A Hopeless romantic Posted January 4, 2020 Posted January 4, 2020 Okay, long story short, I have a best friend who she had a guy best friend that she's known her whole life, and her guy best friend confess his feelings for her and she rejected them and said she didn't feel the same way. And her guy best friend and her self have been having issues and my best friend wants nothing to do with her guy best friend now. And then I come along, and about 3 months ago I found out my best friend's Ex guy best friend had a crush on me, and we've been talking for awhile and then recently we started calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, we haven't gone out on a date (yet) but we both felt like we both didn't want one or the other to see anyone else. And my boyfriend and I would have late night talks, they were pretty sexy. And then it was the day before New Years Eve, I've asked him if he was going to try anything at my party that I was having on New Years Eve, and he says "But your best friend is going to be there" And I said "Yeah..are you scared of her or something?" And he replies, " No, I'm not scared of her, but if we were to do something she may have to leave the room or join us" And as I read that text message I was like what the-? And Let me remind you, he says he thinks of my best friend as a sister. Anyways continuing on.. And then I texted, " Join us..?" And he replies, " You probably never watched porn but a threesome includes 2 girls and 1 guy" And in my head I was like what the absolute heck?! And I texted, " First off, you said you thought of my best friend as a sister! and second, she would never do that and neither would I" And he responds, " Exactly, so I won't try anything unless you do, and I know your best friend doesn't think of me in that way and I know you 2 wouldn't enjoy it" So there was THAT situation, and I've asked a couple days ago of what he thought of my group of friends, and when he mentioned my best friend, he called her cute, like her personality is cute.. Should I be worried about that..? And in the past he said he didn't have any pics of me but on snap chat he sends in a photo of me from my birthday party and I'm looking ahead and my best friend was next to me and she was looking away. And he says, "Look turns out I do have a photo of you" And I was being insecure and messing around with him and I said, "Ew who is she?" And by she, I meant me. But what he replies with is, "Haha.. Yeah..yeah.. now don't be dissing my best friend now" And I was like, "My best friend? I wasn't talking about her.. I meant me" And All of these incidents that have happened and all of my thoughts have been getting to me and now I'm thinking.. does he like his old crush still? His old crush (aka my best friend, and who used to be my boyfriends best friend) I don't know if he actually likes me or saw me as a second choice ever since he got rejected by my best friend... I need help and some advice!
Daisydooks Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 Yes. He does. Sorry, hun. He isnt even hiding it either which is both alarming and horribly stupid if he values you at all. It sounds like he is using you to get to her. At best he is just ignorant and inconsiderate, but yes, it sounds like he still has feelings for her, still thinks she is cute/attractive and still thinks about her. Not sure why he thinks its safe to mention it to you. What is your reaction when he said she is cute? Normally if I asked my fiance if someone is cute/attractive, he would be honest with me, but given the context and their past, I cant for one second believe he doesnt want to be with her still. It's obvious he does. I would say you should dump him. Then you and your friend just live your lives without this dink around and be best friends still. This guy is a clown. He is way too comfortable being a pig and disgusting jerk. Yuck.
VIOLET EDEN Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 The threesome part is where it got weird, you are right in that no one thinks of someone they see as a sister as potential 3 some. I agree with Daisydook’s assessment , dump him, it looks like you were his backup plan. Sorry to be blunt and harsh, but you should get out before you fall hard for him
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