Caauug Posted January 18, 2020 Posted January 18, 2020 3 hours ago, redhern said: As for the relationship, she has continued to be extremely distant, only talking to me minimally. I’ve considered putting a GPS tracker on her car since they’re relatively cheap. I kinda want to know for sure that this affair is going on. If I have confirmation that the affair is happening I don’t think MC will work. However, if she’s just checked-out for other reasons I think MC could work. I know she won’t admit to an affair so I can’t just be blunt and ask her. Redhern, are you serious? She is showing you by her actions she DOES NOT WANT YOU!!!! She is only using you for a meal ticket and a roof over her head. She has disrespected you and tossed the relationship out, you are about the same as the dog $h1t stuck on the bottom of her shoe.... She just wants the most she can get out of you now (to recuperate for her lost time spent with you). Please wake up and see her for who she really is. You still think about the Disney movies and love, that is not the way she loves and never was. That will never work for her, thousands of years of evolution has her loving in a totally different way. It's time to play her like she has been playing you, be smart about it. Protect yourself as much as possible, you are getting more money soon make things happen so that does not come into play. You are being used only for conveyance. She lost respect for you on her last affair when it was just swept away. It is now time to stand up and ditch that b!tch. You might get a little respect back if you show you have a backbone.
schlumpy Posted January 18, 2020 Posted January 18, 2020 I wouldn't bother to gather any more information on her affair unless you want some kind of revenge and it doesn't sound as if you do. Her silence on this matter is all the proof you need as well as her nonobjection to a divorce. She has to know that's on the table. Feel as sad as you want. It's nothing to feel happy about.
Dimjo9 Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Ho Redhern, Your marriage is already doom from the start.. i always say Cheaters are like liars & thieves, they manipulate & thrive on their spouses miseries. She is a serial cheater with skills almost perfected & seasoned by time.. they are good at hiding dirty secrets, apart from this your wife knows your emotional weaknesses. You seems to be well educated & going back to the academe is good move (Kaizen).. If you choose to stay with her, then accept that for life you have to share her to who knows how many OM ?? Or you can design the life that you want without emotional pain, suffering or stress because you are finally free of her tentacles. Telling the OM wife is a duty as both of you are BS, make sure you have hard evidence to support the accusations. Alimony is part of divorce proceedings, consult a Divorce lawyer to widen your horizon. 1. Ask lawyer what are your options? Like if u quit your job & apply for PR status in Canada are you still mandated to pay ? 2. Your mistake was you didn’t let her sign pre nuptial agreement.. But since you have kids child support will be your responsibility. 3. Or go for full custody, tell your kids their mother cheated & continue to do so.. they are almost adult & i bet they will choose to stay with you. The leverage that you have is INFORMATION OF THE AFFAIR.. Inform all family members from both sides to have a core group.. YOU CAN ALSO USE THIS AS AN ADVANTAGE..
Buffer Posted February 2, 2020 Posted February 2, 2020 Get a P.I. onto her. Tell your son to stop being disrespectful! Do the 180 now. Move on. Buffer
pepperbird Posted February 3, 2020 Posted February 3, 2020 I don't think her cheating is your fault in any way, shape or form. Lots of people go through tough tomes in their marriage- but they don't chest.
usa1ah Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 Ask your daughter who she wants to live with. Tell her if it is you that you will fight for her to stay with you. See what she is wanting.
crederer Posted February 8, 2020 Posted February 8, 2020 Her choosing to sleep in a different room has nothing to do with your son. She has emotionally checked out and feels she's cheating on her new lover with you and used it as an excuse to alleviate herself of the guilt of cheating on her lover. I would take the advice of others in regards to getting out the best way possible financially and with the kids as 5050 custody
Fletch Lives Posted February 8, 2020 Posted February 8, 2020 Well, she cheated 8 years ago and you went to counseling...........she's cheating again and/or still cheating........I think you've done what you could do and the writing is on the wall. I mean the only way to fix it would be counseling again.... maybe with a better counselor, obviously not the last one, because this is still broken. There are two main reasons people cheat: Revenge, or lack of integrity. If your wife lacks integrity, that probably can't be changed. If it's a revenge cheat, it means her love level has dropped or she has fallen out of love completely. If she still loves you a little, the love might be built back up by fixing yourself.....it looks like the original counselor was trying to make this happen....women do like domestic support, it's part of romance. You would have to find where else you messed up........probably in one or more of these areas: romance, respect, trust, or affection. If she's fallen out of love, it's probably too late and can't be rekindled. I'd say this is probably where you are, since she's sleeping in another room.
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