bradt93 Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 I said hi to a pretty girl in my college class yesterday and she smiled, but didn't say hi back. I don't know if she noticed me looking her way or not, but I wasn't looking exactly at her. My eyes just wonder and she had her hand on the side of her face talking to the girl next to her. I have no idea what it means, should I be concerned or am I overreacting? Because I don't want to look like a creeper.
d0nnivain Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 You are fine. You said hi. She smiled. It's all good. You won't be a creeper as long as you don't follow her around campus. Do be friendly each time you see her. After a few encounters when you see her alone on campus try for a conversation. 1
Author bradt93 Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 1 minute ago, alphamale said: it doesn't mean anything Thanks, that makes me feel better. 1
Author bradt93 Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 1 minute ago, d0nnivain said: You are fine. You said hi. She smiled. It's all good. You won't be a creeper as long as you don't follow her around campus. Do be friendly each time you see her. After a few encounters when you see her alone on campus try for a conversation. Ever since middle school, I have never gone back to my old self and I never will. I didn't like that part of myself at all. I'm not making excuses, but I think my bipolar had something to do with it as well.
Happy Lemming Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 (edited) In general, if I say "hi" or "hello" to someone and they don't say it back, they are not interested. The woman (in your scenario) may have been engaged in a deep conversation with the woman next to her. Her placing her hand on the side of her face may have been to whisper or talk in a low voice to her friend. As a side note, the person you are referring to is a woman. (college aged and attending the University), not a girl. Edited January 9, 2020 by Happy Lemming punctuation
Author bradt93 Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 1 minute ago, Happy Lemming said: In general, if I say "hi" or "hello" to someone and they don't say it back, they are not interested. The woman (in your scenario) may have been engaged in a deep conversation with the woman next to her. Her placing her hand on the side of her face may have been to whisper or talk in a low voice to her friend. As a side note, the person you are referring to is a woman. (college aged and attending the University), not a girl. She smiled. I don't take it as either.
Author bradt93 Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 We are just in the same class together as were in last semester, that's all and I thought I would say hey.
alphamale Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 2 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: As a side note, the person you are referring to is a woman. (college aged and attending the University), not a girl. 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 Just now, bradt93 said: We are just in the same class together as were in last semester, that's all and I thought I would say hey. You tried to say "Hello", which is fine, and a good attempt at making a new friend. Good job! Again, she may have been engaged in conversation with her friend and preoccupied with that activity. A smile is an acknowledgment. 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 @alphamale It is just one of my pet-peeves when a guy or man refers to an adult female as "girl". A woman usually does not say, I met a new boy today. 2
alphamale Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 19 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: @alphamale It is just one of my pet-peeves when a guy or man refers to an adult female as "girl". A woman usually does not say, I met a new boy today. even on tv and IRL I see girls calling each other girls 1
RecentChange Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 19 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: @alphamale It is just one of my pet-peeves when a guy or man refers to an adult female as "girl". A woman usually does not say, I met a new boy today. I am a female and I use "girl" all the time, so do my girl friends "Woman" just sounds so formal to me, you're right, I don't say I met a "boy" but rather a "guy" - "gal" just isn't that commonly used in American English these days. So it's girl and guy when I am speaking in an informal tone "the girls at my riding stable are such a fun bunch" (we range in age from 30-50 btw). While I will say "I really like the group of guys my husband hangs out with" Formal - "the woman representing the client really knows her stuff". Gosh and I guess I rarely use "men" I wouldn't say the "the man that works at brand x" but rather "the guy from brand x" 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 6 minutes ago, alphamale said: even on tv and IRL I see girls calling each other girls Yes, I see it on TV, as well. And yes I use the term "girlfriend" to refer to the person I'm dating, but when I talk about her I use the term woman. I also think Brad (who is dealing with bi-polar issues) may present better, if he uses the more formal vernacular. 1
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 Dont be chasing tail in the middle of class dude, time and place. 2
alphamale Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 1 hour ago, CAPSLOCK BANDIT said: Dont be chasing tail in the middle of class dude, time and place. indeed, when in class concentrate on you studies. doing good in school = good paying job = all the trim/tail you want
Author bradt93 Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 Well, in class today we both said hi and smile at one another, but I'm not taking it any farther. She also said to me "oh we have two classes together" and I said yea. 2
preraph Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 It's all fine. Just keep your cool and treat her like an ordinary person.
Author bradt93 Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 2 minutes ago, preraph said: It's all fine. Just keep your cool and treat her like an ordinary person. Well, of course. 1
mark clemson Posted January 10, 2020 Posted January 10, 2020 9 hours ago, bradt93 said: Well, in class today we both said hi and smile at one another, but I'm not taking it any farther. She also said to me "oh we have two classes together" and I said yea. This sounds to me like an overture of availability for friendship. I have not read your posting history and am not aware of your background, but take that for what it is. I think you should feel free to converse with her if/when she's not otherwise preoccupied.
Author bradt93 Posted January 17, 2020 Author Posted January 17, 2020 (edited) Well I have two classes with her and today she was sitting next to a guy smiling and talking to him. I don't know if it was a class acquaintance like myself, friend or boyfriend, but either way I don't want anything to do with her. Edited January 17, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed derogatory language
Happy Lemming Posted January 17, 2020 Posted January 17, 2020 3 hours ago, bradt93 said: Well I have two classes with her and today she was sitting next to a guy smiling and talking to him. You have no idea of the relationship between these two individuals, they could be friends from high school, the guy could be dating one of her friends and be in her social circle or the guy could be her cousin (for all you know). Also getting upset because some random guy has "game" and you don't is immature. Instead of getting upset, watch him, learn from him, pick up some hints... duplicate his actions and maybe you will be able to get a date and go out with a woman. 1
Author bradt93 Posted January 18, 2020 Author Posted January 18, 2020 6 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: You have no idea of the relationship between these two individuals, they could be friends from high school, the guy could be dating one of her friends and be in her social circle or the guy could be her cousin (for all you know). Also getting upset because some random guy has "game" and you don't is immature. Instead of getting upset, watch him, learn from him, pick up some hints... duplicate his actions and maybe you will be able to get a date and go out with a woman. He's probably just a guy from another class he has with her, but still I'm done. The only way I'm going to get action is if I go to Vegas.
Happy Lemming Posted January 19, 2020 Posted January 19, 2020 19 hours ago, bradt93 said: ...but still I'm done. I think that is the wrong way to think about it. OK... so this woman didn't chose you and found a different guy more to her liking, that is called "free will" and everyone has it. But being nice, friendly, chatty, etc. is also how you network and although this particular woman may not be interested in you, she may have a friend that she could introduce you to. Increasing your social circle (when attempting to date) is also a positive thing. It gives you practice and ideas, so when you do meet a woman who wants to date, you'll be more comfortable, confident and have more dating ideas/plans.
Author bradt93 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Posted January 20, 2020 On 1/18/2020 at 8:57 PM, Happy Lemming said: I think that is the wrong way to think about it. OK... so this woman didn't chose you and found a different guy more to her liking, that is called "free will" and everyone has it. But being nice, friendly, chatty, etc. is also how you network and although this particular woman may not be interested in you, she may have a friend that she could introduce you to. Increasing your social circle (when attempting to date) is also a positive thing. It gives you practice and ideas, so when you do meet a woman who wants to date, you'll be more comfortable, confident and have more dating ideas/plans. I don't know if this woman is interested in me or not, she talks to a lot of guys. What makes you think she flat out rejected me?
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