max3732 Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 Sometimes on these OLD sites I'll see a message like "I'm not no here that often. Contact me on Instragram instead" and then it lists their Instragram name. Is that someone trying to get more Instagram followers or some kind of scam or are there really women who prefer to message on Instragram vs. the dating app?
Miss Spider Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 According to my guy friends, yes. Or they are just trying to get followers
rightondude Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 no one serious about meeting someone would do this.
Interstellar Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 I see a few women on Bumble do that. My first impression is they’re not looking for a relationship but fishing for followers because they’re “social influencers.”
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 22 minutes ago, Interstellar said: I see a few women on Bumble do that. My first impression is they’re not looking for a relationship but fishing for followers because they’re “social influencers.” Or because maybe it's easier to solicit men to pay for sex on Instagram than in the dating apps. 1
Author max3732 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Posted January 10, 2020 14 hours ago, enigma32 said: Scam. One way or another, she ain't looking to date. It's either a hooker, an IG "model", someone looking for more followers, or just a fake profile. Either way it's a waste of your time. That's what I figured, but I'm seeing some profiles now that otherwise look normal and have seen dating videos where they suggest messaging women on Instagram so I thought maybe I was missing some real people. Glad I was right to not waste my time on them 1
stillafool Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 Can you view Instagram photos without an account?
rjc149 Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 She's looking for more online admirers to pad her self-esteem or followers to boost her "influencer" status. Really physically attractive women (or those who appear to be in their photos), who obviously do not have problems finding dates, are on OLD almost purely for their egos. Think of how many horny, drooling men message these women. Don't bother messaging these women. It's a waste of your time, and a forfeiture of your dignity to willingly become another drooling chump orbiter giving these make-up caked, photo-shopped, compulsive selfie-taking, vapid and wildly self-absorbed women even an iota of validation. 1 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 20 hours ago, max3732 said: Sometimes on these OLD sites I'll see a message like "I'm not no here that often. Contact me on Instragram instead" and then it lists their Instragram name. Is that someone trying to get more Instagram followers or some kind of scam or are there really women who prefer to message on Instragram vs. the dating app? As with so many of things normally done by humans, you are playing the percentages, and it would be a wise reflex to discard such dating profiles without hesitation. Not because there couldn't be ONE decent human within who is just doing things wrong... but because your time is valuable, and you want to take the scores of possibilities and winnow them down to a workable few in as little time as possible. Furthermore, when OLD in the first place is most centrally availing yourself of the percentages/probabilities... the common sense move is to keep things moving in the early stages until you can get the numbers down to a workable few. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 20 hours ago, max3732 said: Sometimes on these OLD sites I'll see a message like "I'm not no here that often. Contact me on Instragram instead" and then it lists their Instragram name. Is that someone trying to get more Instagram followers or some kind of scam or are there really women who prefer to message on Instragram vs. the dating app? Yes. In my experience, every time that is, if someone includes their social media, phone number, a 'clever' email address with numbers, SCAM. Never respond. 1
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted January 11, 2020 Posted January 11, 2020 In general, if the woman gives me her number before i ask for it, i am very suspect. Any departure from the dating platform is almost always a scam. NEVER EVER CLICK LINKS. NEVER. 2
hercules22 Posted January 12, 2020 Posted January 12, 2020 most of the time they are not even serious about dating just after improving there follower count they mostly want validation for people to like photos. there profiles usually public aswell and they tend to have thousands of followers i just dont bother following them . a low percentage does prefer to talk on instagram there accounts are usually private and they arent accepting everyone there some features on tinder you cant do on instagram so they prefer alternative
LoverOfDance Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 Wow, it’s crazy how much negativity there is on here. I started talking to my boyfriend on Instagram but we met on an OLD app. I was tired of talking to men who just wanted to spend forever on the app, men who were just using the app to cure their boredom, men who simply wanted a quick lay, men who didn’t know what the hell they were looking for, men using fake profiles e.t.c. I knew that a serious man would reach out if he was interested in getting to know me better so I simply wrote on my profile that I had no interest in talking on the app. I find it easier to spot a fake profile on Instagram than on dating sites so I simply wrote on my OLD profile that I’d prefer to be messaged on instagram. Family and friends comment on stuff on Instagram so if you don’t see comments from friends or family on pictures or if the profile is relatively new with little to no followers then there is a good chance that it is fake. I wrote that I wanted to meet in real life and I wanted to truly get to know someone. I knew what I wanted and I wasn’t going to spend weeks on an OLD site chatting with men who were chatting with 5 other women and who were still trying to decide what or who they even really wanted.
rjc149 Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 10 minutes ago, LoverOfDance said: Wow, it’s crazy how much negativity there is on here. I started talking to my boyfriend on Instagram but we met on an OLD app. I was tired of talking to men who just wanted to spend forever on the app, men who were just using the app to cure their boredom, men who simply wanted a quick lay, men who didn’t know what the hell they were looking for, men using fake profiles e.t.c. I knew that a serious man would reach out if he was interested in getting to know me better so I simply wrote on my profile that I had no interest in talking on the app. I find it easier to spot a fake profile on Instagram than on dating sites so I simply wrote on my OLD profile that I’d prefer to be messaged on instagram. Family and friends comment on stuff on Instagram so if you don’t see comments from friends or family on pictures or if the profile is relatively new with little to no followers then there is a good chance that it is fake. I wrote that I wanted to meet in real life and I wanted to truly get to know someone. I knew what I wanted and I wasn’t going to spend weeks on an OLD site chatting with men who were chatting with 5 other women and who were still trying to decide what or who they even really wanted. A broken clock tells the correct time twice a day. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 9 minutes ago, LoverOfDance said: I find it easier to spot a fake profile on Instagram than on dating sites so I simply wrote on my OLD profile that I’d prefer to be messaged on instagram. Family and friends comment on stuff on Instagram so if you don’t see comments from friends or family on pictures or if the profile is relatively new with little to no followers then there is a good chance that it is fake. Interesting. How "anonymous" is your IG profile? I wouldn't want someone to contact me there first because they could probably fairly easily figure out who I am just by clicking on other people's profiles, comments, etc. Not enough safety for me. I appreciate your perspective though! Really had no clue anyone legitimiate would do this. 1
LoverOfDance Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 It is not always a scam. Dating is risky everywhere. If you find a woman interesting, just message her. If my bf hadn’t reached out to me on Instagram after finding me on the dating app, we wouldn’t be together today. if a woman is not genuine, it is not hard to find out if you pay close attention. CautiouslyOptimistic, I’m not sure I understand your question. I don’t post anything too personal on Instagram. I have nothing to hide at all so I don’t mind who finds me on there.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 17 minutes ago, LoverOfDance said: CautiouslyOptimistic, I’m not sure I understand your question. I don’t post anything too personal on Instagram. I have nothing to hide at all so I don’t mind who finds me on there. It just seems like IG is a lot less "anonymous" than a dating site. Even if you first and last name isn't in your Instagram handle/name, it probably isn't that difficult to figure it out by doing some clicking on folks who are liking/commenting, etc. I mean...I bet I could figure it out pretty easily even if you don't put your personal information directly out there.
Trail Blazer Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 They're not necessarily a scam, but almost none are legitimately trying to find someone to date. If the girl in question is hot, then the most likely scenario is that she's looking for more IG followers or wants to increase her snap score on Snapchat. 1
LoverOfDance Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 CautiouslyOptimistic, I don’t try to hide who I am on Instagram. Why would I? I guess there is the potential of being found by a stalker? Even then, there is really nothing private or personal on there. I don’t hide my identity on social media but I still find a way to keep my personal life private. Hope that makes sense. 1
LoverOfDance Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 I also didn’t try to be anonymous when I was on dating sites. I don’t understand why I would except if I was trying to hide from a stalker. Being anonymous just makes things harder in my opinion and makes everything feel less real. i wanted to meet someone FOR REAL. After a while of being on dating apps, I stopped chatting with men for more than a week without meeting. If we are not talking face to face then we are likely wasting each other’s time. 1
Noproblem Posted January 13, 2020 Posted January 13, 2020 I saw some guys doing this on Bumble as well.
Author max3732 Posted January 13, 2020 Author Posted January 13, 2020 18 hours ago, LoverOfDance said: I also didn’t try to be anonymous when I was on dating sites. I don’t understand why I would except if I was trying to hide from a stalker. Being anonymous just makes things harder in my opinion and makes everything feel less real. i wanted to meet someone FOR REAL. After a while of being on dating apps, I stopped chatting with men for more than a week without meeting. If we are not talking face to face then we are likely wasting each other’s time. For me I'm afraid of some crazy woman going after me and also people that I may deal with in business trying to get info about me that they can use against me. I'm an extremely private person and like to compartmentalize my friends. So I have an Instagram account but I don't post anything. There are more photos and info about me on the dating sites than on Instagram or Facebook since I figure I can easily block women who I'm not interested in and that people I deal with at work or general friends/family won't be looking at dating sites. I also ask women to meet within the 1st few messages. I'm tired of wasting time chatting online when it would be easier to meet in person. Although many women are willing to chat online but the minute I mention meeting they disappear.
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