JTSW Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 2 hours ago, LB2016 said: Well Bobby, as of right now he hasn’t texted me at all today. Not even anything as a response to my text this morning. I’m going to say I don’t hear anything from him at all. Let’s take bets! It's not funny. People's feelings are not a joke. 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 33 minutes ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said: Are you still with that woman who planned everything out for you? No... she wanted kids and I didn't, so we parted ways amicably. And she didn't plan everything out, she offered suggestions of things she liked. If none of her suggestions appealed to me, I could offer up my own. In the end, I made the decision as I was paying for the date.
Author LB2016 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Posted January 10, 2020 (edited) Well, I texted him. I wasn’t nasty at all, and made a joke even. And he basically blew me off. He said he wasn’t sure of when he’d be done tonight and to not wait to make other plans if I wanted to. So lesson learned- go with my gut! Thanks to everyone for your input! Edited January 10, 2020 by LB2016
Blind-Sided Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 19 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: .... "My favorite tex-mex restaurant has a special on Friday night - tamales - Yummy - You game??" ..... Oh... sounds good. I'll go out with you. LOL But seriously... yes, could be player, but since you don't know him well... could just be busy. As above... make a suggestion, and see if he's game. OR... see if he at least gives you a real reason why not. Good luck.
Happy Lemming Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 36 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said: Oh... sounds good. I'll go out with you. LOL Yes, there actually is a restaurant in (my) town that has a "tamales special" every Friday night, which was the basis for my suggestion. Dating should be fun and tamales are FUN!! But alas, I don't think things worked out for the OP. So no tamales or otherwise.
PinkFlamingo Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 Since his question during your date about the next date suggests that he was very into you, it should be expected that he would try to nail the date down as fast as possible to ensure that you would be indeed available and he could see you again soon. Unless he is a player and sweet-talker or unless he got the vibe from you that you were not as interested in him as he was in you. That's when people often lean back and wait to see how the other person reacts: Will she contact me and show that she is indeed interested in me or will she do nothing if I don't run after her? It's one of those stupid situations where two people like each other, but feel insecure and then they start doing tests to check for genuine interest, but usually it just leads to more confusion and insecurity. It would be best if people just talked to each other to clarify possible misunderstandings.
Miss Spider Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 (edited) Yea pink you are right. Their behavior was not consistent and this intuitively causes an alarm to go off. Like ohhhh I like you so much baby girl can’t wait to see you again let’s do Friday.. then crickets about date until Friday... hours to respond to a text... that’s not consistent behavior Edited January 11, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Author LB2016 Posted January 11, 2020 Author Posted January 11, 2020 I agree, Pink and Cookies. It’s inconsistent. It goes with the old “go by what he DOES and not what he says” adage too. I could just FEEL the difference the very next day after our date to be honest. If there was inconsistency on my end, it was Bc of that change. I know that’s not unheard of to happen with people on dates. It just sucks Bc you get your hopes up and are lead to believe and feel they’re really into you, and that’s not the case. It then opens up the question of are you insecure, a smooth-talker, confused? What’s your deal?! Lol
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