Happy Lemming Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 2 hours ago, Keeves1 said: What can couples do together? Do they have "Comedy Clubs" in Norway?? Where comedians perform for small audiences... The tickets are fairly reasonable... 1
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 (edited) You are planning to sleep over her place when she lives with her mother? Yikes. I would not do that. That is just me & it's old fashioned but I think it's disrespectful of the parent, especially if it's the parent's house. If you really want to be together, head back to your place. For your date you bring wine & flowers. Don't worry about the bread knife for now. As you get to know her better you will learn something she needs. Do not buy her a sports bra. Just don't. There's a whole lot about fit that a man won't understand. A bra also is more about sex then you understand because it's intimate rather then practical so it's just creepy & wrong. As for date ideas: watch Movies Dinner attend a local play visit museum play mini golf go to an arcade play pool go ice skating, skiing or sledding go out for ice cream go dancing / clubbing go to the Holmenkollen Jump Tower race go karts go to Popsenteret & make music together do an escape room finish a puzzle together take a cooking class go to a beer, wine or whiskey tasting attend a festival go ziplining Walk around a trendy neighborhood & go window shopping Just use your imagination. It's all about spending time together. Have fun. Edited January 5, 2020 by d0nnivain 2 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 5, 2020 Author Posted January 5, 2020 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: You are planning to sleep over her place when she lives with her mother? Yikes. I would not do that. That is just me & it's old fashioned but I think it's disrespectful of the parent, especially if it's the parent's house. If you really want to be together, head back to your place. For your date you bring wine & flowers. Don't worry about the bread knife for now. As you get to know her better you will learn something she needs. Do not buy her a sports bra. Just don't. There's a whole lot about fit that a man won't understand. A bra also is more about sex then you understand because it's intimate rather then practical so it's just creepy & wrong. Why is it disrespect of the parents? Can you explain? Cause I don’t look at it that way. Visiting her even if that means for couple of hours or to sleep over only is positive... atleast I see it that way. Why? Because it’s a good opportunity for me to get to know her mother and see how my GF lives. As for the sports bra I agree it was a bit personal and I looked stupid asking her about the bra size. She knew that I needed a bread knife after being at my place two times so she was smart to wait. I’ve decided to buy her a lip balm cause I always see her using it so it would be an upgrade for her. Also thinking about buying her a candle as well.
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 I think it's disrespectful because I grew up in an era where premarital sex was still a bit taboo; even when people including me engaged in it, it was not done in full view of the parents. I think some things just need to be separate. Your love / sex life & her parents are things that can be separate. What you do as consenting adults is one thing; what you force her parents to actually know is a whole other ballgame. In my 20s I was invited to a vacation house being hosted by my then BFs parents. It was going to be the parents, my BF & me, & his sister & her BF. When I arrived, the sister was arguing with the parents about the sleeping arrangements. They had put me & my BF together but were expecting her & her BF to work out who would be sleeping in a room with two twin beds & who would sleep on the fold out couch in the living room. Like the sister I despised the sexism; it was OK for the son to sleep with his GF but it was not OK for the daughter to sleep with her BF. I spoke up offering to sleep alone in the living room so the boys could share the room with the two twin beds. The sister & I actually ended up platonically sharing the big bed. The parents were thrilled. All of my contemporaries were annoyed but I just couldn't bring myself to share a bed with my BF in his parents' house. Just make sure mom is cool with you sleeping over & where. It seems incredibly presumptuous to me for you to have a sleep over the 1st time you meet mom. Until you are sure about mom's views on pre-martial sex in general & involving her daughter, keep your impulses in check. You should absolutely go to dinner & get to know mom. Just don't be so anxious for the sleepover. You will make a better impression on mom if you slow down. As for the gifts, the lip balm is cute especially if it's an upgrade. Hold off on the rest. It reads like you are trying too hard & attempting to buy her affections. 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 5, 2020 Author Posted January 5, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, d0nnivain said: You are planning to sleep over her place when she lives with her mother? Yikes. I would not do that. That is just me & it's old fashioned but I think it's disrespectful of the parent, especially if it's the parent's house. If you really want to be together, head back to your place. For your date you bring wine & flowers. Have to quote you back on that D0n. She lives with her grandmother and yes I think you are a bit old fashioned (no offense) Her grandmother sure would love a red wine so it’s perfect that I bring it to her as well as a gift for Maria Edited January 5, 2020 by Keeves1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 5, 2020 Author Posted January 5, 2020 3 hours ago, d0nnivain said: Just make sure mom is cool with you sleeping over & where. It seems incredibly presumptuous to me for you to have a sleep over the 1st time you meet mom. Until you are sure about mom's views on pre-martial sex in general & involving her daughter, keep your impulses in check. Just don't be so anxious for the sleepover. You will make a better impression on mom if you slow down. As for the gifts, the lip balm is cute especially if it's an upgrade. Hold off on the rest. It reads like you are trying too hard & attempting to buy her affections. Atleast her grandmother is okay with it. mhm... lip balms are usually like 60kr so it’s way to cheap compared to a bread knife she gave me. Like it has to add up doesn’t it? then I can buy two lip balms or one lip balm and one bath bomb
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 (edited) Just make sure grandma is cool with this sleep over. I still think you would make a better impression by going home rather then staying the night. Let grandmother invite you to stay over. Don't assume grandma approves just because her granddaughter is ignoring the old lady's quite disapproval. No the value of the gifts don't have to be equal. You are trying to have a relationship not open an accounting firm. Edited January 5, 2020 by d0nnivain 2
Author Keeves1 Posted January 6, 2020 Author Posted January 6, 2020 (edited) 27 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Just make sure grandma is cool with this sleep over. I still think you would make a better impression by going home rather then staying the night. Let grandmother invite you to stay over. Don't assume grandma approves just because her granddaughter is ignoring the old lady's quite disapproval. No the value of the gifts don't have to be equal. You are trying to have a relationship not open an accounting firm. Thanks for the help! A gift set would be nice! I’m going to buy her that xD Edited January 6, 2020 by Keeves1
Miss Spider Posted January 6, 2020 Posted January 6, 2020 You guys can do anything! Whether you’re backing packing through NZ or cuddling on the couch you won’t be bored because you’re with each other. I hope this ends with you and Maria getting married and having little Keeves and Marias 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 6, 2020 Author Posted January 6, 2020 5 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: You guys can do anything! Whether you’re backing packing through NZ or cuddling on the couch you won’t be bored because you’re with each other. I hope this ends with you and Maria getting married and having little Keeves and Marias Hahaha I smiled while I was reading that thank you so much cookiesandough! I’ll hope it lasts for a long time xD 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Posted January 10, 2020 Hello. Maria invited me over to her tomorrow and she lives with her grandmother. I’ve already bought a gift so everything is ready. I’m nervous and I don’t know how to behave. Also what questions could I ask her grandmother? 1 1
Robert Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 3 threads on the same topic have been merged for those of you replying to the thread there may be a post or 2 out of place because of that, thanks
Author Keeves1 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Posted January 10, 2020 (edited) 55 minutes ago, Robert said: 3 threads on the same topic have been merged for those of you replying to the thread there may be a post or 2 out of place because of that, thanks Thanks! And yes from now on I will be posting updates from the same threads Edited January 10, 2020 by Keeves1 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 13, 2020 Author Posted January 13, 2020 Hello again. Some days have gone and It went well when I visited her grandmother. we ate pasta and we got to know each other a little bit. She was also cool with me staying over. I stayed to saturday and helped her at work. After that she slept over at my place until monday. I told her that she could go home because I’m working late today but she said that she wanted to stay at my place for one more day and asked if it’s okay with me. I said yes and now she’s there alone watching youtube or playing on her phone while I’m at work. I regret saying yes and should have rather said «I have a day off tomorrow so we can meet each other then. Meanwhile you can go home and relax» for some reason I feel bad about it. We originally planned that she was going to stay until monday. It’s to late now as we both have agreed that she can stay for one more day. I just feel bad that she’s there all alone.
Author Keeves1 Posted January 16, 2020 Author Posted January 16, 2020 I’m having problems and need help! (UPDATE) Hello. Our first month of our anniversary is going to be on the 2 february and it’s going to be her that takes me out. We both agreed that we do something every month when it’s our anniversary so it’s my turn on the 2. Mars. The problem here is: where should I take her to when the day is near? And do people normally go out at a restaurant on anniversary’s? the second problem is that I think her grandmother dislikes me. We made lasagna for three people and at the dinner table they were talking about me who needs alot of kitchen stuff. While her grandmother were talking she only had eye contact with my GF. It felt almost like she talked about me infront of my GF while ignoring me.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 5 minutes ago, Keeves1 said: And do people normally go out at a restaurant on anniversary’s? For an annual anniversary, yes. Monthly? Probably not, but I guess you could. Most people don't celebrate monthly anniversaries except to acknowledge them with a kiss or something. As far as the grandmother.....don't worry about it. If she thinks you need more kitchen "stuff" that's her opinion that she's entitled to :). If you want to cook more, get more stuff :). 2 1
fishlips Posted January 16, 2020 Posted January 16, 2020 I wouldn't worry about the grandma. She lets you in her house to see her granddaughter, so she doesn't mind you. Relax!! Your and your GF seem very cute. Have fun and stop overanalyzing everything or you will ruin a good thing. 1 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 16, 2020 Author Posted January 16, 2020 17 hours ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: For an annual anniversary, yes. Monthly? Probably not, but I guess you could. Most people don't celebrate monthly anniversaries except to acknowledge them with a kiss or something. Really? I think it’s fine going out to a restaurant or to do something else every month as an anniversary. A kiss will be too boring for Maria if I know her right xD
Author Keeves1 Posted January 16, 2020 Author Posted January 16, 2020 On 1/13/2020 at 2:58 PM, Keeves1 said: for some reason I feel bad about it. We originally planned that she was going to stay until monday. It’s to late now as we both have agreed that she can stay for one more day. I just feel bad that she’s there all alone. Just need to clarify this so I’m quoting myself it was fine with her that we was together. It’s the first time we’ve been with each other for 1 week. (From friday to wednesday)
Foxhall Posted January 17, 2020 Posted January 17, 2020 Your enjoying the relationship, ah yeah its fun too enjoying the company and all that
Author Keeves1 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Posted January 19, 2020 (edited) Hello. I will be with Maria this week as well but I’m empty in my head when it comes to idea to what we can do as a couple. Any ideas? Edited January 19, 2020 by Keeves1
Miss Spider Posted January 19, 2020 Posted January 19, 2020 (edited) Any events happening in your city(festivals, exhibits, shows). Perhaps go out to eat or drink. Any movies out that either of you want to see, Maybe check out some live music or sports that you both like. Any hobbies you share or want to introduce each other to. Check the weather and maybe visit some parks or a nice hike. Any of that. Edited January 19, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Author Keeves1 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Posted January 20, 2020 UPDATE: Did I made a mistake? I saw a guy named Zebb on her snapchat and I asked her who he is and she replied with: «It’s just a guy that annoys me. « And I said: «I was just curious because I haven’t seen him on your snap before» she said: «Yeah I know but everyone can snap me and get on top» and then I replied: «Oh as long as it’s nothing between you and him it’s all good» Did I made a mistake by asking her who he is?
JTSW Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 55 minutes ago, Keeves1 said: Did I made a mistake by asking her who he is? No. You have every right to ask about a random guy that has messaged her. She sounded a little vague in her response too. Keep an eye on this guy.
balletomane Posted January 20, 2020 Posted January 20, 2020 Hmm. I would disagree with that. The vast majority of people have opposite-sex friends and acquaintances. I'd feel pretty irritated if my boyfriend asked me, "Who's that?" every time he saw a male name on my social media that was unfamiliar to him, and I would get fed up fast if I were expected to provide a biography of each one. Just seeing a guy's name on her Snapchat is not in itself cause for concern.
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