cherrie498 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 EVERYONE IN NC I feel like we need to move to "COPING" We need to move on!!!!!!! We have been in NC for 3 days!!! NOT A LONG TIME!!! Reality is we have been here for a long time (I KNOW I am fed up!!!!) I need to hear what GOOD is happening to those who started with me, I want to know that WHOEVER had a GREAT weekend!!! I want to move PAST this not just dwell in it... SO COME ON GOOD STORIES ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING... LETS REALLY GET PAST THESE MEN!!!!
Author cherrie498 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 WOW that text is bigger than I thought it would be!!! lol
legrtova Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 I have entered day 4 of NC few hours ago. Today was the 1st GOOD day I have had since we broke it off. I went for a road trip during the weekend, and it helped a great deal. I caught my self thinking more of my family back home in Europe then my EX. I can only say that with more time passing without any contact with him, I can see more clearly that it is NOT GOING TO CHANGE...or that he is not going to change. They are full of sweet words, but too weak to leave the comfort and safety they have at home. I look at it this way.... I have a chance in life, but he will be misserable for as long as his marriage lasts. His wife will throw our affair in his face every time they argue....which is ALL THE DAMN TIME! I win! I got the best of him and I get to keep the memories and move on! Hope it gets better for you...we all are on a rollercoaster right now...we have good days, and then we have REALLY BAD days. Best wishes L.
foolinlove Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Well you wanted to hear good things...... Well this weekend..was beautiful out..I planted a bunch of trees to block out my d*ckhead neighbor..but thats another story.... I wasn't feeling very well for I was anxious over the NC....so weekend kinda sucked... I joined a recreational volleyball league with some other people I know.. (co-ed) and was hit on by a guy a use to have a HUGE crush on. He was seeing someone during that time...so I didn't pursue things...now he is single....asked me to hang out sometime...I told him I'd need a little time..and i'll call him.... xMM called yesterday..not sure if that is good..but i was glad to hear him miserable....gave me the same old BS...I told him I gotta see it to believe it buddy...that felt good I'm going to start a work out program this week...2 weeks weights and 3 days arobics....that will help my attitude..look good and feel good Feeling generally anxious on Day 4....but overall...proud of myself. Good job everyone...Hey what happend to Lynnered..haven't seen her around in a few day....????
JS17 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 I've been in NC for about 7 1/2 months or so. If I can do it, any of you can do it. You'll all be fine. Here's a bunny hug for everyone *hug*
lynnered Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Hi! congrats on NC! When did U start feeling"like U " again? DId he try to contact U? Im not doing well guys i just wanted U to know im still NC just down ,mourning again:o but its ok just a setback Havent felt much like posting but still in!!! And Cherrie we have to stay here so OW will find us & jump on board!! I hope everyone is doing well whjen i feel up to it i do want to reply to everyone
JS17 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Hi! congrats on NC! When did U start feeling"like U " again? DId he try to contact U? Im not doing well guys i just wanted U to know im still NC just down ,mourning again:o but its ok just a setback Havent felt much like posting but still in!!! When did I start feeling like myself again? I still don't. I'm a changed woman after what I've been through. Everyone grows from these experiences. Did he try to contact me? Well we broke up 9 months ago, we let the breakup get really messy and there was contact for a short time after the breakup. But he left me for someone else so since the messiness ended, no he has not tried to contact me in any way.
lynnered Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 The longest ive done NC with him is 90some days & there were visits & face to face talks 3 or 4,no phone calls or IMS,i wasnt being intimate with him ,this was last year june -sept then i let him break me down gave him 1 more year to leave. This whole situation has changed me ,i guess to come out a stronger changed woman is not so bad:D Its just geting to that point . I know i wont see him face to face ,cause he was such a mean A$$ last time & i cried so much . He wont call cause i cant have his celluntil hes "totally out". Just the Im is my only weakness,I sign on invisable & see hes still logging in makes me sad,cause im the only one he types,but thatll fade again soon . I just think of the 3 weeks he didnt sign in ignoring me:mad: we will all get through this ! thanks JS17 for the hope;)
Author cherrie498 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 foolinlove I am so proud of you! You are getting out there & sounds like you are being so productive!!! thats AWESOME!!!! JS17, he left you for someone else?!?! Is he M? Did he leave you to stay w/W or start a new A?!?! Sorry I may have missed your org post Lynne...YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!!!! "When did I start feeling like myself again? I still don't. I'm a changed woman after what I've been through. Everyone grows from these experiences." Forgetting him is prob IMPOSSIBLE!!!! Moving PAST him is not. He is part of you now (let that part be a memory!!!) & will help you move on to being a stronger person that now knows a little better what is wanted & DESERVED out of live!!! sorry in a rush....will post later!!!
lynnered Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 yes ,just going through some moments today:( it will be ok just not right now:rolleyes: Newbby has been really helpful today:love:
JS17 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 JS17, he left you for someone else?!?! Is he M? Did he leave you to stay w/W or start a new A?!?! Sorry I may have missed your org post Neither of us were married. I don't even care anymore. He saved me from having to spend the rest of my life with him which would have been a fate worse than death:D
legrtova Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Yeah, so I am back to day 1...resp. 2 hours into it. Feel like s*** Thank goodness for my willing friends, they have been taking care of me... How do you guys cope? How do I know what stage I'm in? I feel like I go through a different stage every 10 minutes. Thanks guys for your support L
Art_Critic Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Yeah, so I am back to day 1...resp. 2 hours into it. Feel like s*** Thank goodness for my willing friends, they have been taking care of me... How do you guys cope? How do I know what stage I'm in? I feel like I go through a different stage every 10 minutes. Thanks guys for your support L Just try and remember that until he gives you the things that you require to be happy that you won't settle for less.. And try and remind yourself this all the time and it should help the time pass with NC
newbby Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 js17 thats great! i am looking forward to it! lynnered, thankyou! you have been a diamond yourself! everyone, its true, you are better than this, and must refuse to settle for less than you deserve. the only way to get the best, is to demand the best.
newbby Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 legrtova, about the stages, i think there will always be a combination of lots of them, but one is usually more dominant than the others. i am definetly in stage 5-ANGER at the moment. am thoroughly looking forward to stages 6 and 7! i think it is harder for you guys as you know they are still trying to be with you and want you. i think this is why i went through my destructive moment before nc. i have been in nc when i knew he was still interested before and it is hard. dont go back though, it is only more pain, more of the same.
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