Visiting Maria tomorrow and I'm nervous

[Keeves1]

46 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

I think you need to chill out... you overthink EVERYTHING. And, she is not obligated to “look after you” at all, especially when you create all these unspoken expectations. 

True that. I have a tendency to overthink

[Keeves1]

18 minutes ago, JTSW said:

This relationship is not going to last. 

You're constantly in each others face and getting irritated by each other. 

Botn of you need to take a break and have some space from each other. 

I don’t agree with that statement. Why do you think our relationship would not last? 
 

sure I were not being me when I faked my personality with being over the top nice but I still stand by my opinion that it’s not a big deal. I just don’t have to do it again. 

[Keeves1]

On 2/9/2020 at 12:34 AM, chillii said:

 

First of all , try to relax a bit.

Try not to worry about the other stuff it'll blow over , things can be undone next time, and the dad will know you were a bit nervous. But if you spend that kind of time with them both again , you gotta relax a bit, it's a must . If they say they don't want help then back off. Less is more sometimes.

Same with her, don't fuss over her too much , let her fuss over you a bit too.

Anyway , good luck

 

 

 

 

Got to quote you back on that Chillii. That answer is on point and was also what my friend said. Right I was fake but I still have one more chance so I don’t need to stress about it. 
 

also wanted to add that this morning she sent me 3 snaps of her using different filters which she normally don’t. She is starting to know that she needs to fuss over me. 
 

One thing that is weird is that she don’t take pictures of her face unless it’s with a filter. She is not ugly and I have told her that multiple times 

[balletomane]

Taking note of how many photos she sends in a morning, how many filters she uses, whether or not she takes pictures of her face without a filter, and what that might mean is still overthinking things. When you catch yourself analysing an interaction, stop. Go and do something else. It will take time for you to stop doing this, but becoming aware of it is the first thing.

[Keeves1]

11 hours ago, balletomane said:

whether or not she takes pictures of her face without a filter, and what that might mean is still overthinking things. When you catch yourself analysing an interaction, stop.

I can’t stop noticing it because I can see the change of how she sends me snaps. Before she used to send picture of her face but now it’s half of it and it’s weird. Girls do that to guys they just met and that’s why it’s weird cause I’m her BF. 
I also want to point out that she sends a picture of herself whenever she get a snap from her friends. It’s only me that she doesn’t. 

I’ve tried sending sends of myself in hopes to get to see her face but all she sends me is the keyboard. You know that feeling? Yeah it’s not a good one
 

Now most of you are going to write: «oh because she felt ugly without makeup» or «it’s in the morning so most people don’t bother to take snaps of themself»
 

TBH she don’t use makeup when I’m around her and I can only understand the morning part. 
 

it’s bothering me because again I don’t like the way she sends me snaps now compared to before.

EDIT: Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying she needs to send a picture of herself at all times. I’m just saying that I do want to see her cute face. I’m not able to when she is just sending me picture of the keyboard, the logo on the shirt, half of her face, or what she is doing

Edited February 10, 2020 by Keeves1

[Keeves1]

Is there any life in here?

seems like this thread is about to be dead.... :(

[Miss Spider]

I’m here. Yeah but it’s different to not have any makeup on and take a pic without it. I mean in one case, it’s frozen in time and maybe she feels self conscious. 
This is really a non-issue though. It’s Snapchat. It almost seems like you are looking for problems in your relationship. Update when you have new developments. 

[basil67]

On 2/10/2020 at 10:39 AM, Keeves1 said:

One thing that is weird is that she don’t take pictures of her face unless it’s with a filter. She is not ugly and I have told her that multiple times 

Heaps of young people enjoy playing with filters.  I may not understand it myself, but it's very common and not weird for her age group.

[Keeves1]

5 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

It’s Snapchat. It almost seems like you are looking for problems in your relationship. Update when you have new developments. 

It worked out eventually but I had to send «I miss your face» in order for her to send picture of her face though... 

[Keeves1]

UPDATE: Valentines day coming up
 

Hello. Marie told me that she wanted to see sex education on netflix so that would be the perfect day to watch it! I will be making pizza formed as an heart and set the mood with red candles and rose petals on the floor. 

there is one problem.

So I bought a valentines card where it says: «I love you» with a drawing of a teddybear hugging a heart. I’ve actually thought of saying that word to her but I don’t know if it will scare her off. I just think it’s the best day to say it and that I actually mean it. Is it too early to say it? The second card says:» I care about you» 
 

I don’t know which card I should choose... what do you think? 

also after choosing the card: what should I write on it? 

Edited February 12, 2020 by Keeves1

[K.K.]

6 minutes ago, Keeves1 said:

UPDATE: Valentines day coming up
 

Hello. Marie told me that she wanted to see sex education on netflix so that would be the perfect day to watch it! I will be making pizza formed as an heart and set the mood with red candles and rose petals on the floor. 

That’s really sweet.  

6 minutes ago, Keeves1 said:

there is one problem.

So I bought a valentines card where it says: «I love you» with a drawing of a teddybear hugging a heart. I’ve actually thought of saying that word to her but I don’t know if it will scare her off. I just think it’s the best day to say it and that I actually mean it. Is it too early to say it? The second card says:» I care about you» 
 

Well you can’t give her the ‘I care about you’ one because that’s basically the same as saying “I don’t love you”.  so give her the i love you one I guess. Didn’t they have any with just the teddy bear and nothing written on the front? That would be the safest bet. 

6 minutes ago, Keeves1 said:

I don’t know which card I should choose... what do you think? 

also after choosing the card: what should I write on it? 

Well... you’re having a few difficulties with her lately so don’t go all overboard on the mushiness. Like don’t be all ..’ I will love you forever and blah blah ‘ 

Just write, “Happy Valentines Day. Thanks for being in my life. “  with a smiley like that cause she’ll like that more than the whole card. 

See that’s pretty basic and doesn’t hold you to anything. And it’s not a lie. Right? 

And whatever you do, Keeves... you make damned sure you give ‘it’ to her sooooo good that night that she’ll think twice about ever pegging you for a too nice, too polite chump ever again! Show her how just how manner lacking you can be if pushed. 

Yes, I’m still mad at her. Forgive me.

 

[K.K.]

Keeves, I meant to say earlier that I meant no offense to your Maria.  

I’m here for you though ya know? A fellow loveshack buddy and all. So hopefully you’ll take my posts to you with the good intention in which they are written. 

[Keeves1]

7 hours ago, K.K. said:

Keeves, I meant to say earlier that I meant no offense to your Maria.  

I’m here for you though ya know? A fellow loveshack buddy and all. So hopefully you’ll take my posts to you with the good intention in which they are written. 

Hahhaa thanks for being there for me fellow loveshack buddy (: I’m there for you too. No hard feelings it’s okay and I understand you meant it with positive intentions :P

[Keeves1]

10 hours ago, K.K. said:

Well you can’t give her the ‘I care about you’ one because that’s basically the same as saying “I don’t love you”.  so give her the i love you one I guess. Didn’t they have any with just the teddy bear and nothing written on the front? That would be the safest bet. 

Just write, “Happy Valentines Day. Thanks for being in my life. “  with a smiley like that cause she’ll like that more than the whole card. 

See that’s pretty basic and doesn’t hold you to anything. And it’s not a lie. Right? 

And whatever you do, Keeves... you make damned sure you give ‘it’ to her sooooo good that night that she’ll think twice about ever pegging you for a too nice, too polite chump ever again! 

 

On our first anniversary she gave me a card where it says «You’re like my favourite chocolate... always sweet and good» on the outside and inside she wrote: «Congratz on holding out with me for a month and I’ll hope it will be many more xoxo»
 

It’s kinda unnerving if I gave her the «I love you card» and she doesn’t reply back or feel the same way...

I’ve also said something to her that might gave her a hint that I’m about to say those three words. Before our anniversary I told her that I wanted to say something. On our first anniversary day she asked me what it was and I told her that I forgot it and maybe I would tell her on valentines...

If I don’t tell her then I’m just making fool of myself

hahhaa you’re making me laugh and it’s good to see the connection we have here K.K xP I will give «it» to her reeeaaal good like I always do

Edited February 12, 2020 by Keeves1

[fishlips]

It's Valentine's Day. It's safe to give her an "I Love You" card because everyone gives those on Valentine's Day. It won't scare her off. I think an "I Care About You" card would make her wonder about things, though. Just write something nice. It doesn't have to be mushy.

Really, you overthink things too much. Just have fun!

[Keeves1]

UPDATE: She did not say it back

Marie suprised me with Valentines breakfast this morning which was pancakes with strawberry jam. After that we saw some episodes of sex education on netflix. Then we went to the city because she saw a jacket the other day and wanted to buy it today. But that’s not the important part.
 

I said that she has to wait in the bathroom until I was ready. I placed rose petals on the floor and made a heart with red candles. She didn’t seems to be amazed and said «you probably saw that elsewhere on the internet.» and I told her that I didn’t and I just used my creativity. 

I also gave her cinnamon buns which was her favourite and a Valentines card where it says:
 

«First of all...I want to say thank you for being yourself and for being mine. Never change who you are. I’m so grateful to have such an amazing girl in my life. You have taught me to be better at making food and because of you I laugh more, cry less and smile more. And lastly you mean the world to me. You’re smart, sexy, funny, playful and full of suprises! I love you and no you don’t refunds or any exchange.»

We both had intense eye contact after and she broke it very quickly which was unusual. I could see that she almost cried and then she said:

Marie: I’m sorry I almost cried but I don’t have any words... you wrote it perfectly. But do you mean it when you say you love me?

Me: «Yes! I did not wrote I love you out of nowhere because it says on the front of the card or because everyone says it today. When I wrote that I meant it. I really do love you Marie» 

Marie: «I still don’t know what to say.... But I care about you and I’m always glad to be with you» 

Me: «I’m happy to be with you to. But no worries you don’t have to say anything» 

CONCLUSION: Even if she didn’t say she love me back I still think she does deeply inside. She didn’t had the courage to say it and almost cried instead.... I think I just said too soon  

Edited February 14, 2020 by Keeves1

[Keeves1]

11 hours ago, Keeves1 said:

UPDATE: She did not say it back

Marie suprised me with Valentines breakfast this morning which was pancakes with strawberry jam. After that we saw some episodes of sex education on netflix. Then we went to the city because she saw a jacket the other day and wanted to buy it today. But that’s not the important part.
 

I said that she has to wait in the bathroom until I was ready. I placed rose petals on the floor and made a heart with red candles. She didn’t seems to be amazed and said «you probably saw that elsewhere on the internet.» and I told her that I didn’t and I just used my creativity. 

I also gave her cinnamon buns which was her favourite and a Valentines card where it says:
 

«First of all...I want to say thank you for being yourself and for being mine. Never change who you are. I’m so grateful to have such an amazing girl in my life. You have taught me to be better at making food and because of you I laugh more, cry less and smile more. And lastly you mean the world to me. You’re smart, sexy, funny, playful and full of suprises! I love you and no you don’t refunds or any exchange.»

We both had intense eye contact after and she broke it very quickly which was unusual. I could see that she almost cried and then she said:

Marie: I’m sorry I almost cried but I don’t have any words... you wrote it perfectly. But do you mean it when you say you love me?

Me: «Yes! I did not wrote I love you out of nowhere because it says on the front of the card or because everyone says it today. When I wrote that I meant it. I really do love you Marie» 

Marie: «I still don’t know what to say.... But I care about you and I’m always glad to be with you» 

Me: «I’m happy to be with you to. But no worries you don’t have to say anything» 

CONCLUSION: Even if she didn’t say she love me back I still think she does deeply inside. She didn’t had the courage to say it and almost cried instead.... I think I just said too soon  

EDIT: She sent me a snap saying: «You’re the best person that I’ve met and I’m sad that I don’t get to see you until sunday...good night! <3»

The fact that she almost broke down in tears means something and I think she needs time. 

[princessaurora]

When my husband and I had been dating about a month. He told me "If i'd known you a long time, I'd tell you I loved you right now. . I just smiled and kissed him. I loved that he said it, but wasnt ready to say anything remotely similar because I was afraid of getting my heart broken, especially with him just getting out of a 3 year relationship. And it was a good while after that before I did finally say it to him,  even though I felt it from the moment I saw him. Maria may feel it too, but just afraid to say it in fear of getting hurt. She obviously enjoys your company very much and making you happy, so go by her actions. 

[Keeves1]

UPDATE: Dealing with rude and disrespectful girlfriend
 

hello! I know that it seems weird to come back here and write that Marie is being rude after we had such a good Valentines day. I’m pretty much in my mind so this is actually my second thought after having thinking about it for hours. It’s not the first time she is rude.

The second day when I was at her father’s place we watched CSI late at night. She asked to go and get her chocolate bar. We both sat on the couch with her father watching that show. I stood up and went to get the chocolate bar that she asked me to do. I had some trouble opening it and she asked me If I needed help.

I told her that I don’t and then she said this with sarcasm: «You really don’t need help do you?»

I got offended because opening a chocolate bar is the easiest thing to do and when she is being sarcastic like that it makes me feel I’m really stupid. 

On top of that she showed me a picture where it’s written: It’s okay to break down sometimes. Taco’s do it all the time but we still love them» 

she really meant that I get hurt easy but in a humorous way. 
 

Valentines day dinner: She were also rude there as well. she told me that I ignored half of what she said and half I got it. 

Not only that but she seems to have started to eye roll on me that day when we went out to the city. 

I have no idea how to deal with rude and disrespectful Girlfriend. Any advice?

EDIT: She has posted a picture of her pancakes that she made for me for breakfast. Is she trying to make it good now?

Edited February 16, 2020 by Keeves1

[Foxhall]

I like this Marie

your sensitive nature makes you an easy target at times, she enjoys having a go at you,

 

dont let her see this sensitivity so easily, ignore some of her antics and keep her guessing,

nice to see young love though, nice rhythm going between the two of you there is.

 

[JTSW]

On 2/16/2020 at 1:01 AM, Keeves1 said:

I told her that I don’t and then she said this with sarcasm: «You really don’t need help do you?»

 

On 2/16/2020 at 1:01 AM, Keeves1 said:

Not only that but she seems to have started to eye roll on me that day when we went out to the city. 

Stop taking things so seriously. 

You take things to heart when she is only teasing.

That's why she rolls her eyes, because you can't take a joke.

[Miss Spider]

Honestly, I think you might be coming at the relationship a little too strong, Keeves. The way you micro-analyze every little thing about this leaves me to believe you’re probably trying too hard and not being natural at all around Maria. I mean even her dad noticed. It’s probably starting to annoy her. Please take it easy 

Edited February 17, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[Interstellar]

Danger, danger. Your interest level is way too high. You need to relax, dial it down and come back to earth .

[Keeves1]

On 2/17/2020 at 11:30 AM, JTSW said:

 

Stop taking things so seriously. 

You take things to heart when she is only teasing.

That's why she rolls her eyes, because you can't take a joke.

And how do I stop taking things seriously? By just ignoring it? 
 

it’s just the way I am and I have tried to change that. My colleagues and my parents think that of me to. 
 

I do believe that it’s because the way I grew up. I was bullied at school so maybe that has something to do with me being all so reserved and in my mind so much

[Keeves1]

On 2/17/2020 at 11:00 PM, Interstellar said:

Danger, danger. Your interest level is way too high. You need to relax, dial it down and come back to earth .

I get it. I’m the one who kisses her the most so I probably should dial it down when it comes to that and with the touching as well.