max3732 Posted January 7, 2020 Posted January 7, 2020 Things have been going well with this woman I met recently but I'm not sure if I'm moving too fast or if I'm ignoring possible warning signs. The reason I'm concerned is that someone I really liked (and posted about before) that I'd gone out with several times broke up with me a couple days before I met her. The one who broke up with me had told me she wanted to see me again after we both got back from holiday travel and even sent me a picture of her and her friends. Then after I got back and asked her out again she told me she didn't think it would work. She was the first woman I'd kissed in nearly 10 years and we also cuddled a bit and I thought she was really pretty and I really liked her. So I felt really hurt not only that she broke up with me, but that she made me think we were still on for a few weeks and then broke up over text. A couple days later I met this new woman at a restaurant and we stayed talking for like 3 hours and then went out a couple more times. The last time we went out we had some more in depth conversations about relationships and everything and I took her hand and held it as we were talking and we kissed a few times. While I'd like to think I'm simply better at dating as I've gained experience I don't know if the fact that I was rebounding has possibly clouded my judgement. How can I tell if that's the case or this is really someone right for me? Something she does that I don't like is she sends me these texts with things like "how is your day going?" almost everyday. I like to use texting to just setup dates and feel a bit strange having long conversations with it and also explaining what I'm doing everyday. Maybe I can just tell her I'm not a big texter. Other than that I don't see any issues with her. It just seems weird I went from having the majority of my 1st dates going nowhere to having 2 women in a row go relatively well.
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted January 7, 2020 Posted January 7, 2020 (edited) You are experiencing what us men call Mojo. We get our Mojo going as men when we interact with women; your mojo is like a snowball going down hill, the more interactions you have, the more your mojo is going. If your mojo deaded for 10 years, you better keep that thing alive boy, get out there. Even when you are in a relationship, you have to maintain your mojo, because a man in mojo is inherently more attractive to women... Its like when your a dude in a bar and instead of a dude, a woman is your wingman, it just works and it makes you look better. A womans validation is one of the most important things socially, for a man, so i guess that is what Mojo is, just getting validated... Having women speak for you and say your a good guy. Mojo dont even need a close for it to get going, the close will happen naturally, just focus on starting the interaction in an effective way and let your mojo guide you. As per your question, do not put all your eggs in one basket, have options and these women will respect you... If you dont have options and become needy, this is a mojo killer, dont ever be needy, a man in mojo always has options, always.. Edited January 7, 2020 by CAPSLOCK BANDIT Addition
Author max3732 Posted January 7, 2020 Author Posted January 7, 2020 19 hours ago, CAPSLOCK BANDIT said: You are experiencing what us men call Mojo. We get our Mojo going as men when we interact with women; your mojo is like a snowball going down hill, the more interactions you have, the more your mojo is going. If your mojo deaded for 10 years, you better keep that thing alive boy, get out there. Even when you are in a relationship, you have to maintain your mojo, because a man in mojo is inherently more attractive to women... Its like when your a dude in a bar and instead of a dude, a woman is your wingman, it just works and it makes you look better. A womans validation is one of the most important things socially, for a man, so i guess that is what Mojo is, just getting validated... Having women speak for you and say your a good guy. Mojo dont even need a close for it to get going, the close will happen naturally, just focus on starting the interaction in an effective way and let your mojo guide you. As per your question, do not put all your eggs in one basket, have options and these women will respect you... If you dont have options and become needy, this is a mojo killer, dont ever be needy, a man in mojo always has options, always.. So it really is that I'm getting better at this? You're right that I feel a lot more confident knowing that few women have wanted to spend more than 1 or 2 dates with him and especially getting past that mental block of going so long without a single kiss. You don't think I could be too emotional after the breakup and am not seeing things straight with the new woman? For some reason I feel guilty about pursuing more than 1 woman at a time, but given what happened with the previous one I think you're right that I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket. It just feels weird to be out with someone one minute and then setting up a 1st date with another one the next.
introverted1 Posted January 7, 2020 Posted January 7, 2020 I think you're doing fine with the new woman, OP. It's also ok to tell her you're not a big texter. WRT mojo and eggs in one basket: what re you looking for with this woman? You don't have to be exclusive but keep in mind that goes both ways: if you are free to date others, then so is she. Many women won't want to have sex unless exclusivity is established, so that's something to consider, too.
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