Keeves1 Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 Hello lovely people Maria and I will be at my friends house for New Years Eve. it’s confirmed that it will be a total of 10 people. We are going to eat alot of food, play games and have some good drinks as well. She agreed to let me introduce her as my GF but does that mean that we are officially a couple? I’ve only been with her for 1 months and I think it’s waaay to soon.
alphamale Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 you are not a couple yet...maybe in another month or two when you have the dreaded "talk"
Miss Spider Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 I think you and Maria are a couple now!!! Ohhh boy get it 1
introverted1 Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 11 hours ago, Keeves1 said: She agreed to let me introduce her as my GF but does that mean that we are officially a couple? I’ve only been with her for 1 months and I think it’s waaay to soon. She agreed = you asked if you could introduce her as your gf. So how is it "waaay to[o] soon" to be a couple? What is the difference (to you) between having a gf and being part of a couple?
mortensorchid Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 Well, if she agreed to let you introduce her to others as your gf, then yes, you are a couple. That is when you are making it public to others. It used to be when you introduced someone to friends and acquaintances or brought them to a party was making it public, now it's your relationship status on Facebook. So yes I would say so.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 If neither of you are dating anyone else and don't want to/plan to, then yes, you're a couple. 1
smackie9 Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 Lol omg why is it too scary to admit you are a couple now? You can always break up whenever.
kendahke Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 (edited) On 12/27/2019 at 8:40 PM, Keeves1 said: She agreed to let me introduce her as my GF but does that mean that we are officially a couple? I’ve only been with her for 1 months and I think it’s waaay to soon. then why did you ask/go along? you sound like you're mad at her answer to the $#!+ test you administered to her Edited December 31, 2019 by kendahke
The Outlaw Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 If she's going to allow you to introduce her as your GF, then yes. You're a couple.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 On 12/27/2019 at 6:40 PM, Keeves1 said: I’ve only been with her for 1 months and I think it’s waaay to soon. YOU seem to be bewildered. Ask unambiguously if you two are now a committed couple. I have a slight feeling that her response could have been situational. In other words, she may be giving you permission, for the sake of this event, to allow you to introduce her as your gf, but it may not extend beyond that. I know, sounds kind of nuts, but it happens. 1 1
Author Keeves1 Posted December 31, 2019 Author Posted December 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: YOU seem to be bewildered. Ask unambiguously if you two are now a committed couple. I have a slight feeling that her response could have been situational. In other words, she may be giving you permission, for the sake of this event, to allow you to introduce her as your gf, but it may not extend beyond that. I know, sounds kind of nuts, but it happens. That’s very true! I’ll wait to have the «talk» with her and see if she will be sticking around with me after 2-3 months. Atleast she is not on the dating app anymore tho
balletomane Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 Going by the threads you've made about her, you seem to be overanalysing a lot, and you don't have a lot of confidence in your ability to communicate as a couple. All the questions you've been asking could be answered simply and without stress if you just talked to her and tried to be straightforward in your communication. As it is, you seem to be assuming that she's talking in code and always setting traps for you. An ordinary comment about the spice level of the chicken becomes part of some bizarre test that you need to pass, she agrees to let you introduce her as your girlfriend but you can't accept her words at face value, and so on. Why are you searching for hidden meanings and caveats? Just ask what you want to know. If you think it's too soon to be exclusive, say you feel it's too soon. It doesn't have to be this complicated. 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 1, 2020 Author Posted January 1, 2020 Hello, We had a great time on NYE eve at my friends house. After around 02:00 me and Maria took the nightbus home to me. I was not tired at this point but she was so I told her to sleep and don’t mind me being awake because I’ve worked late night shifts before the NYE. She stayed awake because of me and we watched a movie on netflix. And some minutes after we had sex again. Under our sex my penis started being rock hard and I could tell that she enjoyed it but it quickly just went to a normal size. I told her that it’s not her fault and that I was starting to feel tired. She replied with «it’s fine» The truth is I used something called promax so I could last longer and it was my first time using it. Yes it made me last longer except with the cost of my penis not being erected. Of course I did not tell her and it doesn’t matter because I won’t be using it anytime soon. The next morning She asked me about the dating app because she saw me being active 2 days ago and of course she needed a explaination. I told her that I touched the wrong app and it was unintentional. and so I did something stupid.... I proceeded and said: «I like to be with you and I don’t want you to date other guys» She agreed and even told her mom that we are official. She had even told her friends about me. I slipped and we had the talk way to early. I deleted the app on my phone infront of her but I still wonder if she has deleted it. If she still has dating apps on her phone atleast she knows that I’m loyal and if she chooses to date other guys without telling me after having the «talk» then I would know for sure that things arent going well with me and Maria. HOWEVER I could still ask her to delete dating apps but I think the time will tell. What is your opinion on this? You can blame as much as you want for my penis not being erected during sex or me telling her to soon. 1
Foxhall Posted January 1, 2020 Posted January 1, 2020 you are overthinking it, go with the flow and enjoy it. I don't see any problems from your post there (its common enough for the sex to be a bit flat after a long night out) 1 1
K.K. Posted January 1, 2020 Posted January 1, 2020 Awww Keeves has a girlfriend all official like! That’s awesome. When I first started reading about Maria, I thought no way is this going to go ok. All the interview questions and stuff. She seemed a little ‘wet blanket’ but ... Wow, you really pulled it out of your ass didn’t you! Congrats! You didn’t really accidentally ask her to be your girlfriend. It just slipped out because you wanted her to be. She said yes! I think the tables turned when you told her that you weren’t a monkey doing tricks for her! Because she has seemed very into you ever since Try not to worry too much about the one time limp wang. You’ll have a lot of chances to make it up since ... she’s your girlfriend! (Just for my own curiousness though, how could it be long lasting if it wasn’t uh.. erect.) 1
Kaarek Posted January 1, 2020 Posted January 1, 2020 (edited) I personally suggest you to not have this idea that the woman is "Supposed" to "comply" and do everything you do accordingly. Women are very independent now days and they LOVE their privacy therefore if she deleted the app or not, that shouldn't be your concern at all (if she really wants to cheat on you, she'll do it regardless without you knowing). Also based on what you wrote it kind of sounds that you're looking for validation to make "sure" the relationship is steady and safe (you cannot know that, no relationship comes without risks, that's how Love works) therefore instead of over-thinking and chasing pointless self-propelled theories, focus on loving her and spending quality time together. Best Regards Edited January 1, 2020 by Kaarek 1
Author Keeves1 Posted January 1, 2020 Author Posted January 1, 2020 Thanks everybody! I will try my best and focus on her now that she is my girlfriend I don’t know what we could do together she wants to meet me again tomorrow
Author Keeves1 Posted January 5, 2020 Author Posted January 5, 2020 (edited) Hello, I’ll start with the updates first. So far so good and I’ll hope It will stay like that. She has been sleeping over alot at my place. It’s like 3 times already. We cooked together, watched movie together, played on my ps4 and talked about our school memories. It first started before christmas when she slept over for the first time and then some days before NYE and after NYE as well. She even bought her own tootpaste, toothbrush, makeup remover and even her own soda still staying in my fridge. She really likes to be with me and it shows. Not only that but she buyed me a bread knife because she knows that I need it. I was suprised when she gave me that as a present and I even told her that It was not necessary. She told me that the package was damaged so she got it for free but TBH she probably said that just so I don’t have to buy her anything and guess what? I feel bad now and I have problems finding out what to give back hahaha. also she invited me to sleep over at her place next friday and I already know that I need to bring something and that is a wine for her mother. Do you think it’s to much to bring two things when I’m just sleeping over? (One because if visiting and two because Maria buyed me a bread knife so I have to give back) I mean of course I need to bring something when I’m visiting. That was it for the update. What can couples do together? I have basically no idea and have been thinking about it lately so we don’t get bored when we are with each other. Thanks for reading and you readers are much appreciated! XP Edited January 5, 2020 by Keeves1 Just some correction on some words :) 1
Ruby Slippers Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 Give her a practical thing you know she needs, similar to the bread knife. If you can't think of anything like that, take her flowers and some bubble bath or a candle. Girls love that stuff. I'm in a newish relationship and we spend pretty much all our free time together, as we enjoy it. Sometimes we do couple things - watch movies, go out to eat, go to the gym, cook together, take a shower or bath, watch YouTube, have sex, piddle around online, run errands, talk. Sometimes we do our own things, like clean, check email or do stuff online, pay bills, whatever.
Author Keeves1 Posted January 5, 2020 Author Posted January 5, 2020 22 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: Give her a practical thing you know she needs, similar to the bread knife. If you can't think of anything like that, take her flowers and some bubble bath or a candle. Girls love that stuff. I was thinking to buy her a sports bra because she told me that she really wanted some clothes for the gym. Candles are a good options but I don’t really know if she likes it.. haven’t been to her room so I don’t know yet tho. Worst case scenario she gives it to her mom after I leave her house.
Happy Lemming Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 I see you are in Norway... Are there any winter sports you could do together (that she might like)?? Skiing, snow shoeing, snow boarding?? Many years ago, when I lived in a cold weather climate I used to go ice skating with this woman I was dating. We always had so much fun. One day she presented me with a brand new pair of ice skates, mine were rather shabby and threadbare. I was elated and couldn't wait to try them out (take her ice skating). She did get the size wrong, but they were easily exchanged for the correct size. As far as showing up with gifts -- flowers, wine, candy, DVD, book (if she is a reader). My current girlfriend is an avid reader, so I try to find her books at the local used book store. 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 4 minutes ago, Keeves1 said: I was thinking to buy her a sports bra... Too personal... no to the sports bra. 4
Ruby Slippers Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 I agree the sports bra is a bit too personal. Most women are very particular about the fit of their sports bra and need to try them on. How about a nice top, leggings, or something like that? In any case, give her the gift receipt as well so she can exchange it if it doesn't fit well or isn't quite her style. And you can't go wrong with flowers. 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 Definitely not a sports bra! Leggings and tee maybe, but not the bra..... 2
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