Steven199 Posted January 2, 2020 Posted January 2, 2020 Hi. I’m 26. Seeing a woman who’s 31 and has 6 kids so things are always difficult. We have been in a relationship for about 3 months. Yesterday she said she needed space and time to clear her head as sue thought she was ready to move on but now she’s not sure. she broke up with her ex who she had been with for 6 years the previous Christmas but he did not move out from her house until around June. She’s said things with us have happened quick and while she really likes me and enjoys spending time with me she doesn’t know if she’s ready. She has said she’s not ending it 100% just that she’s unsure. I’m just not sure where I stand. Said she can have a week to clear her head hope I’ve done the right thing.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 2, 2020 Posted January 2, 2020 3 minutes ago, Steven199 said: Hi. I’m 26. Seeing a woman who’s 31 and has 6 kids I think you should be the one clearing your head.....you are only 26! Do you LOVE kids in general? 3 1
kendahke Posted January 2, 2020 Posted January 2, 2020 1 hour ago, Steven199 said: Seeing a woman who’s 31 and has 6 kids All from the same man? She have twins/triplets in that mix or is she just that fecund? She doesn't have time for dating--she's got 6 children she needs to be rearing. At best, you are 8 on her priority list behind those children and their father. 1
JTSW Posted January 3, 2020 Posted January 3, 2020 13 hours ago, Steven199 said: She’s said things with us have happened quick and while she really likes me and enjoys spending time with me she doesn’t know if she’s ready. She has said she’s not ending it 100% just that she’s unsure. 'Needing time to think' is never a good thing. That is just a kind way of breaking up. You should just move on. 1
notbroken Posted January 3, 2020 Posted January 3, 2020 Hard next. She wants to 'clear her head'. You need to clear yours too - right on to the next girl without so much baggage for you to help carry too.
ThorntonMelon Posted January 3, 2020 Posted January 3, 2020 This story always ends the same way. Take care of you, we will be here for you, post as you go through the recovery. You're obviously very loving if willing to take on that amount of responsibility and will find someone more deserving.
Lotsgoingon Posted January 4, 2020 Posted January 4, 2020 "Clear my head" = figure out how to say I don't want to date you.
Author Steven199 Posted January 4, 2020 Author Posted January 4, 2020 Hi. So she said she needed time to think for a week. About to go for a night out with my mates and want to know what to tell them. we are going to meet up next Friday to talk about what’s happening with us. But I wanted to know how I’d describe this to my mates. cheers in advance.
FMW Posted January 4, 2020 Posted January 4, 2020 Why do you have to tell them anything? Do they normally ask about her when you go out? It's your business, you only have to share with them what you choose. 1
Mrin Posted January 4, 2020 Posted January 4, 2020 5 minutes ago, Finding my way said: Why do you have to tell them anything? Do they normally ask about her when you go out? It's your business, you only have to share with them what you choose. This. Or you're on a break.
Daisydooks Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 I'm going to be super honest as a woman in hopes of helping, knowing it may seem harsh. Honest answers are best even when they friggin suck. As a woman, I have never once said this and wanted to work on things. When I have been on a "break" it has meant the guy wanted to end it with me, but kept me hanging around while he figured out how he felt about someone else. When I have said this, I wanted to be left alone to be honest. It's harsh but true. Just give her a call and end it. Do yourself a solid.
Daisydooks Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 7 hours ago, Steven199 said: We are going to meet up next Friday to talk about what’s happening with us. But I wanted to know how I’d describe this to my mates. cheers in advance. Leave out the details with your friends until you speak to her and know what's even happening yourself. Right now you dont even know what's happening. If they ask, say she is doing well.
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2020 Posted January 5, 2020 6 kids?! That alone would make me run. You are the rebound / transition guy as she's getting over the baby daddy. She tried getting under you to get over him. It didn't work so now she wants you gone. Just go & don't look back.
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