Girl I dated two years ago who broke things off added me on FB two weeks ago. Should I wish her happy birthday on her wall or avoid?

[Miss Spider]

You’re just overthinking things. We all do it from time to time. I feel like maybe you should delete her. If only for yourself. It wasn’t a match and that’s ok. She ain’t sht...

[amazonrambo]

8 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

You’re just overthinking things. We all do it from time to time. I feel like maybe you should delete her. If only for yourself. It wasn’t a match and that’s ok. She ain’t sht...

I overthink everything, I know I’m going to do the same if I delete her but I’ll just take a long break from social media again and not make any rash decisions and see how I feel in a few weeks.

 

I think people are right that she just added me for the numbers, as if I was in her shoes truly wanting to connect with someone then I’d also message the person. I’ll probably remove her when I’m back on down the line if she hasn’t messaged, etc. I need to keep the past in the past and look forward to the future.

 

Thanks for your advice everyone

Edited January 9, 2020 by amazonrambo

[LivingWaterPlease]

There's no way to know why she added you.

To me, everything on FB is casual and most things on FB mean little to me.  I "Happy Birthday" people I barely know on FB just to make them have more birthday wishes. I don't expect folks to take note of my little "Happy Birthday" message.  And I don't recall most of who "Happy Birthdays" me.

If a person means anything at all to me I write something more than just plain "Happy Birthday" as a greeting.  To me, plain ole "Happy Birthday" on FB is kind of vanilla. I wouldn't think a thing about it if an old flame wrote it on my page for my birthday.

I also think her adding you on FB means very little and that you accepting her means very little.  

 

[hercules22]

if her presence on your social media affects you and you start doing things in hopes that she watching you it will just affect your mental health. i dont think it means anything if she did want to reconnect she would say something to you herself or you could risk by asking her what her intentions are if you are somehow hoping to maybe try again? she already knows you both previously dated i doubt someone would forget someone if they went on 4 dates .

 

[amazonrambo]

3 hours ago, hercules22 said:

if her presence on your social media affects you and you start doing things in hopes that she watching you it will just affect your mental health. i dont think it means anything if she did want to reconnect she would say something to you herself or you could risk by asking her what her intentions are if you are somehow hoping to maybe try again? she already knows you both previously dated i doubt someone would forget someone if they went on 4 dates .

 

I think it’s more “what could’ve been” and her adding me on FB confused me a little but i’ll get over it seeing as it meant nothing. I don’t use FB much to worry about her being on there which is why I accepted the request, but I also don’t want to get into a relationship for the sake of it or do things just so she can see that, like you said, I need to get that out of my head. When I do get back into dating after a long hiatus, I’ll be picky and make sure it’s someone I truly like and that they like me. If anything, I’d rather keep my private life off facebook! I don’t post photos or much of anything now

Edited January 9, 2020 by amazonrambo