do you think? Obviously our marriage is in serious trouble. I told him I would consider counseling, but honestly I don't think it's fixable. Not now that he has crossed that line. I've always trusted him and now that's shot. How freaked out should I be?
Falcon554 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Wow I wish my wife was just looking Its no where near to late, get into counseling, communitcate, and dont let it die so easy. Im still trying and my wife has had and affair, slept with 2 other guys. If you love him fight for it. You might have lucked out and caught it in time to fix it.
trickynj99 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 i concur no where even remotely near!! see if he will go to some counseling as a first step.. hang in there
Jayhawks Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 He is giving you the red flag that things are definitely not good in your marriage. It is way to early to throw in the towel. You need to find out from him if he thinks it's fixable and if you both are willing to spend the time to do just that. If you still want your marriage then you have to work for it. I am assuming you care or you would not be posting here. Get into counseling, alone or together.
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