dramallama Posted January 6, 2020 Posted January 6, 2020 I was with my husband for 13 years, and had pretty much back to back monogomous relationships from the age of 15 - I'll be 40 this year. I've had very little experience of 'dating' in my life except these last two years, when it's all apps and websites and no one approaches you in a bar till they've located you on an app / social media first. So I've found that an awful lot of the not-very-many guys I've given my number to and subsequently rejected, have popped back up months later to enquire as to my status and if I'd be interested in reconnecting... um what? Why? Even guys that never made it to a date will pop up and ask, and both chaps I saw on more than one occasion last year have been in touch in the last week - Happy New Year & are you seeing anyone? - pretty much. I don't tend to block people unless they seem creepy / agressive but I might have to be a little more block-happy in future I suppose. But what's the thinking behind it? Maybe she's a bit less picky now?! Do women do it too? 1 1
nospam99 Posted January 6, 2020 Posted January 6, 2020 I circle back, but usually only if it's an OLD contact where I was ignored rather than explicitly rejected . Yes, maybe she's a bit less picky now or ... maybe she's looking for something different. Maybe she's had a 'reality check' by discovering Chad isn't interested in the relationship she's interested in. I circled back today. She is one of several women who have been on OLD non-stop for the whole two years plus I've been there. She just updated her profile and it's been more than 20 months since she ignored my previous message. So I figure it merits 'taking another swing'. Probably like a lot of other guys, I still find it difficult to understand getting no response from women who have well-written essays in their profiles saying that they're 'looking for' exactly what I bring to the table: sincerity, commitment, and a healthy interest in sharing an active life with another person. 1
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