Need some expertise

[InductedHades]

I'm not sure if this is the right spot to talk about this or if talking about Escorts in general are aloud here. I figured i'd post this asking before I get into details about everything.

[snowboy91]

Escorts are legal in some countries (including mine), so no judgement here!

[InductedHades]

I'm looking for some advice. I do understand that these can be just acts and whatnot. But it's a hard feeling to beat and I would like some advice on it.

So Jan 3th I was scheduled to see an Escort. I only decided to do this, as I've never had much luck with women. I'm not even going to bring up the recent one that just happened because it was so, I don't know. I just wanna forget it. We only had one date and that was it. So a co-worker suggested this Agency to me on Dec 28th. I contacted them and made the booking.

So I arrive there, I'm nervous and I mean nervous. I didn't know what to expect. Never been with a woman before. And thoughts are going through my mind like, will I be good enough, what if I can't give her pleasure etc. So upon arriving, I was told to go to my suite, as it's a private house for this Agency. So I knock on the door and walk in. I swear, I was gonna get tied up or something by the way she was dressed. But actually, she was pretty chill and down to earth. The 1st thing I told her was "This is my 1st time with a women ever before. And I'm virgin." She didn't give no shocked look or anything. She was fine with it. And lead the way. 

It turned out better than I thought it would. After we were done, and laying down, she asked me a total 4 times "Are you sure you're a virgin?" And I said yeah all 4 times. She replies " The way you went, you must have been doing this for years." I won't get into details but she seemed she was very surprised on how well I did. Before I open the door, she barges out of the bathroom, grabs my coat and kisses me and says "Drive safe. Can't wait to see you again." Kissed again and left.

I'm driving home, thinking, wow did that really just happen? I slept really good that night. So Saturday comes, and i'm trying to figure what to do. I needed something to do on the weekend. So, I wanted to see who was available for Sunday. Found out, she was available. So I called in and got it booked for Sunday the 5th. So I figured, let's go see her again.

So got to their private house 20 mins before my booked started. So, I knock on the door of my suite and walk in. No one in there. Okay. But then I hear the shower running. She's in the shower. So I decided to sit on the bed and watch some TV while she finished. The bathroom door was a crack opened, so I could everything. I'm just watching TV, waiting nicely for her to finish. And then I hear her talking to herself. She doesn't even know i'm there yet. And she starts saying "I can't wait to see my boyfriend again tonight. Can't believe he was a virgin tho, it just blows my mind away. I'm surprised no other girls have dated him or anything. I just never had a guy focus so much on me. Almost all, just blow their load and that's it, but not him. Just thinking about him, gives me butterflies in the stomach. I think I like him, not just for the sex but as a person, as he's just so calm and chilled. He's not quite like other guys i've met." Then she walks out and get startled when she sees me. She's like, "How long you been there?" I say "Just got here. I was quiet." I didn't want her to know that I heard her. 

So this time, I lead the way. She starts off "You're not nervous anymore, are you? I said "I am a bit but since I know what you like, that's what i'm going to do." Again, I won't go into details. 

So for the last 45 mins, we just laid there cuddling and talking. And she starts bring up a lot of her personal life up. I thought Escort's aren't suppose to talk about their personal lives. She starts of saying "I've only recently got into this business about 2 weeks. I never though of becoming an Escort. But majority of guys are intimidated of me because i'm a body builder. So I figured this might help. I'm a single woman. Been single, going on to 3 years now. I just wish I could find a guy. You're single too, aren't you?" And goes on. She's telling me where she lives, what she's doing in school. She even told me how many bookings she has had since she started and said i'm her favorite one. She even says "You should come by the gym I go to one day and check it out." I said "Sure, i'll do that." We make out for a bit. She goes on "You know, I could just fall asleep in your arms but then with our luck, we will get the call saying our time is up." Needless to say, she probably passed out for about 10 mins. She wakes up "Why are you so comfy?" I say "I'm a big fluffy teddy bear." She kisses me and says "You are." And we are start glaring into each others eyes. And then I started to noticed that her pupils are starting to dilate, and noticed her blushing a bit. You couldn't see the color of her eyes anymore, her pupils were that dilated. Then we get the call, to tell use our time is up. And she goes "Why does it have to be that time already!" and lets out a big disappointed sigh. We get dress. She walks up to me wraps her arms around me and I warp my arms around her and she says "I just wanna stay like this." I then ask her "Would you like to go out for dinner sometime." She says "Yes. I'm sure the Agency won't have an issue with that." I said "This is a personal request." She says "I don't want to say Yes just yet since it's personal. As it does bypass the Agency and I might get in trouble of I do that. Let me ask a couple of the other girls that have been here for awhile. Because I would love to go for dinner regardless." I said "Even if we have to go through the Agency, that's fine too." Gave each other final kisses and left.

So from what I have told you, is it possible that this Escort is having feelings for me? I do know, they can put on an Act, but it's what she said in the bathroom, as she didn't know that I was there. If she knew I was there, I highly doubt she would have said that. One of my buddies, his buddy is married to an ex-escort that he used to go see. I do know relationships can work but they are very, very slim. But it almost sounds like, shes hoping to find a guy through this kind of service. I'm trying to figure out what to do here. Should I ask her what her feeling are? I will admit, I do kinda like her. Not just for the sex but as a human being. As they also deserve to have someone to love and care for them also. As I said, she's only been in this business for 2 weeks. We only did 2 bookings together and the amount she has shared about her personal life is crazy. 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

If you have a line to her direct, just ask her to come over and go from there... I mean, obviously you two are a good match for sex, but just tell her you want to chill without sex for a bit and just hang out.

Edited January 8, 2020 by CAPSLOCK BANDIT
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[Miss Spider]

I suppose it is possible. I think though that she would give you a number to reach her outside of the escort service . 

[d0nnivain]

She's giving you something call the GF experience.  Every compliment or detail about her life she gave you was a lie designed to stroke your ego so she can count on you as a steady customer.  

[scooby-philly]

@InductedHades - Be careful with this situation. I've used escorts before when in between gfs. In too many countries there's a stigma, but if you're careful on all fronts it can be rewarding. Some things to be careful with - don't share too much private information with her. Don't leave your personal belongings around for her to snoop through. Don't introduce her to anyone yet. Don't bring her to your place yet. DO NOT get into any situations where you're physically blocked into a room or building. Stuff like that. Keep in mind, a lot of "escorts" can be addicted to drugs, they might have a pimp, they could be doing this on the side without their bf or husband knowing, they're often products of emotional and/or physical abuse when they were younger. And don't forget that in many countries, legal or illegal, they often don't have any better way to earn money so if you're successful she could be a gold digger. And even all of those things aside, it could be simply true that you actually cared about her feelings, which is rare for them to experience. That said, it doesn't mean she'll want to date or marry you. I'm not saying you can't see her on a steady basis or you can't do things with her besides sex, but you need to be careful for a long time - I mean months, if not at least a year - because a lot of escorts (not all) are good con artists, liars, etc. So enjoy the time but keep your head in reality. 

[preraph]

They're paid to make you feel like you're great in bed and that they really like you and think you're amazing. She staged the whole shower thing and like someone else said gave you the girlfriend experience. 

 

She will say or do anything you want for money. Unless she asks you out and you don't have to pay for her services or pay for something else big like a gift or monthly stipend, she's just pretending. 

 

Also she may start telling you a sob story of some type to get more money out of you. It's all part of the business.

Edited January 8, 2020 by preraph

[InductedHades]

2 hours ago, d0nnivain said:

She's giving you something call the GF experience.  Every compliment or detail about her life she gave you was a lie designed to stroke your ego so she can count on you as a steady customer.  

I just find it hard to say. Only because of what she was saying in the bathroom. And of what happened this morning.

This morning, I decided to go check out the gym she goes to. There she was, with her personal trainer. Just like she told me. She finished her set, seen and waved at me. I waved back. I was looking around and then noticed she was gone. She was behind me and said "Looking for me?" While hugging me. I turned around and gave me a kiss. She grabbed my hand and went to sit down on the couch they had in the back. Sat down, and started making out. Then she said "How about a little quickie before I have to go back to working out." So we did. This was during her own personal time. She also gave me her personal number and yes, it was her personal number.

[smackie9]

If you don't pay for the sex, then she is interested. But just remember she's having sex for money with other men.

Edited January 8, 2020 by smackie9

[InductedHades]

2 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

If you don't pay for the sex, then she is interested.

I didn't pay for sex when I seen her at the gym. She started rubbing the inside of my thigh when she asked if she wanted the quickie.

[elaine567]

Who cares if she is "interested" she is a sex worker, do you really want to get involved with a sex worker?

Some will give out freebies to get guys hooked, so they feel "special" and keep coming back for more... 

[smackie9]

Sex with men is her job.....maybe she's looking for someone to support her.

[InductedHades]

1 minute ago, enigma32 said:

Sounds like she might be interested in something other than just having you as a customer then. All that remains is for you to decide if this is the kind of girl you want. My buddy briefly dated a stripper/escort for a while and he had fun with her but did not stick around for the long haul. I wouldn't want a girl that got paid to bang other dudes. 

As I said in my post above, she only started doing this recently and never done it before. Before I even booked her the 1st time, the Agency also said she is new this business. We also do a very serious background check, as we have had people that would lie. And lying is something we have zero tolerance for. 

And as I also said, she did tell me she that majority of guys get intimidated by her because she's a body building. She's not super massive. She's got some muscle definition and toned pretty nicely. And she just wants to find a guy to be with. Maybe doing this is way of finding a guy. I don't know. She just didn't seem very fond of doing this kind of work either. I think deep down, she just wants someone to love, care for and be there for her. 

We are meeting up for dinner tomorrow. This is on our own time. The Agency isn't involved with this dinner. I'll be able to find some more info tomorrow.

[d0nnivain]

Bottom line:  You are NOT special. 

She may want out of The Life & sees you as the sucker who won't judge her.  Get tested.  ALWAYS use condoms & dental dams.  

Do you really want to date her & bring her home to your family?  Can you imagine introducing her to your mom or grandmother?  What exactly are you going to say when somebody asks you how you two met?  

 

All in all I suspect you are getting played . . . big time.  Be CAREFUL.  

Edited January 8, 2020 by d0nnivain

[InductedHades]

6 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Bottom line:  You are NOT special. 

She may want out of The Life & sees you as the sucker who won't judge her.  Get tested.  ALWAYS use condoms & dental dams.  

Do you really want to date her & bring her home to your family?  Can you imagine introducing her to your mom or grandmother?  What exactly are you going to say when somebody asks you how you two met?  

 

All in all I suspect you are getting played . . . big time.  Be CAREFUL.  

Never did say I was special, did I? 

Not everyone who picks this Life, wants to be in this life forever. There will be a time where they want to leave and have a life with someone.

As for Family, both my parents have passed, all my grandparents have passed. I don't stay in touch with my brothers or sisters. So I have really no one to introduce her too. If someone asks how we met, I'll be honest. And would I date her? Yeah, I would.

There's always a chance you're gonna get played. Whether they are a sex worker or not, it's gonna happen. It's just a higher chance with a sex worker. 

[d0nnivain]

Just be careful.  

[InductedHades]

5 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Just be careful.  

I will be.

[InductedHades]

55 minutes ago, enigma32 said:

I would just be wary of any girl that had sex for a living. I am actually very good friends with a former stripper/fetishist so I will not judge all sex workers harshly but it's still not the sort of thing I would want to get involved with. If you struggled with women before her, I can see why you would jump all over this one though. We are all just out here trying to find our happiness. If she is it for you, and she actually likes you, maybe you could make it work. I have seen stranger things happen. That sex work stuff would just bother me way too much. 

She's actually a Cosmetologist. And she told me where she works. I actually stopped by when I doing some errands an hour ago, cause I needed a hair cut. And I asked if she worked here. The lady said "Yeah, she's in school this afternoon for her Cosmetologist course." Then she asks me "Are you 'my name'?" I said "Yeah." She says "Oh she was talking about you on Monday. Treat her well. Thats all I gotta say." I said "Okay." That's all this lady spoke of. So I have no idea what she told her co-worker. Creeper, I know lol. But besides wanting to find a guy to be with, she also wanted to find something to do for quick money to pay for her school. Hence, an Escort. Which I do believe has to be paid at the end of January she said. The Agency posts the Escort's availability on their site. She only does 2-3 days a week with an availability of 2 hours on each day. But it's not always she will get a booking either. And with that, she's only aloud 1 booking. As this Agency has a 4 hour between end of booking and start of new booking. An example. 'She has something at 1PM. Ends at 2PM. She can't accept another booking til 4PM'. I really don't think doing this is a long term plan of her's. More of just a temp just to pay for school. 

I have seen some stranger things happen too. 

This sex worker stuff, it might bother me. I don't know. It doesn't bother me right now. The only thing that might bother me is, she gets someone new and wants to go to his place instead of the Agency's Private House. At that point, i'd be more worried about her safety, than anything else. 

As I said in a previous post, we are having dinner tomorrow night. This is our own personal time. The Agency isn't involved with it. So, i'll be able to talk with her and see where it all stands. 

[schlumpy]

You may no longer be a physical virgin but you are an emotional one that hasn't been dumped by what you thought was the love of your life. You are in extreme emotional danger from this women. She's just there for sex and not love. Don't get trapped.

 

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, your "green-ness" to the world of escorts is very evident, and I can nearly guarantee you that she and her agency are using that to their advantage. 

Allow me to elaborate: I don't buy for one moment she's only been escorting for 2 weeks. She plays the game too well to be a total newbie. That's more than likely a storyline concocted to make her sound that much more appealing to inexperienced clients. Heck, she was able to make you think the shower "talking to herself" scenario wasn't a performance for your benefit. This is someone who knows what she's doing. That was staged, and it worked like a charm. Keep in mind that if her pupils were so dilated you really couldn't see her eye colour, it can be a sign of drug use as well. 

This isn't to say she isn't attracted to you. But you need to extraordinarily cautious here, as you are vulnerable, having already told her you don't have much experience with women. The wrong type of people will exploit that, and I fear you're heading in that direction. Might she be the real deal? Anything is possible. But given the show she's already put on for you, I think it's more likely she might stick around for a bit and discard you once she's gotten whatever it is she wants from you. And if you think you'd be okay with your girlfriend having sex with other men for money, you are in for a terrible reality check once that actually starts happening. You seem like a sweet and well-intentioned man who wants to be cool with her job since you are so taken by her, but sincerely would feel awful knowing his girlfriend was whispering sweet nothings into another man's ear before letting him enter her or after they have both climaxed. 

Just be careful, always protect yourself when you have sex with her, and don't get your hopes up. These situations usually are not the makings of a longer-term relationship, if we're being realistic. 

 

[InductedHades]

4 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

OP, your "green-ness" to the world of escorts is very evident, and I can nearly guarantee you that she and her agency are using that to their advantage. 

Allow me to elaborate: I don't buy for one moment she's only been escorting for 2 weeks. She plays the game too well to be a total newbie. That's more than likely a storyline concocted to make her sound that much more appealing to inexperienced clients. Heck, she was able to make you think the shower "talking to herself" scenario wasn't a performance for your benefit. This is someone who knows what she's doing. That was staged, and it worked like a charm. Keep in mind that if her pupils were so dilated you really couldn't see her eye colour, it can be a sign of drug use as well. 

This isn't to say she isn't attracted to you. But you need to extraordinarily cautious here, as you are vulnerable, having already told her you don't have much experience with women. The wrong type of people will exploit that, and I fear you're heading in that direction. Might she be the real deal? Anything is possible. But given the show she's already put on for you, I think it's more likely she might stick around for a bit and discard you once she's gotten whatever it is she wants from you. And if you think you'd be okay with your girlfriend having sex with other men for money, you are in for a terrible reality check once that actually starts happening. You seem like a sweet and well-intentioned man who wants to be cool with her job since you are so taken by her, but sincerely would feel awful knowing his girlfriend was whispering sweet nothings into another man's ear before letting him enter her or after they have both climaxed. 

Just be careful, always protect yourself when you have sex with her, and don't get your hopes up. These situations usually are not the makings of a longer-term relationship, if we're being realistic. 

 

As I said, we are doing dinner tonight. So i'll be able to talk with her then. If works out, that's cool. If not, that's cool too. It's not the end of the world. I just keep on trucking. There are plenty of of women out there. When one doesn't work out, just move along. In all honestly, this wasn't something I truly wanted to do. But I figured, okay, lets give it a shot. Whats the worse that can happen, I fall for her and get rejected. But in all honestly, I don't think sex is what I was missing. I think it has to do more with having a relationship with her. Just having someone in my life, you know. As, I do have a lot to offer someone and just feels like it's getting wasted away.

All I know is, around 9 last night I checked the Agency's website, just to see if anyone has updated their schedule. And noticed she wasn't on the site anymore. I checked again this morning, thinking maybe some sort of glitch, and still wasn't there. So I gave the Agency a text asking if she is still available. I'm just waiting for a reply back. They might not even get back to me also. Maybe she quit? Not sure. I'll see what dinner tonight brings.

 

[InductedHades]

Well, she actually did quit yesterday. They can't tell me the reason. Which is understandable. Well, this will make for an interesting dinner now. As far as I know, it's still happening. 

[InductedHades]

15 hours ago, enigma32 said:

I hope you get whatever it is you are looking for buddy. I know an old friend of mine was really hard on money back in the day and she signed up to work as an adult model for some extra cash. The ad said up to $100 an hour so she figured she could work for a day and pay off the bills she had. Nope. They worked her for 1.5 hours, gave her $150 bucks, and everyone she knew found out about it. We all make mistakes, but I would still be wary of a sex worker. 

I get what your saying. Its like she told me the 2nd time we were together, that she just wants to find a guy to be with. If it only lasts a few months, I'm fine with that.

But, yeah dinner went very well. We arrived and 1st thing tells me is that she quit because one of the clients she was with made her feel like not all guys out there want sex and actually want a relationship. And that client was me. Dinner was about 2 hours long. We laughed, learned more about each, etc. It was a really great time. After dinner, we went back to her place. We sit on her couch and says "We no longer have to worry about a call telling us time is up and no money is involved either. I'm officially your girlfriend." Started making out and did our thing. Then we cuddled while watching a movie and eventually fell asleep.

She is the one that made it official. Not me. See how it goes. Like I said, if it only lasts a few months so be it. And yes, I will be very careful.

[InductedHades]

22 hours ago, enigma32 said:

Not all relationships need to last forever for them to be worthwhile, but you never know. Good luck to you!

Thanks. 

Last night she tells me before we get to far with this, I have to mention that I'm currently in finalizing my divorce with my ex of 15 years. I have court in 3 weeks and seriously hoping its finalized at that time.

And there it is lol. I'm not sure why but majority of women I talk with are going through some sort of thing with their ex. It was the same with this other woman back in Dec, when my phone was hacked. 

Not sure what attracts me to to these women, but geez.

Everyone has their baggage. Some more than others. Doesn't change anything between us.