brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Hey every one i think its great that their to be a site, where people help cope with what their going through, and to share their expeirences. This site was'nt hard to find, since i am going through a very difficult time my self. I would like to meet some friends to talk to on here and would appreciate advice.( even though ive gotten all the advice i need) I just got out of a 3 year relationship...and it ended pretty bad. Even though i was the one who initiated the break up.. i didnt expect for the results to be this bad:( I said some very hurtful, cruel , pride degrading things..and a week later he started going out with some one else( who has been wanting to get with him so long but he has always turned her down because he loves me).. i understand the consequences , and i except what happend. This relationship of mine was like no other, to where when we had gotten in fights he would break my stuff. and theres alot more where that came from. i know in my heart i love him, but he is not right for me...and it hurts for him to ingore me like this. I know he loves me but this is really really hard. I hate this girl for going behind my back and pretending to be friends with me when all she really wanted was my bf. I know time will tie together what is ment to be and she is a little jealous sneaky whore. but ne who, i would love to talk to some people who can empthasize what im going through. thank you:)
Art_Critic Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Welcome Brittany.. Pull up a chair and sit back.. Everybody around here is pretty cool.. I'm sorry about your breakup.. Guy sounds like he has a violence/anger issue. Breaking up from someone like that can hurt like a mother.. Don't let him shift the blame for his anger towards you .. Keep posting ...
brittanyjean06 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Yeah break ups are terrible, especially if they took the easy way out hopefulyy if i do good things, well good things will happen to me.. when something like this happens i know i have support, but at times when i have bad days i feel against everyone ...i dont know....... is it normal for things to seem eerryy for little bit after a break up?
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 thanks!... is it normal to feel werid after a break up that ment so much to you, like kind of an eerry empty feeling? unbearable at times.. makes you feel like you will never get over it i havent talked to him. i tried that a month ago, doesnt work hes just to stubborn and could care less about how i feel...
Firehawk Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 thanks!... is it normal to feel werid after a break up that ment so much to you, like kind of an eerry empty feeling? unbearable at times.. makes you feel like you will never get over it i havent talked to him. i tried that a month ago, doesnt work hes just to stubborn and could care less about how i feel... Wow, three years... I'm new here too and I had a relationship that ended in just under three years myself... I've actually been out of that relationship for just under two years now and have done more dating than I've ever done in my life in the last two years, but I recently had to go NC with my ex because I just couldn't stand having the same types of arguments with her after two years apart... I can definately understand the other person not caring about how you feel- I think everyone feels that way when someone they love walks away... But like you said, you knew you were better off without him... It took me a while but I realized that myself... After all, how stable can someone be when they leave you for a married man with four kids who is more than twice their age?
Skeered Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Welcome Brittany and Firehawk.. Brittany - yes those feelings are quite normal and the loss you are feeling is that normalcy of having someone there in your life for that long. Doesn't mean you didn't make the right choice just means you have to adjust to your new life. Find someone who can love and cherish you, but take your time as to not rebound. This place has helped me alot, enjoy.
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 thanks Firehawk..and S-! i had walked away, but came back but it was too late. and deep down inside i know im better off( was a very unhealthy relationship) im very young so of course i thought he was the one. i guess its normal to be very embarsessed about this, and having to face comments or even see one of his friends. i know what is to come in the next months and im afraid to go through it. Being here makes me feel like safe though, talking here it does help so much im sorry about your wife..i think sometimes fate was ment for them to leave because you could have been better off( thats if she was not a good wife)...and maybe better will find you.. i feel like im the only one. but im not. so thanks i always roam through here always ready to read and help to:)
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 i have read many posts where i people have used "nc"...what does that meen ?
Firehawk Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 i have read many posts where i people have used "nc"...what does that meen ? No Contact or No Connection... Basically just ignoring the person you were involved with- no phone calls, no IM, no eMail, not meeting them for drinks/dinners, things like that... At least not initiating any of those things... I don't know how many people handle it when they're contacted... I've just been lurking for a few days and already I've seen so many examples of people breaking their NC... I guess it can be easier said than done... How old are you?
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 17 you could tell couldent you
Firehawk Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Honestly I couldn't... I don't know many 14/15 year olds who have 3+ year relationships! That's almost through all of HS! I think I know one person who had a relationship like that and it was 16-19! I have a strict rule now about dating 17-21 year olds... Well, I did anyway- I'm 26 now and don't usually go backwards by more than 4 years, but right after a breakup with an ex who was in that age range I said no more 17-21 year olds- they're too flighty! But in your case you were committed? Egad woman!
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 yeah! is that too young to be committed to some one. Even if we stayed together couldent there have been a chance id change in my 20's yep since 9th grade, the only way of gettin through is by looking at all the bad...but its still traumatizing how could this effect my future relationships? and time is essence right? Well thanks for responding again!
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 every one seems to have some sort of picture off to the side? how can i upload my picture on their?
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 just to let every one know i happen to see my ex at a stop light and looked over all happy and said heyyyyyy and he just smiled made my night...not bc i saw him...but i showed him the better part of me:) congrats to me!!
Firehawk Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 just to let every one know i happen to see my ex at a stop light and looked over all happy and said heyyyyyy and he just smiled made my night...not bc i saw him...but i showed him the better part of me:) congrats to me!! LOL gotta love the small victories, huh? Next time you see him you have to be happy and smiling with another guy cruising with you- just to make him feel the tiniest bit of jealousy... 'course I won't be in NC anytime soon, so I'm out... But don't fret...
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 i know, that would have been even better yeah he would be jealous...he didnt leave me for this girl...but whatever i think seeing him just makes me think about him more..hopefulyy its the same for him haha man wish he didnt live so close but than again maybe thats a good thing when it comes to gettin revenge JUST kidding
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