Oilfield9272 Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 (edited) My ex and I have been broken up for over 3 years. In that time we have built a friendship again and we are like best friends. I travel for work all year and am rarely home but I was home for a week for Christmas and hung out with her quite a bit and we even went to the casino one night and had drinks and lots of fun. I can say that was the happiest I’ve seen her in awhile. The next day told me thank you so much for a fun night out then said she misses us. She has sent me snapchats here and there before bed of her in a tshirt and just her underwear in the mirror. And the other day she sent me one of her in the shower with her arm covering her boobs. I really would like to give us another try because I have always loved her and I really think she still loves me. But she is getting married to the father of her kids although I don’t think she really loves him. What do I do? Edited January 5, 2020 by Oilfield9272
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 RUN! She's marrying the father of her children but going on a date with you & sending you racy pictures? This girl is a mess. Stay away. 2
Piddy Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 Wait, when did she have the kids? OK, I assume she already had the kids in the first go around with you. This is her problem. I'd stay clear. Move on. End the friendship. Nothing good can come if this.
Beachead Posted January 6, 2020 Posted January 6, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, Oilfield9272 said: My ex and I have been broken up for over 3 years. In that time we have built a friendship again and we are like best friends. I travel for work all year and am rarely home but I was home for a week for Christmas and hung out with her quite a bit and we even went to the casino one night and had drinks and lots of fun. I can say that was the happiest I’ve seen her in awhile. The next day told me thank you so much for a fun night out then said she misses us. She has sent me snapchats here and there before bed of her in a tshirt and just her underwear in the mirror. And the other day she sent me one of her in the shower with her arm covering her boobs. I really would like to give us another try because I have always loved her and I really think she still loves me. But she is getting married to the father of her kids although I don’t think she really loves him. What do I do? I would think twice about what you're getting into because you are playing with fire here. For one, you are twisting what is going on here into what you think is a friendship. This is not a friendship and you two are not friends. You're lying to yourself and so is she. If you were a friend, you'd respect the fact that she's getting married. If she was a friend, she would not send you photos like that. She wouldn't put you in a position like that. There has been a massive blurring of boundaries which has complicated matters and has resulted in your confusion. What do you hope to achieve? Do you want to get back together with her? If so, think about the conditions that you two will reconcile on: She's emotionally cheating behind her fiancee's back, with you. If she leaves him for you, do you ever think you can fully trust her knowing what she was doing with you, before she chose to leave him? Who's to say she won't do the same to you? Furthermore, what about her kids? She seems to be okay risking her relationship and putting them through potential problems in the future. I think she knows you want her, she enjoys the attention. She's using you for it, because she's likely unhappy with her fiancee..but I don't think she plans to leave him. There is something he provides which she values, such that she has considered marrying him. I just don't know what that is. In any case, I think she'll "come to her senses" and hit the breaks with you, eventually marrying her fiancee anyway and leaving you out to dry. Ex or not..this woman is proving she's not good relationship material. Be real careful. Edited January 6, 2020 by Beachead
JTSW Posted January 6, 2020 Posted January 6, 2020 13 hours ago, Oilfield9272 said: I really would like to give us another try because I have always loved her and I really think she still loves me. But she is getting married to the father of her kids although I don’t think she really loves him. What do I do? You're HOPING she still loves you but she doesn't. She just enjoys the attention from you. You're HOPING she doesn't really love him, but she does. She wouldn't have had kids and be marrying him if she didn't love him. Take a step back and don't be the one that breaks up a family. You have no place with her or her family. Stop contacting her so much because its confusing the both of you. Let her get on with her life and you get on with yours. 1
PinkFlamingo Posted January 7, 2020 Posted January 7, 2020 The picture in her underwear wasn't so great, but when I read about the shower picture, I imagined her to be the kind of person who randomly sleeps with every Tom, Dick and Harry. She sounds like a total mess. That's the kind of person who will only drag you into drama, drama, drama.
stillafool Posted January 7, 2020 Posted January 7, 2020 Stay away from this mess. I feel sorry for her fiancee and kids. 1
Juha Posted January 8, 2020 Posted January 8, 2020 I would suggest you use your time to find women you can actually date. If she wanted to be with you, she would. You are obviously a distraction from who she is marrying. She does not want to be with you, if she did, she would and not marry him. For whatever reasons she is marrying him means she does not want you. Stop wasting your time with her.
Mrin Posted January 8, 2020 Posted January 8, 2020 Man just think how that could have been you that she was marrying... Then you could be the lucky guy... Who has a fiancee that is sending nudes to other men. 2
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